Comments on: Spotlight on Borderline Personality Disorder

By: Beth

Beth — Fri, 26 Apr 2013 17:17:11 +0000

Hi, Cindy,
Have you read the book “Men who hate women and women who love them”? Maybe your husband is a misogynist…I’ve been married 14 years with one and was a relief when I finally divorced him. When I read this book I understood what was wrong with both of us.
Good luck.
Beth,from Brazil.

By: tina

tina — Tue, 02 Oct 2012 22:29:31 +0000

Well… I just finished reading some of these posts.I have just recently been diagnosed with BPD by my T.There is a part of me that is relieved in finally knowing what has been going on for years. However, there is the other part of me that is scared as hell.The good thing is I have a fantastic therapist. She specializes in BPD, substance abuse, trauma, and PTSDall of which I have been dealing with since childhoodI was sexually abused by my older brother, who alsowas emotionally, psychologically and verbally abusiveall combined with rages. i was TERRIFIED of him and still am… although I live far away from him and have no contact. I am grateful that I FINALLYhave found an expert and incredible T. because she is patient, compassionate and caring on every level. It has taken a year of therapy with her to finally trust the fact that she is not going to abandon me; (I was dumped by another T.) Even though I am afraid of my diagnosis, I think I can now begin the process of healing. I am 51 yrs. old and I feel I am just beginning the journey. Ihave been in and out…(mostly in)therapy for over 20 yrs. and I now know that I have the righttherapist in my life. I have always believed that I am not lucky. I NOW KNOW that I am. For anyone who is having trouble finding the “right” T. DO NOT GIVE UP!!! Ultimately you will.

By: Janet

Janet — Wed, 18 Apr 2012 16:18:39 +0000

One of the scariest people I have ever met was an ex-roommate who has BPD. I heard her twice unleash extreme uncontrollable rage at others for what seemed to be minor disagreements. When she gave me a month’s notice she turned into a monster, verbally abusing me to the point I registered a complaint with the police because I thought I’d need to call them for protection. In 1 l/2 years of sharing an apartment I’d given her a wide berth. We’d never before exchanged an angry word.

My late mother was schizophrenic. But that was nothing compared to my ex-roommate who is the closest I’ve ever come to insanity.

By: lola

lola — Fri, 23 Mar 2012 22:51:22 +0000

i was diagnosed with bpd about 3 years ago.Reading all these comments scares me into thinking how our loved ones put up with us but also how us sufferers are affecting and possible causing our children to be bpd later in life. I scare myself sometimes at how verbally abusive i can be with my children(history repeating its self)My mother was quite verbally abusive with me and my brother turns out she has a mental and physical condition.
And the episodes of explosive anger which can be physical i hate myself when this happens it starts out as aggitation then boom the first person you see gets it. I hate this shit when i was a teen i was very bad now im 25 and plauged with anxiety i get upset if my friends dont text me and get worried and think i have done wrong to them………its ridiculous….then when it comes to the person you love, i have been with him 5 years and put him threw hell with verbally abusing him trying to make him feel like he is neglagent towards me and taking my agressioIts out on him. In the last while things have changed i dont feel agressive towards him anymore he has turned into my rock and when i am really bad with anxiety or stupid negative thoughts he is the one i hug and get advice from and reassurance.I have realisedmost of my problems like anxiety depression ect in the last while i have spent hours reading and retrainning myself to think differently i want to be normal to feel satisfaction and happyness for once and i cant find this in taking medication or phycotherapy i think selfhelp for me may be the way to go if not i will keep trying untill the end…which will not be anytime soon

By: Menoll123

Menoll123 — Sun, 26 Feb 2012 22:29:56 +0000

sure, you see someone with horrific scars and your only interest is to add to them…get out of her life and quit adding to her pain. Even if she still loves you, you are toxic in every way…she’ll have some chance to heal if you’re not poisoning her some more.

By: Menoll123

Menoll123 — Sun, 26 Feb 2012 22:27:28 +0000

ever thought of trying logic? This is what happened, this is what COULD have happened, this is what I wanted to happen, this is how it would have been better for you. No vague, open ended promises, no you’re a bad person for not doing what I want. just work with the black and white of it all and be HONEST!!!! BPD might be related to biology, but environment and learning opprotunities that were negative had far more to do with it. Even if you don’t want to see how you let your daughter down as a child, don’t keep doing it to her now, not if you honestly want to help her, instead of continuing the abuse that gave her the problem in the first place.

By: Dragonfly

Dragonfly — Fri, 30 Dec 2011 20:03:46 +0000

On 12-24 I had a total black out. I hit and kicked and yelled profanity at my husband. He left me that night. I am now without my husband and more depressed than ever. I called my doctor and explained what happened and they increased my Lithium. I also am seeking therepy for this. I made my first intake appointment yesturday. This thing that overtakes me at times is like a very unwanted monster. It comes at the most unwanted times and it comes without any warning. It is very hurtful to the ones that I love the most. I do not know how to make it go away and stop hurting.

