The stories you tell yourself about yourself are probably not only untrue, but could be hazardous to your health. This is particularly the case where those “stories” are negative and unconscious.
I’ll share a personal story to explain what I mean.
When I was about 8 or 9 years old, my dad got laid-off from his job. In order to collect unemployment, he needed to show he was actively searching for a job. One week he applied for a job as a courtesy clerk for a local supermarket. He didn’t think he would actually get it nor did he really want it. He assumed being in his thirties and working in management positions prior made him overqualified. But surprise, surprise, he got the job anyway.
He remembers it as one of the most embarrassing days of his life and was ashamed when I saw him bagging groceries into paper and plastic bags.
I remember the day quite differently.
Seeing my dad do what he needed to do to make money made me beam with pride. I’ll never forget how I felt seeing him in the supermarket. Yet, it was only a few years ago when he first realized how I felt.
Funny how the same moment garnered very different reactions in both of us. I wonder how his belief about his self and his job impacted his life. I wonder how what you’re thinking about your own situation is impacting yours. There are always an alternative way to perceive the same situation. Which way are you looking at your life?
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