Comments on: Love is Not Enough for a Healthy Marriage http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2013/03/17/love-is-not-enough-for-a-healthy-marriage/ Dr. John Grohol's daily update on all things in psychology and mental health. Since 1999. Sat, 11 May 2013 14:30:55 +0000 hourly 1 By: Ryannatural http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2013/03/17/love-is-not-enough-for-a-healthy-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-743697 Ryannatural Fri, 10 May 2013 18:34:33 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=42946#comment-743697 Thank you! Now I don't feel isolated or unsure of certain factors regarding marriage. I hope that others will find this information useful as well as I. It's great to have support and direction. Thank you! Now I don’t feel isolated or unsure of certain factors regarding marriage. I hope that others will find this information useful as well as I. It’s great to have support and direction.

]]> By: Mark http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2013/03/17/love-is-not-enough-for-a-healthy-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-742144 Mark Tue, 19 Mar 2013 20:55:36 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=42946#comment-742144 Unfortunately, this article is misleading. While these skills can be helpful in a marriage, they are not all required. The research in relationships indicates that there are skills that are necessary in a relationship including maintaining positivity, de-escalating tension in conflict, and other skills. I did not see many of those skills here, and I would suggest that this list is a bit overwhelming. For more information about what really makes marriage work, try Dr. John Gottman's books. Mark Trahan, LCSW Unfortunately, this article is misleading. While these skills can be helpful in a marriage, they are not all required. The research in relationships indicates that there are skills that are necessary in a relationship including maintaining positivity, de-escalating tension in conflict, and other skills. I did not see many of those skills here, and I would suggest that this list is a bit overwhelming. For more information about what really makes marriage work, try Dr. John Gottman’s books.

Mark Trahan, LCSW

]]> By: A Psychological Scientist http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2013/03/17/love-is-not-enough-for-a-healthy-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-742116 A Psychological Scientist Mon, 18 Mar 2013 20:49:58 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=42946#comment-742116 Wow, only 37 abilities that are "necessary"?! This seems WAY too easy. Wow, only 37 abilities that are “necessary”?! This seems WAY too easy.

]]> By: Kausar Bilal http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2013/03/17/love-is-not-enough-for-a-healthy-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-742105 Kausar Bilal Mon, 18 Mar 2013 11:00:55 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=42946#comment-742105 I agree, even half of these skills can save a marriage and bring happiness and fulfillment. It is a game of patience and mind. I agree, even half of these skills can save a marriage and bring happiness and fulfillment. It is a game of patience and mind.

]]> By: Tyson Cooper http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2013/03/17/love-is-not-enough-for-a-healthy-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-742103 Tyson Cooper Mon, 18 Mar 2013 10:37:58 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=42946#comment-742103 Interesting advice, perhaps too much of it as there are 37 critical skills listed, but they serve as a good reminder. Love really is all that is necessary, however, if you look at if from a different angle. What would motivate someone to develop these 37 skills? That's a lot of work. Love will do that. Love also helps to create understanding and foster forgiveness when we aren't good at a particular skill or set of skills. Love is necessary for a great marriage, is not the only thing that we need, and is the reason we will invest the effort necessary to make the marriage great. Interesting advice, perhaps too much of it as there are 37 critical skills listed, but they serve as a good reminder. Love really is all that is necessary, however, if you look at if from a different angle. What would motivate someone to develop these 37 skills? That’s a lot of work. Love will do that. Love also helps to create understanding and foster forgiveness when we aren’t good at a particular skill or set of skills. Love is necessary for a great marriage, is not the only thing that we need, and is the reason we will invest the effort necessary to make the marriage great.

]]> By: Francoise http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2013/03/17/love-is-not-enough-for-a-healthy-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-742074 Francoise Sun, 17 Mar 2013 16:41:43 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=42946#comment-742074 Ha! How American! Many dozens of tips about healthy marriage, and not one that has to do with sex! Ha! How American! Many dozens of tips about healthy marriage, and not one that has to do with sex!

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