People act as mirrors, revealing our shadows, the things we dislike most about ourselves. I find, for example, that those who are hardest on others are also self-critical. And those who don’t have compassion for their loved one’s negative emotions usually struggle with feeling comfortable with their own. It’s painful to see, but sometimes what drives us crazy about a person, an article, a news story, for example, are our own unresolved issues. They bubble to the surface in the presence of our own hidden truths.
It may be a difficult pill to swallow when a person we despise reflects our own inner weaknesses or unlovable side. But this knowledge brings a tremendous blessing. With the awareness that we’re all struggling (that we’re human just like the guy or girl we can’t stand), we grow compassion for others and ourselves.
I, for one find nuggets of truth about my own life when I read our posts every week. While it’s not always easy to see myself in them, I know that there is a gift in awareness. It’s one gift I wouldn’t return for anything. As you read our posts this week, be open to receiving this gift. By really paying attention and letting the words sink in, you may just find yourself.
(Bounce Back: Develop Your Resilience) – We’ve all been there before-the moment when you think that’s it, that’s the last straw, you just can’t take it anymore. Regardless of what that “it” is, you will get through it and even build resilience in the process. Using a relative’s email and her own personal experience with loss, Bobbi demonstrates the power of time in healing. There is hope in the fact that what’s painful now, will not be painful forever.
(Addiction Recovery) – There are a lot of factors involved when it comes to addiction. Besides family and friend’s denial, lack of treatment and the disease itself, Dr. David Sack shares the significant role physicians play in the potential for addiction.
(Partners in Wellness) – You want to tell loved ones about you or your partner’s mental illness, but you’re unsure, uncomfortable or unclear about how to do it. This is your guide to help you ease into it.
(Mindfulness & Psychotherapy) – Have a negative thought lately? I’m betting you have. We all have them at one point or another. And in reaction we usually try to get rid of, avoid or replace them with more positive thoughts. Instead, Dr. Elisha Goldstein offers a radical approach to deal with negative thoughts. Find out what it is here.
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