3 Levels of Fun: Challenging, Accommodating & RelaxingWe spend a huge amount of time with TV. Watching TV is probably the world’s most popular pastime and is the greatest use of our time after accounting for sleep and work.

In the United States alone, people spend more than four hours a day watching TV.

Watching great television can be an enormous source of pleasure. Channel surfing, however, becomes a default activity that doesn’t add a lot to our happiness — yet we persist in watching.

So how does TV fit into happiness?

To answer that question, I had to break “fun” into three types…

Challenging fun is the most rewarding, and the most demanding.

Learning to play golf is challenging fun. First you have to learn the equipment, the rules, the vocabulary, the motions. You’re frustrated. You have to do some errands. It takes a lot of time to get any kind of mastery. But slowly it becomes more fun. You’re outside, you’re with friends, you’re gaining mastery, you’re visiting new places—that’s fun! Challenging fun takes patience, time, energy, perseverance, and a long time horizon.

Usually less challenging, but still requiring a fair bit of effort, is accommodating fun.

Going on a family trip to the zoo is accommodating fun. Going to a family Thanksgiving dinner, going to a firm outing, going to dinner and a movie with friends, all require accommodation. You’re strengthening relationships, you’re building memories, you’re having fun – but perhaps not as much fun as you’d have if you dictated the terms. Accommodating fun takes a lot of energy, organization, coordination with other people, and, well, accommodation.

Relaxing fun is practically effortless.

Relaxing fun is relaxing. It takes little energy. You don’t have to hone skills or take much action. There’s very little coordination with other people or preparation involved. Sitting by the pool, flipping through magazines, and watching TV are examples of relaxing fun.

Challenging fun and accommodating fun, over the long term, bring more happiness, because they’re sources of those elements that make people happiest: strong personal bonds, mastery, an atmosphere of growth. Relaxing fun tends to be passive — by design.

So Why Do We Watch So Much TV?

So if relaxing fun is the least fun kind of fun, why is watching TV so popular?

Because, while we get more out of challenging fun and accommodating fun, we also must put more into it. Many of the activities that bring the most happiness also require a lot of energy, time, and planning. But in the end, they bring more happiness.

To boost happiness, if most of your leisure time is dedicated to relaxing fun, try to incorporate some challenging or accommodating fun into the mix.

?What kinds of challenging or accommodating fun activities do you make sure to include in your day?
Do you struggle to limit your time with TV (or any kind of screen)?

 

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    Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 14 Apr 2013
    Published on PsychCentral.com. All rights reserved.

APA Reference
Rubin, G. (2013). 3 Levels of Fun: Challenging, Accommodating & Relaxing. Psych Central. Retrieved on December 17, 2014, from http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2013/04/14/3-levels-of-fun-challenging-accommodating-relaxing/

 

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