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Old wounds are the hardest to heal. They crop up unexpectedly, triggering us when someone unknowingly pokes at them. And unlike grief, time doesn’t necessarily diminish it.

This was apparent to me after I ran into someone from my past. Afraid that this person’s view of me might be tainted from long ago, I grew fearful. I remembered what it was like to be a kid again, being bullied and rejected. It’s been more than a decade, but I can viscerally feel the pain of being alone and so disliked.

Old wounds run deep. It’s lodged into every fiber of your being, so that whenever something or someone triggers it, all the memories come flooding back. Why is that you can’t remember the details of a fun family trip, but the memory of being rejected or hurt feels as new as if it just occurred yesterday?

However you deal with what ails you in this moment: a past wound, a bully at work, loneliness… I hope you will find what you need in this week’s post. What I’ve garnered by reading them is that there are always answers and solutions to what you’re going through. Sometimes it’s simply accepting the situation you’re in and discovering peace, gratitude and even joy through the process.

Reprogram Your Brain to Improve Relationships and Heal Past Wounds
(Mindfulness & Psychotherapy) – There are many ways you can practice mindfulness. Enjoy writing? Then you’ll appreciate this writing meditation to help you to be more kind and compassionate toward yourself and others and take care of those old wounds.

Bullying in the Workplace
(Dialectical Behavior Therapy Understood) – Unfortunately, bullying isn’t just an issue for children. If you’ve experienced threats, exclusion, or verbal abuse at work, you’re being bullied. Learn how to cope here.

Enhancing Creative Thinking With Design Examples
(The Creative Mind) – Can imitation breed creativity? It can when it’s done early. One research study’s demonstrating how early exposure to design examples can stimulate creativity.

The Big Value of “Small Talk” in Our Emotional Lives
(Healing Together for Couples) – For someone who doesn’t value small talk (me included), this will be an eye-opening post for you. It has a bigger role in relationships than we think.

Your Loneliness is a Good Thing
(Mentoring & Recovery) – Why we automatically equate loneliness with being a loser? Is there really something so bad about being lonely that we must quickly fill the emptiness? Quite the contrary. This post enlightens us with all the reasons why loneliness is a good thing.



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    Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 31 Aug 2012
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APA Reference
Uyemura, B. (2012). Best of Our Blogs: August 31, 2012. Psych Central. Retrieved on January 27, 2015, from


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