My Home: Exciting and PeacefulThe first line in Gertrude Stein’s Paris France is:

Paris, France is exciting and peaceful.”

For a moment, I was surprised by this pairing of words — but then I realized, it’s not really surprising. Paris is exciting and peaceful.

I’d been thinking along these lines about my home (no surprise, I spend a lot of time thinking about home these days, while I’m working on my next book, Happier at Home).

I have what seem to be, at first, paradoxical desires for my own home.

My home should calm me, and energize me. It should be a comforting, quiet refuge and a place of excitement and possibility. It should call to my mind the past, the present, and the future. It should be a snuggery of privacy and reflection, but also a gathering place that strengthens my engagement with other people.

By making me feel safe, it should embolden me to take risks. I want a feeling of home so strong that no matter where I go, I take that feeling with me; at the same time, I want to find adventure without leaving my apartment. My home should suit me, and also suit my husband and daughters.

But as I considered this list, I saw that these weren’t, in fact, contradictory desires. I want my home to be exciting and peaceful.

To think that a home must be either exciting or peaceful is a false choice. (It’s surprisingly easy to fall into false choices, I’ve realized.)

?How about you?
If you had to sum it up in a few adjectives, what kind of home do you want to create?

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    Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 12 Nov 2011
    Published on PsychCentral.com. All rights reserved.

APA Reference
Rubin, G. (2011). My Home: Exciting and Peaceful. Psych Central. Retrieved on August 28, 2014, from http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2011/11/12/my-home-exciting-and-peaceful/

 

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