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Everybody wants to be understood. But who’s willing to give out a little understanding?

Spend enough time listening to a friend, an acquaintance or even your own complaints and you may start to hear a pattern. “Why did so and so do this? How could they say this to me? I wish they could understand what I’m going through!”

Turn the situation around. Do you see that what you’re wanting in someone else could be what they’re wishing in you too?

Sometimes we get so caught up in what other people are not giving us, we don’t realize we’re being stingy with compassion ourselves. You may, for example, wish that your mother was more compassionate about your job situation, your husband was more understanding about your illness or your friend was more supportive. As much as you wish they were a little more empathetic, they might wish the same thing in you. Maybe in order to be understood, you need to first understand. That means practicing compassion for that closed minded acquaintance who labeled you as “too sensitive,” or it could mean being more compassionate toward yourself.

We hope this week you’ll read our posts and gather a little more kindness toward others (maybe having compassion for that person who misunderstands you) and yourself (by saying goodbye to perfectionistic bodies and a perfectionistic body image). It’s all in an effort to live better in 2013. What are you working on doing this year to be a more understanding and compassionate to others and yourself?

Creative People Cross Boundaries
(The Creative Mind) – If you’ve ever been accused of being “too much” (too loud, too smart, too fast, etc.), you may be a creative person. Learn why creative people are too complex to be pigeonholed into categories like extraverted and introverted, playful and disciplined, or feminine and masculine.

My Own Worst Enemy: Hidden Signs Of Self-Sabotage In Recovery
(Addiction Recovery) - What is the number-one enemy of recovery? Dr. David Sack says, “It’s you!” Here are the most common ways addicts sabotage themselves.

Errors In ADHD Diagnosis At The Doctors Office
(ADHD Man of Distraction) – Why does misdiagnosis happen? Because of doctors like this one. Read how a doctor passed over one woman’s concerns because she lacked a ADHD diagnosis in childhood.

Panic Disorder: Therapy That DOESN’T Work
(Therapy That Works) – Individuals who suffer from panic disorder will benefit from reading this post. Find out what works and doesn’t work in effectively treating those dealing with debilitating attacks of anxiety and panic.

5 More Body Image Beliefs & Behaviors To Ditch In 2013
(Weightless) – Want to live a healthier happier life minus the guilt and perfectionistic ideals about your body, weight and food? We all do! In this post, you’ll learn what beliefs and behaviors we all need to let go of in 2013.



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    Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 15 Jan 2013
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Uyemura, B. (2013). Best of Our Blogs: January 15, 2013. Psych Central. Retrieved on November 22, 2014, from


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