When life hands you a difficult situation, the last thing you may think you should do is lean into it – but this may actually turn out to be the best thing you ever did.
If you struggle with frustrating family members or impossible co-workers on a regular basis, over time, the experience can leave you drained and on the verge of calling it quits; it can even transform you into a difficult person yourself. I’ve had many opportunities to work with difficult people, and it’s tempting to want to leave because being around them is so unpleasant. But what if you can’t walk away?
There’s another option: yes, you can gripe about it – but you can also chose to change your attitude. I’ve had supervisors so mean and difficult to work for that I ended up crying every day. Because I didn’t just quit, but continued to work there with compassion and kindness, some of those employers eventually became friends. They taught me the importance of depersonalizing difficult situations, acting mindfully and staying true to myself. I learned valuable lessons from the experience.
If you find yourself in a difficult situation, instead of shutting down, try approaching the people involved with compassion. Although it may be tempting to react with anger rather than kindness, it will suit you to approach these situations with a more open heart.
Whether it’s a bad boss, negative thoughts, bullying, an affair, or even a difficult yoga pose, the following posts demonstrate the importance of practicing acceptance, compassion, and mindfulness in all situations.
Step into Compassion, Step into a Happier Brain
(Mindfulness & Psychotherapy) – Partaking in activities that boost your physical and emotional health are necessary for a happy, healthy life. And as this post shows us, it’s possible to do both at one time. Here’s how.
Bullying and Early Onset of Mental Illness
(Tales of Manic Depression) – Who is responsible for crime when it involves both mental illness and bullying? Is it justifiable to point fingers at bullies who trigger kids with emotional issues or is society to blame for not taking matters into their own hands? Discuss your thoughts here.
7 Reasons Why Working Heals…
(Coming Out Crazy) – When you’re feeling down the last thing you want to do is work or is it? Read why working may be the best cure for what ails you.
Sex and Relationship Infidelity: A Betrayed Partner’s Need to Know the Truth
(Sex & Intimacy in the Digital Age) – Find out why disclosing a betrayal instead of hiding it could help heal, not just hurt your relationship. This post also lists some of the common responses to discovering a partner’s infidelity.
Say, “Ohm….” Yoga as a Means to Prevent Bullying
(Beating the Bully) – Yoga has been used for many things (coping with stress, flexibility and strength ). Recently, it’s being used to prevent student violence and bullying. Read more about it here.
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Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 21 Sep 2012
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