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It’s very easy to fall prey to blame and victimhood. Why? There may be adequate reason to feel justified in complaining and being negative in your life. Maybe things just aren’t going right. Your kids are driving you crazy. You got a divorce or undergoing recovery. You’re in physical pain constantly. You’re just extremely overwhelmed by everything on your plate.

What feels right, a letting off of steam and an emotional release from venting over time becomes habitual. Now moments that could be spent improving your life are spent complaining about it. Instead of drawing the loving, positive, support you need, you’re building upon negative, hurtful ones. But once that negative and blame cycle gets going, how do you get it to stop?

“Negative emotions are like unwelcome guests. Just because they show up on our doorsteps doesn’t mean they have a right to stay.” – Deepak Chopra

It starts by taking personal responsibility for what you’re feeling and making the necessary changes to create more positive, healthy moments in your life. As you’ll read below, this might consist of taking 15 minutes out of your day to do something for yourself or it could mean getting practical tips for handling everything from recovery to mindful parenting. They key is to focus on what you can do in the present moment to start living your life with greater positivity, less blaming and more hope. These posts should help you do that.

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Taking A Personal Time-Out
(Lessons From the Couch) – Feeling overwhelmed and stressed out? You might thing you’re too busy to take time for yourself. But having a more balanced life requires it. Use this as reason and motivation to prioritize self-care in your busy life.

Helping Children After Divorce
(Family Mental Health) – If you’re wondering how best to handle your divorce when children are involved, read this. You’ll learn the top three factors that impact your children’s well-being with tips on what you can do now to prevent potential problems in their future.

A Truth, a Tip, and a Find: Mindful Parenting and Kindness
(Mindful Parenting) – Parenting is one of the toughest jobs in the world. This brief post takes a look at three ways mindfulness can help.

Listening is an Act of Love: 5 Ways it Works in Your Recovery
(The Impact of Sex Addiction) – One area all addicts need to sharpen is their listening skills. Learn why listening is like love, what recovery skills are involved in listening and how listening can become a spiritual practice.

Focusing on the Positive and Learning to Accept Compliments
(Living With Chronic Pain) – It’s almost too easy to focus on what’s not going on in your life versus feeling gratitude for what is. As this blogger shows us, the shift is a difficult, but a mandatory one whether you’re coping with chronic pain or any of life’s obstacles.



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    Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 15 Apr 2013
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APA Reference
Uyemura, B. (2013). Best of Our Blogs: April 16, 2013. Psych Central. Retrieved on January 26, 2015, from


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