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When I was a kid, I tried hard to hold in my true self. It wasn’t just because I was shy. I think a part of me feared the attention it would bring. As a result, I stifled a laugh, held in a sneeze and tried my best to blend in with my surroundings so no one would really see me.

It took me awhile to realize it, but I finally figured out that doing all of the above didn’t do much to help me be inconspicuous. Once, a classmate even caught me mid-laughter and asked, “Why are you so afraid to let your laughter out?”

Maybe it was from years of being teased or because I was highly sensitive. But I learned it was much more damaging to hold back who I was in order to disappear into the world.

You may think you can’t relate to this problem. But if you’ve ever kept quiet when upset or dealt with sadness by diverting your attention to food or your body you can relate and probably already have. It’s all about feeling disconnected.

We may fear being judged about our addiction, our kids’ academic failures or our inability to get over a traumatic event. When we connect back into ourselves, we may discover all the things we’re hiding from and all the ways doing so is inadvertently destroying our lives.

This week’s posts come back to this same point. To get better, to heal old wounds, to live a healthier life, we need to walk through the fear of being discovered, garner strength from who we are at the core and show the world who we really are.

How To Enhance Your Kids’ (And Your Own) Motivation: Part 1
(Parenting Tips) – How do you get your kids to do boring tasks like homework? Sprinkle in a little intrinsic motivation and watch their motivation grow.

10 Ways To Cope With Sadness
(Weightless) – Sadness is one of those difficult emotions that can feel too hard to express. It can feel so hard, in fact, that we’d rather stuff our feelings under a rug, focusing on our body or weight instead. If you’re encountering tough emotions lately, read Margarita’s tips to discover healthy ways to release your sadness.

Yoga And Recovery: Talking With Yoga Instructor And Author Kyczy Hawk
(Your Body, Your Mind) – What does yoga have to do with recovery? It can be the healing path that can reconnect you to yourself. Learn more in this enlightening interview with author and yoga instructor Kzyczy Hawk.

Day Two: The Toxic Word ~ “Stigma” ~ Ban it!
(Coming Out Crazy) – What do the words, “stigma,” “suffering,” “commit,” and “survivor” have in common? They’re all words on Sandy’s banned list. Read why these words carry so much baggage culturally, historically and even linguistically.

Treating Depression with Opioids?
(An Epidemic of Addiction) – A reader asks: Can suboxone or oxymorphone for depression? Find out the answer and if taking opioids as antidepressants are worth the risk.



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    Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 14 Jun 2012
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APA Reference
Uyemura, B. (2012). Best of Our Blogs: June 15, 2012. Psych Central. Retrieved on January 25, 2015, from


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