By: trying

trying — Fri, 30 Dec 2011 13:02:32 +0000

The last week has been very painful. My husband hates me

By: Bill

Bill — Fri, 25 Nov 2011 04:25:03 +0000

I’ve read a lot of posts of different people with this disorder and still feel alone.I don’t know how old I am, Don’t know anyone who I am related to. Had 10 different families before I was 15.(non foster) I’ve been abused in every way u can abuse a little boy. I have never been loved by anyone.I am now about 50 years old and just can’t go on any longer.I really was holding on for help, but there just isn’t any for me.I truley believe I had the worst life anyone could ever of had.Drs. told me I have bpd, bipolar, ptsd, obsessive compulsive dis. None of the lables matter to me.I do not have any happy times in my whole life. I am good or great at almost everything I do, but I couldn’t keep a job much longer than a few months. I am now on disability. bpd should be getting better with age, but It is worse. I can’t funtion properly around other people. It is such a struggle each and every day just to get through another day.I am truley at the end of the line. I have children, that is the only thing that has kept me alive this long,but that is no longer enough. I don’t know if anyone else lives with this much pain. I can’t any more.Maybe I’m week. Thanks for listening to me. If anyone is, that is.
If anyone reads this and can help me, PLEASE!!!!!!!!! I don’t think I can make it much longer.
My name is bill. 951-265-1382

By: mlt401

mlt401 — Mon, 07 Nov 2011 04:11:33 +0000

I am sad from a recent breakup and I am feeling many things. I was emotional and verbally abused to some level. Physical was on it’s way with hair pulling. I know this is wrong for so many reasons. My reactions were calm, I feel. I never struck back with only ugly angry words. They were my only defense. Here I am blaming myself, lol. My thinking is a little warped right now. I know this. I looked into BPD in the past. I tend to suffer from situational depression of some sorts. Really never sought out treatment because I couldn’t afford it. I was put on meds by my PCP. I was never diagnosed. I tend to self diagnose, lol. I am not a hypercondriac by any means. I only want to know what is wrong with me, lol. I want an answer to why I am feeling this way. I know about my stuff and issues and I am very self aware. Maybe too much for my own good. I am off all meds and feel okay. Except for now. I know I can’t control anyone’s actions and I know I can only control my reactions. But, there is where my problem lies. I was pushed to have a trust issue. I know I was provoked and I lost some self respect
and some trust. I am guilty with an explanation. No one got harmed, hurt, arrested or died. I made more of an ass out out my self. No excuse. I know this.This is what my question is. I did have a fear of abandonment with this, and had I not been provoked this would of never happened. but, when provoked I can go to my extreme. I am a pretty passive person, so my extreme is not that wild, lol. but, the fact that it is an issue concerns me. Someone just tell me I am nuts, lol.

By: lonelyblonde

lonelyblonde — Mon, 03 Oct 2011 00:49:04 +0000

she’s just struggling. help her

By: fed up jack

fed up jack — Tue, 12 Jul 2011 23:03:56 +0000

she needs professional help..ie mandated commitment for hospitalization and therapy

By: fed up jack

fed up jack — Tue, 12 Jul 2011 22:47:51 +0000

I am married to a bpd monster…we call her dr jeckyl /mr hyde..she attempted suicide recently…and was committed to a mental hospital for 3 weeks….the best 3 weeks my and my girls have had in 5 years… the issue is everyone says she is diagnosed now so learn all about bpd support her. It will get better. I could careless at this point because with all the crap she has put on us..the love is long gone.. My daughter just want to run and i am waiting for them to fly so i can get the hell out too..should I fell guilty because I dont…

By: Bpd parent

Bpd parent — Fri, 25 Feb 2011 05:26:14 +0000

I have a 21 year old daughter, who has had eating disorders,depression,and a bipolar diagnosis. I now suspect bpd. She has been through years of treatment, and I am having problems getting her to continue treatment. Suggestions other than threats and bribes would be appreciated

By: dbt4bpd

dbt4bpd — Thu, 24 Feb 2011 04:49:27 +0000

DBT. DBT. DBT.
you have to be chemically aided in order to absorb it and you have to work at it. but it’s gold for BPD.
diagnosed at 29! I’m now 36, married and I’ve 3 kids. not a death sentence by any means. I have a close family member who is paranoid schizophrenic and I keep wishing she just had BPD. its most turbulent before you get into your 30s. back when we thought the family member only had BPD tendencies she was able to learn so much before the schizo became more apparent.
Again, DBT. cannot stress enough.