Ever dream of a life where you didn’t have to work so hard?
You would get through the holidays without worrying about whether you could handle your dysfunctional family, your finances, your weight. You could be yourself completely without concern about how you’ll be treated by an insensitive friend or relative. You could for once stop thinking about everyone else’s needs and for a moment just think of yourself. It would be a true holiday that never ends.
You’re not alone. It’s a wish we all dream about when the going gets tough. But we’re given the life we’re given. Once we learn to accept it, we might even find a few unexpected gifts in the process.
Perhaps dealing with your own difficulties has given you greater compassion for others. If that’s the case, you’ll love this week’s post on how you can help a loved one with an eating disorder get through the holidays. Or you’ll find that being super sensitive isn’t so bad after reading Zoë’s post on the upside of hypersensitivity. Maybe you’ll learn that being overly confident and insensitive are far from being strengths, but instead are weaknesses. And you might even realize that doing what’s hard (like swallowing your pride instead of always being right) may just be a good thing.
Sure it’s normal to dream of a perfect life. But since they don’t exist, the best thing we can do for ourselves and our loved ones is to learn to embrace the life we have. In doing so, we learn that an imperfect life is a well-lived one.
The Myth of the “Strong” Person
(Relationships in Balance) – What does a strong person look like to you? This post reveals how your perception of strength (aggressiveness, confidence, etc.) could be clouding your relationship with others and the way you perceive and treat yourself.
6 Ways To Support Someone With An Eating Disorder During The Holidays
(Weightless) – Recovering from an eating disorder isn’t easy especially during the holidays. If you want to help someone going through it, but unsure of how to best support them, read this.
Is Mental Health History Important?
(Mental Health Humor) – It’s difficult to just get diagnosed. But as Chato B. shows us in his cartoon and post, your diagnosis can change over time making getting the right treatment extremely complicated.
Being Right vs. Being Effective
(The Emotionally Sensitive Person) – We can easily lose track of the big picture when getting too attached to being right. As you’ll read here, refocusing your goals is one way you can be effective in decision making instead of always trying to be right.
4 Reasons to Be Happy You’re Hypersensitive
(ADHD from A to Zoë) – Hypersensitive? This will help you appreciate those hard-to-love parts of yourself that make it difficult to get through a movie, book or conversation with a friend without being affected. It’s all about accepting yourself, sensitivities and all.
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