Comments on: 10 Tips to Mend a Broken Heart http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2011/02/18/10-tips-to-mend-a-broken-heart/ Dr. John Grohol's daily update on all things in psychology and mental health. Since 1999. Fri, 10 May 2013 19:21:13 +0000 hourly 1 By: Adam http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2011/02/18/10-tips-to-mend-a-broken-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-743669 Adam Thu, 09 May 2013 02:44:33 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=14186#comment-743669 I can relate to your story, I'm in a similar but opposite situation. I'm been in love with a married co-worker for several years now. She was very friendly and flirtatious with me when I first met her. We were friends on facebook for a while then she unfriended me for some reason. It seems like anything we could have had is over now, but she keep me hanging on with the occasional smile and friendly comment. I'm so confused. I can relate to your story, I’m in a similar but opposite situation. I’m been in love with a married co-worker for several years now. She was very friendly and flirtatious with me when I first met her. We were friends on facebook for a while then she unfriended me for some reason. It seems like anything we could have had is over now, but she keep me hanging on with the occasional smile and friendly comment. I’m so confused.

]]> By: netzy http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2011/02/18/10-tips-to-mend-a-broken-heart/comment-page-2/#comment-743580 netzy Mon, 06 May 2013 17:53:49 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=14186#comment-743580 i totally, loved this . i am going through some stuff. just broke up with a guy i love so much. he hurt me so bad an am thinking how am i gonna move on from this. this has really helped me. am going to go through this and not around it. it just hurts too much. but i know am strong. and i have hope that something good will come out of this experience *hopefully*. i will take a while to get over him but i guess its for the best. i totally, loved this . i am going through some stuff. just broke up with a guy i love so much. he hurt me so bad an am thinking how am i gonna move on from this. this has really helped me. am going to go through this and not around it. it just hurts too much. but i know am strong. and i have hope that something good will come out of this experience *hopefully*. i will take a while to get over him but i guess its for the best.

]]> By: Luckylou http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2011/02/18/10-tips-to-mend-a-broken-heart/comment-page-2/#comment-743416 Luckylou Tue, 30 Apr 2013 05:24:49 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=14186#comment-743416 I broke up a few weeks ago with a lovely,lovely man. He broke up with me rather.Life without him hurts like crazy but I have to forge ahead. My mother left me with some really good advice,told me that I have to live to live in this world and that life goes on.That advice has proved helpful in a number of situations,this latest one among them. Someone who counsels people a lot told me that I need to mourn the passing of this relationship,the death of a relationship is like the death of a person. A bereavement.Allow yourself to mourn. Like me,others might find it helpful to take a holiday from men-just go to all women things for a while.That's what I'm doing. I broke up a few weeks ago with a lovely,lovely man. He broke up with me rather.Life without him hurts like crazy but I have to forge ahead. My mother left me with some really good advice,told me that I have to live to live in this world and that life goes on.That advice has proved helpful in a number of situations,this latest one among them. Someone who counsels people a lot told me that I need to mourn the passing of this relationship,the death of a relationship is like the death of a person. A bereavement.Allow yourself to mourn. Like me,others might find it helpful to take a holiday from men-just go to all women things for a while.That’s what I’m doing.

]]> By: PJ http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2011/02/18/10-tips-to-mend-a-broken-heart/comment-page-2/#comment-743332 PJ Sat, 27 Apr 2013 06:34:20 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=14186#comment-743332 No, Joe, it isn't better to have loved and lost than never having loved. That is a pure cliché. These things come from people who are NOT suffering at the moment and it's lousy counsel. The absolute harsh truth is that lost love hurts deeply and long. The pain isn't shrugged off. And, another thing is this: love may NOT come again. Let's be real about this and not fall into the blithe pollyanna talk. I appreciate your attempt to be encouraging, but I also appreciate candor and a realistic point-of-view. No offense meant to you at all. No, Joe, it isn’t better to have loved and lost than never having loved. That is a pure cliché. These things come from people who are NOT suffering at the moment and it’s lousy counsel. The absolute harsh truth is that lost love hurts deeply and long. The pain isn’t shrugged off. And, another thing is this: love may NOT come again. Let’s be real about this and not fall into the blithe pollyanna talk. I appreciate your attempt to be encouraging, but I also appreciate candor and a realistic point-of-view. No offense meant to you at all.

