Happy Valentine’s Day! Only maybe it’s not so happy for you. Maybe the holiday isn’t an opportunity for love and celebration, but another reminder of why you’re not complete just as you are.
As a teenager, I hated the holiday. As popular girls were gifted with roses, I was often left empty handed. And in doing so, it made me feel un-special, unloved and added to my belief that only a few lucky souls deserved flowers, candy and heartfelt sentiments. And I was not one of them.
The thing is, even if you are in a relationship, all that pressure to give a gift that proves your love can be too much. It’s the reason why the malls are always packed the weekend before Valentine’s Day. Individuals searching for the perfect gift may be filled with good intentions, but the sad truth is they usually lack deep enough pockets to spoil, treat and exceed the expectations of those who receive them.
In the end, Valentine’s Day is like any day. It’s entirely what you make of it. If you’re going the gift route, make a conscious decision to give and receive without expectation. If you’re single, choose to have fun with a friend or do something good for yourself. Don’t let a holiday ruin your day. Spend it learning something new by reading our top posts of the week.
(Adventures in Positive Psychology) – You can use Valentine’s Day as a day for mourning being single or you can use it as an opportunity to think about what you really want in a partner. If you’re choosing the latter, read what qualities should be on your list for finding and creating a healthy, loving and lasting relationship.
(Neuroscience & Relationships) – Maybe one of your resolutions was to start exercising in 2012, but you can’t seem to get yourself motivated to do it. These 12 tips will help.
(Real World Research) – You may be interested in this post because you need help dealing with a chronic complainer in your life. But upon reading it, you may just learn something about yourself.
(Addiction Recovery) – Who’s responsible for allowing the nonmedical use of painkillers to take second place as the most prevalent form of drug use in America? There’s a long list of people who could take the blame, but this post questions whether the blame game is detracting from rather than helping to address the issue.
(ADHD Man of Distraction) – Here is an interesting discussion on the risks of not treating ADHD. The question may not be whether you choose medication for ADHD for your kids, but how the medication is given. This post says that without a prescription those with ADHD may find their own way to self-medicate.
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