I was speaking with a friend the other day and I was reminded that words, even illogical ones, has the potential to raise you up or spiral you down. It doesn’t matter where you came from, your family background or the societal rules that you grew up in. Every culture subscribes to rules of living that has the potential to isolate and dismiss certain individuals for being different. In some cultures, it’s being too fair or dark, in others its being too loud or too soft. We could make ourselves crazy trying hard to please everybody while our own voice gets increasingly drowned out by the crowd.
It’s the same with inner thoughts like, “I’m not good enough,” or, “My relationship is doomed.” The things we tell ourselves feel like waves of hurt. Most of us aren’t even aware of how influential our thoughts are. By the end of the day, we’re worn out, exhaustive, and emotionally beat up because we’ve been listening to them play and replay over and over again.
By that same token, words especially the compassionate ones, have the power to lift us up. It’s telling ourselves that it’s okay to not get things perfect. It’s learning to be comfortable in discomfort. That means your life doesn’t have to be perfect, your skin/hair/eye color doesn’t have to be the “right” shade, your relationship doesn’t have to play out like a romantic comedy. You can be perfectly imperfectly you and still love and enjoy your life. How do you get there if you’re not quite there yet? These posts will help you on the road toward greater acceptance.
5 Destructive Myths About Love and Marriage
(Parenting Tips) – Contrary to what romantic movies and books tell us, love isn’t perfect or easy. In fact, read this and you might find out how wrong you were about all the things you thought you knew about love.
The Sexual Hookup Culture: Findings Related to Mental Health and Addiction
(The Impact of Sex Addiction) – Think hooking up is harmless? Learn why casually getting together with someone sexually comes at a regrettable cost.
Emotion Checklists: Identifying Your Feelings, Pleasant and Not
(Neuroscience & Relationships) – Are you truly living your life? If you haven’t achieved emotion mastery, you might be missing out on the all the depth, dimensions and layers of meaning possible for your life.
Are You Missing a Piece of Your Happiness?
(Bounce Back) – Ever tell yourself, “I’m not good enough?” Read how one therapist dealt with her own inner critic and how she used mindfulness to accept and love herself anyway.
5 Tools to Help Manage Bipolar II and Irritability
(Tales of Manic Depression) – One of the difficult challenges that come with Bipolar II is irritability. To help you with that, this post provides tips for managing your emotions. It’s perfect for someone with Bipolar II, but applicable for anyone wanting to treat bouts of irritability.
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