]]> By: anonymous http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2011/02/18/10-tips-to-mend-a-broken-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-743293 anonymous Thu, 25 Apr 2013 10:44:27 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=14186#comment-743293 Hypnotism Hypnotism

]]> By: anonymous http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2011/02/18/10-tips-to-mend-a-broken-heart/comment-page-2/#comment-743292 anonymous Thu, 25 Apr 2013 10:42:13 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=14186#comment-743292 I have tried all of this I even moved as far a possible but I still feel the pain its killing me inside I don't what to do anymore I just want my life over I have tried all of this I even moved as far a possible but I still feel the pain its killing me inside I don’t what to do anymore I just want my life over

]]> By: Maria http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2011/02/18/10-tips-to-mend-a-broken-heart/comment-page-2/#comment-743283 Maria Wed, 24 Apr 2013 23:35:10 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=14186#comment-743283 Even though this situation with my ex has happened and I set myself free. My heart is still in pain, I found myself crying today for the first time in weeks. NOT because I want him back. More of the pain and hurt he has caused for what?? Really for what? I do not understand, why people want to hurt other human beings... :( I really do hope, wish that everyone on this site , who has commented. Find love and true happiness because you deserve it. With love xx Even though this situation with my ex has happened and I set myself free. My heart is still in pain, I found myself crying today for the first time in weeks. NOT because I want him back. More of the pain and hurt he has caused for what?? Really for what? I do not understand, why people want to hurt other human beings… :(

I really do hope, wish that everyone on this site , who has commented. Find love and true happiness because you deserve it. With love xx

]]> By: broken http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2011/02/18/10-tips-to-mend-a-broken-heart/comment-page-2/#comment-743221 broken Mon, 22 Apr 2013 06:22:06 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=14186#comment-743221 I broke up my boyfriend two days ago as I found out that he is still sleeping with his ex partner. It hurts and the pain is unbearable. I can't function at work, I can't think properly, I can't eat or sleep. When will this pain go away. I just want to feel normal again and forget this person. Help!! I broke up my boyfriend two days ago as I found out that he is still sleeping with his ex partner. It hurts and the pain is unbearable. I can’t function at work, I can’t think properly, I can’t eat or sleep. When will this pain go away. I just want to feel normal again and forget this person. Help!!

]]> By: Jessie http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2011/02/18/10-tips-to-mend-a-broken-heart/comment-page-2/#comment-743155 Jessie Fri, 19 Apr 2013 12:05:11 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=14186#comment-743155 It's good to see others are going through the same sorts of things. I don't feel so alone. I just got dumped and I always wonder what about all the promises? Like ill never leave you Jessie.. Why would someone say that stuff ? It's so hard. It’s good to see others are going through the same sorts of things. I don’t feel so alone. I just got dumped and I always wonder what about all the promises? Like ill never leave you Jessie.. Why would someone say that stuff ? It’s so hard.

]]> By: just me http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2011/02/18/10-tips-to-mend-a-broken-heart/comment-page-2/#comment-743045 just me Sun, 14 Apr 2013 20:38:26 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=14186#comment-743045 That's one of the smartest things I've ever heard. So simple, yet so hard. That’s one of the smartest things I’ve ever heard. So simple, yet so hard.

]]> By: samehere http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2011/02/18/10-tips-to-mend-a-broken-heart/comment-page-1/#comment-742998 samehere Fri, 12 Apr 2013 14:39:56 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=14186#comment-742998 I met a man 8 yrs ago and he made me feel so special, I travelled the world with him and nothing was ever too much for me. He had been disloyal to 2 other partners (one his ex wife) but assured me they where never right for him and he loved me more than anyone alse he had ever been with. % days before xmas in 2012 I rang him and he never put the phone down. I overheard him having a conversation with a woman he had obviously had a relationship with before and he was inviting her back to a flat he still had but was renting out. I felt my whole world had fallen apart. I rang him back and told him I heard everything and told him not to come back or I would call the police. He rang me the whole night until about 5am, I felt satisfied that he had not been with anyone and when he begged me to give him a second chance I did. The past 16 months have been hell. All we have done is argue. If I ask him anything he gets paranoid and says I will never forget and don't trust him, when I was trying my best to get over it. 2 weeks ago he left, I got a text message telling me not to contact him again. I feel so sad that I had tried so hard to forgive him and when it suited him he just upped and left without a backward glance. I have a heavy heart, I feel hurt and angry and hate the uncertainties about the future. I am dreaming about him having another woman and its all so heartbreaking. I met a man 8 yrs ago and he made me feel so special, I travelled the world with him and nothing was ever too much for me. He had been disloyal to 2 other partners (one his ex wife) but assured me they where never right for him and he loved me more than anyone alse he had ever been with. % days before xmas in 2012 I rang him and he never put the phone down. I overheard him having a conversation with a woman he had obviously had a relationship with before and he was inviting her back to a flat he still had but was renting out. I felt my whole world had fallen apart. I rang him back and told him I heard everything and told him not to come back or I would call the police. He rang me the whole night until about 5am, I felt satisfied that he had not been with anyone and when he begged me to give him a second chance I did. The past 16 months have been hell. All we have done is argue. If I ask him anything he gets paranoid and says I will never forget and don’t trust him, when I was trying my best to get over it. 2 weeks ago he left, I got a text message telling me not to contact him again. I feel so sad that I had tried so hard to forgive him and when it suited him he just upped and left without a backward glance. I have a heavy heart, I feel hurt and angry and hate the uncertainties about the future. I am dreaming about him having another woman and its all so heartbreaking.

