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In a writing class recently, my teacher said, “Don’t rush the process.” It made me think of a falling feather.

I thought of the way a feather floats down gracefully, floating back and forth, slowly like a dance. There is no rushing a feather. Throwing it down forcefully will not make it get to the ground faster. And there would be something heartbreaking if we tried. We would be missing out out on its beautiful, unpredictable path.

It’s also a way to think about healing. It’s frustrating to not be there yet. It’s normal to want to be 100% over whatever it is that is ailing you. It’s normal to want to be successful without going through the challenges and obstacles it takes to get there.

But remember. No matter how much you want it, forcing it won’t get you there faster. Speeding up the process won’t take away what hurts. Only slow gradual progress like the up and down dance of a feather falling will.

How to Be Mindful and Have More Positivity

(Adventures in Positive Psychology) – Don’t you think everyone could use more positivity in their lives? Here are three reasons mindfulness helps increase positivity and a meditation to help you to be more mindful.

How Your Relationships Shape You: Neuroscience, Therapy and Mind

(The Therapist Within) – An interesting look at interpersonal neurobiology. It closes the gap between all of us and reinforces the idea that we are all connected.

Shortcut to Inspiration: How to Get Connected to What Really Matters

(Mindfulness & Psychotherapy) – Last week, I could feel a woman hovering near me. She was rushing to get past me because I was too slow in the salad bar line. It made me wonder, “Where was she rushing off to?” If that sounds like you, stop and read this. It’s the inspiration you need to remember what’s most important in life.

The Responsibilities of Depression and Alcoholism

(Depression on My Mind) – There is a lot involved with recovery and mental illness management. But above all those things is an important question that must be asked, “Is what I am doing right now bringing me closer or further from a depression and a drink?”

How Conscious Attention Effects Positive Change in the Brain, Part I

(Neuroscience & Relationships) – This intriguing post looks at how our thoughts (both unconscious and conscious) can change our reality. Read this and start changing your life today.



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    Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 12 Apr 2011
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Uyemura, B. (2011). Best of Our Blogs: April 12, 2011. Psych Central. Retrieved on December 18, 2014, from


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