Comments on: Getting the Support You Need When You’re Struggling with Depression

By: Pual

Pual — Fri, 16 Nov 2012 17:54:06 +0000

Thank you for your comments. I am a member of a gym and I do go to an aspergers group where the only women there are already attached. AS women have the opposite problem to AS men as being used and seen as an easy lay. At the gym older people talk to me and sometimes younger men but never younger women. As for sexy, what I find sexy is probably different than what another man would like. I suffer from a condition called involuntary celibacy. When i’ve been to family dues my cousins never speak to me apart from saying hello. They are in one group and i’m left on my own with a parent. It has always been like this. I have not got any friends to introduce me to people. I’ve been to other groups in the past and if i’m lucky i’ve managed to speak to a few men but never any women. They always stay away.I have been rejected in the past when asking women out for a date because i’m a socially isolated male.

By: AnxietyAdventures

AnxietyAdventures — Thu, 15 Nov 2012 17:31:27 +0000

Thank you for a practical, straightforward list of helpful questions. This should be shared widely.

By: DeLyn

DeLyn — Thu, 15 Nov 2012 05:42:44 +0000

Pual,
First, don’t discredit yourself. There are many people out there like yourself. Second, think about looking past the “sexy” part and more into what is inside a person. Wouldn’t you want a person to do the same? Please do not think that you are alone, you certainly are not! Just try to look deeper. We live in a superficial world. The media portrays an unrealistic image of what we are. Reality TV is a joke, pornos are a joke and full of empty lives. Look deeper into who YOU are and what YOU want, look beyond sex.

By: Charlotte

Charlotte — Wed, 14 Nov 2012 19:41:18 +0000

This was an amazing piece of writing and I congratulate who wrote it! The questionairre is so thought provoking and could easily be shown to any mental health professional. It shows new areas to look at for us and is a great post for growth in the human psych. Well done!

By: Janine

Janine — Wed, 14 Nov 2012 19:36:16 +0000

Pual, No you are not too old at all and don’t concentrate on numbers such as 47. That is very young in many women’s eyes and there is a great saying that ” You are as young as you feel.” Some 70 and older men have often said to me that they only feel as though they are only 20. Now you must do the same. Forget about looking for sex for the moment. Instead concentrate on getting to know as many women as you can. Go and meet them face to face instead of relying on someone else to do it for you. There are loads of adult courses, pubs, charity groups ect. where you can meet women. Be a great lover of women for a while and speak with all different age groups including those much older than you. Everyone of us are all one big family on this planet and you will be very welcomed I am sure because we are all connected on some level. Let it not bother you if some women walk away from you and let it not bother you that you are not attracted to certain others. Just observe it all and keep going. There are too many lonely people on this planet and it is vital that you leave people know that you are there for them. I guarantee you one day you will look back at this post and see that you wrote something that was totally untrue about yourself.

By: Pual

Pual — Wed, 14 Nov 2012 15:46:02 +0000

I am a 47yr old male with aspergers sydrome who has never had a girlfriend and sex.. this makes me very depressed. When I have told doctors in the past they think I expect them to right out a prescription for a woman. When I was younger girls were not interested and now I am older all there is a women my own age who are mothers even grannies and seem far to old for me. I never get any sexy women in the late twenties or thirties contacting me and I cannot change my age range. When I was in the early thirties I was looking at women in there mid to late twenties. It is to late for me now. Dating agencies are useless and have lots of scammers which they don’t alway bother to remove to keep the numbers of available women looking good. I never did have a chance when I was younger for a girlfriend. I guess i’ll be another pensioner suicide statistic.