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Where Are You Spending Your Energy?

I read in an O magazine article recently about a woman who refused to feel sorry for herself. Why? Despite a row of bad luck and horrible circumstances, she’s come to the realization that self-pity doesn’t do anyone any good. In fact, she said, it steals away your power.

That doesn’t mean we all miraculously feel grateful or positive immediately following trauma or difficulty. In fact, it’s quite normal to feel sorry for yourself or to grieve after something bad has happened. It’s in our nature to want things to work out, to be happy, to be free of illness. However, since life doesn’t always turn out the way we want it to, developing external and internal strengths are vital to our health and well-being.

This week you’ll learn it doesn’t take much to change our situation for the better. Whether it’s gardening or practicing mindfulness, these posts teach us how to grow resilience and heal ourselves. It’s all about empowering yourself.

If you need direction on how to get along with your co-workers better or to be more self-compassionate, for example, the key isn’t to focus on what’s not working, but to spend your energy on what you can do to change your situation. You’ll find that with practice, something you once thought of as misfortune or bad luck was the turning point toward self-healing and empowerment.

{Flickr photo by @Doug88888}

Gardening’s Unique Potential for Healing Trauma
(Healing Together for Couples) – Can the key to reducing stress and minimizing the negative effects of trauma be right outside your front door? Learn how and why this age-old tradition has the potential to heal and restore.

Building Resiliency
(The Emotionally Sensitive Person) – Having the ability to bounce back from stress and adversity will give you the strength you need to overcome life’s obstacles. But what if you’re an emotionally sensitive person? Read what you can do to develop your resiliency skills especially if you’re sensitive to stress.

How to Successfully Manage Office Politics
(The Psychology of Success in Business) – Conflicts at work can make your life miserable. Here are a few recommendations from an expert on how to navigate that potential minefield more effectively.

5 Self-Sabotaging Thoughts About Self-Compassion
(Weightless) – If you’ve tried to be more self-compassionate, but keep getting in your own way, these tips to attack five common self-sabotaging thoughts should help.

The Dyslexic and Creative Mind – Part 2
(The Creative Mind) – Instead of seeing dyslexia purely as cognitive dysfunction, this post describes its potential advantages and benefits.



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    Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 24 Jun 2013
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APA Reference
Uyemura, B. (2013). Best of Our Blogs: June 25, 2013. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 3, 2015, from


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