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The Temptation to Stay Where You Are

The desire to stay where you are (even if where you are is stuck, unhappy, or upset) can be great. The temptation to hold on may be so powerful in fact, that you might find the biggest obstacle to your own happiness is yourself.

Why would anyone choose to stay stuck when the alternative, to be happy, free, or safe, is so much better?

Some of us stay where we are because we’re afraid of what we don’t know. It’s much easier to deal with the demons we know than to venture out into the world full of scary unknowns.

Some of us stay stuck because we don’t know any better. Maybe in this moment, you’re doing the best that you can. To get out from where you are, you need resources, support, and help to move on.

Some of us get stuck because we’re caught up in the idea of happiness-the belief that things have to be a certain way or we need to have certain things in order to be happy.

Some of us stay because we’re scared about what others will think or feel incapable of change.

If any of these statements sound like you, our posts this week may get you off the hamster wheel of fear and onto your life.

{Flickr photo by: Trey Ratcliff}

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The Matrix Has You: On Dissociation and Feelings of Detachment
(Panic About Anxiety) – If you’ve ever felt like something was off, you’re surroundings don’t feel right or you don’t feel right, then you can relate with this post. Guest blogger Justin Matheson gives a personal, in-depth look on what it’s like to suffer from panic disorder.

Being Happy, Being More Creative?
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Why Can’t I Bounce Out Of The Winter Blues?
(Mental Health Humor) – The winter blues getting to you? Chato B. lightens your mood with this SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder) cartoon created with the help of his Facebook friends.

The Bigger the Dream, The Bigger the Fear
(The Emotionally Sensitive Person) – If you attempt to fulfill a dream, you will meet disappointment, criticism, rejection and failure. It is inevitable and something every successful person has faced. But if you are emotionally sensitive, it might hit you harder than others. Here’s how to cope.

 


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    Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 25 Feb 2013
    Published on PsychCentral.com. All rights reserved.

APA Reference
Uyemura, B. (2013). Best of Our Blogs: February 26, 2013. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 16, 2014, from http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2013/02/26/best-of-our-blogs-february-26-2013/

 

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