Have you ever been with a group of people, and as your about to share something you’ve experienced, someone abruptly interrupts you saying, “That’s nothing! You should hear what happened to me!” Off they go taking the ball out of your hands, never to return it. You never get to finish what you were saying, and you’re left with your hanging mouth wide open.

I call these people, “Me-Monsters.” I got this term from a stand-up comedian, and it’s stuck with me as a great descriptor for a certain type of extreme narcissist.

Let me describe the “Me-Monster:”

1. He always has to “one-up” your accomplishments. This person is so insecure that he has to go several notches above you to prove he is better than you.

2. He cannot stand you stealing the spotlight from him. He is attention hungry. He voraciously wants it.

3. If you had a success, his success is always greater.

4. If you went through a difficult experience, his was worse and he suffered more. If you were victimized, then he is the biggest victim and martyr of all time.

5. He overwhelms and sucks the air out of a room. He has to dominate the environment with his personal energy, and sometimes, his loud voice.

6. He may use sarcasm to trash your story, sometimes with subtlety and sometimes directly.

7. He may laugh and mock you, to push his story into first position.

8. If your accomplishments blow his out of the water, he will secretly hate/dislike you.

9. If you are highly accomplished he will plot your demise, get close to you to steal your light and take credit, or hide and be nowhere to be found to avoid feeling less. He cannot stand any superiority of others over him.

If you happen to wrestle the attention back from him, he takes note and will hold a grudge against you. Cover your back. He will either disappear in shame or will plan on destroying you or have you removed from his proximity. If they use your skills, they will take credit for them, then dump you in the “trash can” having no more use for you.

The Me-Monster must be the center of whatever Universe he finds himself. He knows about every single subject, for he is an expert on all of them.

Avoid Me-Monsters. They are dangerous to your health, job/career, relationships, and almost anything you do.



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    Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 29 Sep 2012
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APA Reference
López De Victoria, S. (2012). Me-Monsters!. Psych Central. Retrieved on February 18, 2015, from


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