Should I Make My Partner Go to the Hospital?The NAMI Maryland publication, “Connections,” published this question awhile back. It is one I am often asked, so I thought it would be helpful to share it with you:

I was recently faced with the dilemma of whether or not my wife was a danger to herself and others, and whether or not to take her to the emergency room as a psychiatric emergency.

Are there any guidelines or suggestions as to when its best to take a loved one to the hospital?

Dr. Mark Komrad, M.D. responded:

This is one of the challenging issues in all of psychiatry — both practically and ethically. So I can only attempt to address it in a most preliminary fashion.

The easy answer is: call your wife’s psychiatrist. I believe that all physicians should have a system to be available in the case of possible emergency. That is a fundamental ethical principle we are taught in medical school. Every patient and family should be familiar with how to contact the psychiatrist in the case of emergency.

One of the most common reasons psychiatrists are reached in an emergency is to consult on just this situation — whether or not a person should go to an emergency room (ER). As a part of residence training, all psychiatrists have extensive experience with this scenario.

What if the doctor can’t be reached or if there is no psychiatrist on the case … yet? The primary concern is safety — hers and yours. If there is any question that your wife is unable to control her behavior to maintain safety, it is reason enough to have an evaluation in the ER. Safety includes considerations of violence to self and others, as well as other kinds of safety such as fire safety, fall risk, or medical risk.

A diabetic who is refusing to eat, a person with unstable hypertension who is highly agitated, a person who has fallen into an unmoving catatonia and isn’t acting to take care of his basic needs, a person who environment has deteriorated to a fire or health hazard: these are all examples of various cases from my own clinical experience that have been appropriately brought to the ER.

So, if the doctor says go — go. If you feel there is a risk of harm afoot — go.

A final consideration in your decision: if someone has never been in for treatment, an ER evaluation can open the door to mental health treatment, and is sometimes the only first step a person is willing to take.

?What do you think?
Do you agree with the psychiatrist’s advice? What would you add?



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    Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 14 Feb 2015
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APA Reference
Borchard, T. (2012). Should I Make My Partner Go to the Hospital?. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 30, 2015, from


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