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Living with Regret

You’re probably able to let go of a bad day in the morning and an argument with a friend in a few day’s time. But the decisions you made that just didn’t work out, those could potentially negatively direct your life.

Because we seldom have control over what happens in our life, the desire to make the “right” decisions feel like a heavy weight on our shoulders. We can’t get away from them. And we can harbor guilt from as insignificant a problem as choosing the wrong paint color to partnering with an ill-fitted mate.

The hardest yet best way to deal with the decisions we wish we could undo is to learn to forgive ourselves. We do this by realizing that we don’t have a crystal ball to know what is the right thing to do in any moment. We do our best. Part of our growth and healing involves learning to move on by accepting what is and finding the lessons in the mistakes we’ve made. It’s also about changing our focus from what’s not working to what is working.

To make peace with whatever you’re regretting, scroll down to read our top posts this week. You’ll discover tips for savoring your life regardless of what you’re going through (chronic pain, difficult relationships, stressed and coping with mental illness) and learn new ways of understanding yourself. It might just change your perspective on things. And what you once deemed a bad decision, may turn into the best decision you ever made.

{Flickr photo by Hammonton Photography}

Why Pain Affects the Perception of our Future
(Living With Chronic Pain) – Is chronic pain clouding your vision for a hopeful future? You’re not alone. Read how this blogger attempts to make peace with her present and future when filled with the day-to-day realities of chronic pain.

This Weekend Create A To-Notice List
(Weightless) – Switch out your routine to-do list for a to-notice list and watch your life open up. Need help on how to get started savoring the small things? Go here for sweet inspiration.

9 Steps to a Happy Marriage
(Relationships in Balance) – Happy partnerships take work and tending to. If you’re in need a relationship refresher, check out these nine tips to better your marriage right now.

NIMH’s Thomas Insel on a New Understanding of the Brain
(Channel N) – Watch this TED video to learn about the most recent news concerning the relationship between physical and mental illness. Most notable is hearing the Director of the National Institute for Mental Health’s take on reframing mental illness as a brain disorder.

Eric Maisel on Dealing With Stress To Be More Creative
(The Creative Mind) – Got stress? Stress can exacerbate the creative life. But here’s one way of dealing with it that takes a simple change in perspective.

 


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    Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 20 May 2013
    Published on PsychCentral.com. All rights reserved.

APA Reference
Uyemura, B. (2013). Best of Our Blogs: May 21, 2013. Psych Central. Retrieved on October 21, 2014, from http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2013/05/21/best-of-our-blogs-may-21-2013/

 

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