]]> By: Malkah http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2011/02/18/10-tips-to-mend-a-broken-heart/comment-page-2/#comment-742982 Malkah Thu, 11 Apr 2013 20:20:25 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=14186#comment-742982 Hi guys.... I feel so unlucky, I just can't take this... I just broke up with this monster this minute!! He just makes me feel so rejected, like am always the wrong person. He is not concerned abt me and when I complain it look like '' y do I like fights ?'' at first i thought of patience but honestly I think I urgently need to be single, maybe I can be stronger,but it just kills me inside... It hurts me such that I fail to understand y fail to controll my emotions... But after reading this article I feel eased, much better. I hope I wil make it and.... I will be a super woman.... Hi guys…. I feel so unlucky, I just can’t take this… I just broke up with this monster this minute!! He just makes me feel so rejected, like am always the wrong person. He is not concerned abt me and when I complain it look like ” y do I like fights ?” at first i thought of patience but honestly I think I urgently need to be single, maybe I can be stronger,but it just kills me inside… It hurts me such that I fail to understand y fail to controll my emotions… But after reading this article I feel eased, much better. I hope I wil make it and…. I will be a super woman….

]]> By: Franko http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2011/02/18/10-tips-to-mend-a-broken-heart/comment-page-2/#comment-742841 Franko Sun, 07 Apr 2013 13:32:49 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=14186#comment-742841 For me, the best medicine for the broken heart is a good workout, or more like several weeks of them ;-) It's the best way to get your mind off of the bad stuff and back into a good place. Yoga is great too, drop in on a class next time you're at the gym and the clearing effect on your mind is fantastic! For me, the best medicine for the broken heart is a good workout, or more like several weeks of them ;-)
It’s the best way to get your mind off of the bad stuff and back into a good place. Yoga is great too, drop in on a class next time you’re at the gym and the clearing effect on your mind is fantastic!

]]> By: Maria http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2011/02/18/10-tips-to-mend-a-broken-heart/comment-page-2/#comment-742456 Maria Sun, 31 Mar 2013 13:04:52 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=14186#comment-742456 Jason , I'm sorry for the immensely late reply. I have had so many things change and happen in my life over the last few months. A quick update on things, I'm still not with him. As I mentioned before, I changed my number. My ex found my new number out and has been harassing me since. I have ignored every phone call, text and emails. It's everyday....! He also keeps turning up at my house, he has threaten to kick down the door etc. I have called the police, but they are not much use. In the end I have been forced to move house to somewhere else. It's been a stressful few months, I do realise one thing. That we are better, without these ex's in our life. Don't get me wrong I still get low days, that is from everything that is/has been happening. At the same time I feel a bit stronger each day. I don't regret parting from this person. The only regret was letting this person hurt me for so long. How are you feeling now and your situation? You sounded in immense heart ache,sorry I was not there when u needed. Please accept my apologies. Jason ,

I’m sorry for the immensely late reply. I have had so many things change and happen in my life over the last few months. A quick update on things, I’m still not with him. As I mentioned before, I changed my number. My ex found my new number out and has been harassing me since. I have ignored every phone call, text and emails. It’s everyday….! He also keeps turning up at my house, he has threaten to kick down the door etc. I have called the police, but they are not much use. In the end I have been forced to move house to somewhere else. It’s been a stressful few months, I do realise one thing. That we are better, without these ex’s in our life. Don’t get me wrong I still get low days, that is from everything that is/has been happening. At the same time I feel a bit stronger each day. I don’t regret parting from this person. The only regret was letting this person hurt me for so long. How are you feeling now and your situation? You sounded in immense heart ache,sorry I was not there when u needed. Please accept my apologies.

]]> By: MsLaura518 http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2011/02/18/10-tips-to-mend-a-broken-heart/comment-page-2/#comment-742350 MsLaura518 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 22:52:51 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=14186#comment-742350 Thank you. Sincerely. Thank you. Sincerely.

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