How did we let our external situations get so intertwined with the way we perceive our self? The belief that what we create, for example, is equated with our self-worth or the way we look is linked with self-love. Instead of celebrating our uniqueness, we’re more likely to use our quirks as justification for self-hate or bullying.
On a logical level we all know that what we look like, how much money we have or our social status has nothing to do with our worth. But it’s difficult to convince our vulnerable selves of this fact. When people tease us, point out our imperfections, or when we don’t get the validation we need, the repercussions can be devastating. Low self-esteem, insecurity and even depression will not only prevent us from living the life we were meant to live, but it can sabotage our happiness. As we get older, we might lose our individual qualities because we desire acceptance or fear being judged. We may cover it up by being something we’re not, by making fun of ourselves to hide our insecurities, or by being overly critical toward others or ourselves.
The answer is to remember who we are and have compassion for our self, (worry)warts and all. As you’ll read below, it’s only when we learn self-kindness, self-compassion and positive self-talk, that we can begin to heal. In listening to what our bloggers say, you will begin to peel away at those erroneously beliefs that tell you you’re not worthy of love, success, and happiness. You will find that you are fine just the way you are. And those people that tell you otherwise? As author Martha Beck once said, “How others judge me is none of my business.”
How Self-Talk and Stress Levels Impact Your Relationship With Your Self – Mind and Body, 2 of 2
(Neuroscience & Relationships) – You have more control over your life than you think. This post discusses how what you tell yourself can negatively or positively impact your life. It’s in intriguing look into self-talk and its mind and body relationship.
The Power of Self-Compassion
(Mindfulness & Psychotherapy) – Your biggest enemy isn’t your ex, your co-worker or the guy next door. It’s yourself. Learn to befriend the parts of you that are hard to love.
How to Spot a Bully, a Tool for Educators and Mental Health Care Professionals
(Beating the Bully) – Identifying a bully may be a difficult feat, but it’s an important one. This activity offers endless possibilities for teachers, counselors and anyone else who works with young people.
Ditching Women’s Magazines For Positive Publications
(Weightless) – Want to a healthier relationship with yourself? Here’s what not to read if you want to cultivate a better body image with a list of positive publication recommendations.
Creative Passion or Just Doing What You Really Want
(The Creative Mind) – Are passion and inspiration standing in the way of your creative pursuits? Surprisingly, a few successful authors question their usefulness. Read what they have to say on the matter here.
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