Most therapists, even before they were therapists, have a natural ear for pain. They are like magnets attracting people who are in dire need of a listener. I know because I was one of them. And over the years, I’ve learned that the real challenge underlying all of the stuff they talked about was acceptance.
People felt rejected, heartbroken, beaten up emotionally because they felt that the life they were living wasn’t the life that they were supposed to be living. They mourned their inability to look a certain way, be a certain kind of person or get married and have kids by a certain age and be nurtured unconditionally by two loving parents. But life never unfolds the way we think it’s supposed to. And there is a lot of grief in that.
One of the most painful things to contend with is the idea that who we are and how we are living our lives is not the norm. One of the hardest things in life is to accept this.
This weekend is Father’s Day. Because holidays often trigger that same pain, whether it’s from loss of a loved one or grief over the father we never had, I hope you will be kind to yourself. I hope that you will find a way celebrate love regardless of your situation. Whether that may mean spending time with loved ones or celebrating other fatherly figures in your life, I wish for you love, acceptance, and kindness as you celebrate your own unique holiday.
(Weightless) – When did fat become society’s hated enemy? In this intriguing post, Margarita looks back at our long-held hatred for fat and how our desire to cure and absolve ourselves from it has ties to our view of fat today.
(The Creative Mind) – Guess there is a fine balance between the illumination creativity provides and its dark side especially when it comes to business. If you’re lacking in the creative department, here are five ways to cultivate your inner innovative genius. On the other hand, this post also discusses some of the cons of being considered “too creative” in business.
(Partners in Wellness) – One way to relieve anxiety about pregnancy is to understand what to expect especially when it comes to women with mental illness. This is a great guide for women and their families on how to manage illness and prepare for what’s next.
(Mindfulness & Psychotherapy) – I think we’ve established why play is important. This post discusses the how in the acronym P.L.A.Y. N.O.W. so you can begin to incorporate more joy, openness and resilience in your life.
(Anxiety & OCD Exposed) – Everyone has a solution for kids on how to boost self-esteem and reduce bullying. But are any of them helpful? How about hurtful? This post asks us to look deeper into potential curriculum and programs to make sure and find what is best for our kids not just what looks good on the surface.
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