Comments on: Trapped In An Abusive Relationship?

By: jcwink

jcwink — Mon, 31 Dec 2012 20:18:08 +0000

Manipulators often play the victim role (“poor me”) by portraying themselves as victims of circumstances or someone else’s behavior in order to gain pity or sympathy or to evoke compassion and thereby get something from another.

This is a good article for everyone to read and learn from.

By: raed

raed — Thu, 16 Aug 2012 01:06:26 +0000

Very helpful, I can relate to “being competitive” as a form of emotional abuse. I was a student in a school where the grading system was based on competitiveness “grading on a curve” and I can tell that it was hurtful and draining!

By: Recovering

Recovering — Thu, 16 Aug 2012 00:02:22 +0000

This is an amazing article. Thank you for posting it. After 8 years of emotional and verbal abuse, I disengaged completely. This enraged my partner. Then the physical set in. I am lucky to be alive today… but I am recovering. It is almost like the verbal/emotional was not enough to make me leave. I had to get hurt physically to know that it was bad. I hope that this article is read by someone else and they are able to leave faster and save themselves some of the pain.

By: Kate

Kate — Wed, 15 Aug 2012 17:47:48 +0000

Patricia’s book saved my life and sanity. Once I was able to name the problem (verbal abuse) I could begin to understand, and slowly make plans to leave. I got a divorce after 31 years of verbal abuse (some physical)….I recommend her book to everyone (I am the moderator of an abused survivors’ group)….one Ph.D. said that her book “is the cornerstone of civilization.” I concur. Her book(s) should be required reading for everyone on the planet.

I wrote about my life and am a Freshman at age 65. I believe we are here to make a diference.