In an effort to be perceived as strong, how many of us squelch our own needs, suffering and cries for help? I’ve observed it in a relative who at a funeral, suppressed her anguish so that she could be the container to hold everyone’s grief. And I sometimes catch myself apologizing incessantly or automatically replying, “Good!” when people ask how I’m doing.
Yet, we keep doing it. We do it despite the fact that these little untruths will often lead to anguish, inauthentic living and long-term, irreversible health problems down the road. But the fear of how our truth will be received, the fear of being exposed in all of our vulnerabilities can be too overwhelming, too difficult to face.
The truth is it takes a lot more courage and strength to reveal where we feel weak. But if we stick with it, if we allow others to see all of who we are and hold us when we’re in need, the risk we take will be well-worth the sacrifice. Choosing to walk that road takes guts, but it also puts us on the path towards greater awareness, well-being and self-healing. This week take the first steps by discovering what it will take to begin healing yourself.
(Neuroscience & Relationships) – If you are open to the possibility that depression and anxiety could be learned versus genetic diseases, you will gain a lot from the hope and optimism offered in this post. Read this to learn how factors such as diet, exercise, sugar consumption, toxic thinking and emotional regulation play a significant role in mood disorders.
(Real World Research) – The power of positive imagery is often overlooked. But this post delves into its potential to reduce anxiety and treat eating disorders while revealing how and why it’s so important.
(Adventures in Positive Psychology) – Did you know your indecision could be related to perfectionism? Learn why it is sometimes better to strive for “good enough”and opt for progress rather than perfection.
(Weightless) – Because it’s National Eating Disorders Awareness Week, Margarita interviewed Bonnie Brennan, MA, LPC, NCC, clinical director of the adult partial hospitalization program at the Eating Recovery Center. Go here to get important information to help you identify and support those struggling with eating disorders.
(The Emotionally Sensitive Person) – Apologizing repetitively may seem harmless, even polite. But doing so can actually harm your relationships and your sense of self. Knowing when it’s appropriate to apologize could increase your self-respect, awareness and improve your relationships.
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