I’m not sure we’re ever fully immune to it-that pout, that stomp, that automatic childlike reaction to things not going our way. “It’s not fair,” seems to never want to grow up. As we get older, however, the disappointments get bigger.
It’s not the game we lost, but the games we can’t even play that upsets us.
It’s not the rides we can’t get on, but the rides that life thrusts upon us on that really gets our goat.
It’s not the gifts we didn’t get, but the unwanted gifts we got that makes us want to be a kid again, throw our hands up in the air, cry and scream, “It’s not fair!”
Whether it’s physical or mental illness, tragedy or a natural disaster, life will hand us unexpected challenges. Challenges that we didn’t imagine as kids fantasizing about all the fun we’d have when we grew up and could do whatever we wanted.
The good news is that we do have choices. The top posts this week shows us new ways to look past limitations whether it’s working through your marriage when you have a child with ADHD or coping with the recent hurricane.
I like to think of reversing “It’s not fair” and turning impossibility to possibility with this hopeful quote from the book Alice in Wonderland:
Alice laughed. “There’s no use trying,” she said: “one can’t believe impossible things.”
“I daresay you haven’t had much practice,” said the Queen. “When I was your age, I always did it for half-an-hour a day. Why, sometimes I’ve believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast.”
(Adventures in Positive Psychology) – Positive Psychology is a field with real, practical and pragmatic exercises that can be used by clinicians in therapy. Instead of focusing on problems, dysfunctions, and illness, therapists focus on helping patients to be happier, healthier and enjoy their lives. Here’s how.
(Healing Together for Couples) – You may be able to switch off the anxiety provoking sounds of the latest news updates on the TV by tuning out, but your child cannot. Here’s how to protect them from the overwhelming impact of 24/7 news and use the coverage of a recent natural disaster as a teaching opportunity to model the proper use of media.
(The Therapist Within) – Your greatest teacher could be sitting right next to you. You just need to be open to the wisdom your whole self has to offer. Read this to find out how.
(Neuroscience & Relationships) – You want or need something from someone, but you feel like it’s impossible to get. Maybe it’s the way you’re asking it or maybe you’re not asking them at all. Here are the obstacles that get in the way of what you want and how you can overcome them by being clear about your requests.
(Mindfulness & Psychotherapy) – Being in a relationship is hard. Add kids to the mix and it’s even harder. Add kids with special needs in and you’ve got the right combination for a potentially challenging relationship. This post offers a mindful approach to smoothing out the bumps in your relationship.
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Uyemura, B. (2011). Best of Our Blogs: August 30, 2011. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 6, 2015, from http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2011/08/30/best-of-our-blogs-august-30-2011/