7 Questionable Theories on HappinessAs audacious as it may seem to contradict venerable figures such as John Stuart Mill, Flaubert, or Sartre, I disagree with some of their views about the nature of happiness.

Flaubert: “To be stupid, and selfish, and to have good health are the three requirements for happiness; though if stupidity is lacking, the others are useless.

I argue that this is Happiness Myth No. 1: Happy people are annoying and stupid.

Vauvenargues: “There are men who are happy without knowing it.”

Heartily disagree. My Fourth Splendid Truth is “I’m not happy unless I think I’m happy.” Or as Eugene Delacroix wrote, “He was like a man owning a piece of ground in which, unknown to himself, a treasure lay buried. You would not call such a man rich, neither would I call happy the man who is so without realizing it.”

Eric Hoffer: “The search for happiness is one of the chief sources of unhappiness.”

Sartre: “Hell is other people.” [Actually, hell is other people, but heaven is other people, too.]

Willa Cather: “One cannot divine nor forecast the conditions that will make happiness; one only stumbles upon them…

Alexander Smith: “We are never happy; we can only remember that we were so once.”

My Eighth Splendid Truth is “Now is now“; it means many things, but among other things, it reminds to remember the happiness that is here and now.

John Stuart Mill: “Ask yourself whether you are happy, and you cease to be so.”

I reject this statement, but I would agree “Ask yourself whether you are happy on a scale from 1 to 5, and you cease to be so.” For me, at least, trying to make those kinds of tricky judgments diminishes happiness — I find it very difficult to answer a question like that — while the simple question, “Am I happy?” contributes to happiness.

?How about you?
Do you agree or disagree with these theories?

I found a lot of great material on Greatist.

 


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    Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 16 Jan 2012
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Rubin, G. (2012). 7 Questionable Theories on Happiness. Psych Central. Retrieved on December 22, 2014, from http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2012/01/16/7-questionable-theories-on-happiness/

 

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