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Sat, 26 May 2012 02:27:01 +0000 hourly 1 By: kgj http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/09/05/boys-and-girls-not-as-different-as-we-thought/comment-page-1/#comment-723024 kgj Sun, 04 Dec 2011 04:11:19 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=5774#comment-723024 hey ... im a 18 year old high school girl and ive understood this just walking through life and discovered it the past couple of years... wow... great minds think alike... i have noticed this though... even with labido and sex drive... or willingness to disobey parents.... i know guy friends... who at 17 want .. well to keep it on certain terms.. want none of that from girl friends and others who just assume that becuase they are a guy they should want the complete opppisite... i think alot of this had to do with the former friend had a somwhat abusive father and messed up family he went to a christian school... and was a boy scout and involved in a very christian family.... he thought it was bad essentially to do so i would assume.... with out thinking through the insticnts and phyicallites of it.. i also have grown up in a family with women who act weak just because they are women and seen men who act week and men who dont.. i really think its a choice and for some who havent cut the cord it has to deal with parents but for those who are smart its not so much.. but rather an understanding of this.... and im trying to break the chain... and not act weak because of it... its nothing she really just said straight up.. but.. its implied.. i also know some 50 year old men who are just emotionally weak as all get out.. who run and hid when things get tough... and women who stand when things are "so called bad" in life...i really think it all has to do with fearlessness.. athletic wise ive seen this from going to being that kid who was picked last on the playgroud to the fastest runner and one of the best dancers on my elite team... its all about your phyc...... part of my reason for understanding this may be having spent time in phyc hospital and being on tons of meds until i got myself off....so my understanding of the phyc brain is really good also with being a dancer .. you have to know how to act well.. and understanging the phyc of those you act like i also believe this phycological developement has a lot to do with the bigger muscle build tendecies in men... and the appearance of the adams apple being more prominent in men often..... one other thing i observed is that teenage girls are often considered way more emotional.. and when in middle and high school ages cry for no reason and are often more emotional and feirce.. you could say.. i think this is because as women you start to realize that your not in kindergaurtenn anynmore.. and that the world isnt fair and that you are going to be treated as more emotionally and physically unable..its harder sometimes to be a woman in a society that looks down on them.. but too often women are too nieve to beable to think this through when growing up... women are also considered to typically machure 2 to 3 years faster than boys.. i also believe that this has to do with the toughen up that is instilled in boys today.. men follow a more just do it philosophy.. because in todays sociey it is ok to be a guy.. and typically your guy friends will back you up... when somones goin against you.. but with girls... your treated as if you need to back down sometimes... and typically many girls in society will never back you up... so you have to be stronger grow stronger... and to do so... you find wisdom.. that backs up your knowlege to believe because by this time... the typical person has developed an assumption that common sense is real.. which is wrong.. and that believing in common sense is wise... which is bad and wrong.. no matter what you tell me.... and they all to often have develooped this so unconciusly that they dont even know it.... loved reading this study.. awsome great study... good to read hey … im a 18 year old high school girl and ive understood this just walking through life and discovered it the past couple of years… wow… great minds think alike… i have noticed this though… even with labido and sex drive… or willingness to disobey parents…. i know guy friends… who at 17 want .. well to keep it on certain terms.. want none of that from girl friends and others who just assume that becuase they are a guy they should want the complete opppisite… i think alot of this had to do with the former friend had a somwhat abusive father and messed up family he went to a christian school… and was a boy scout and involved in a very christian family…. he thought it was bad essentially to do so i would assume…. with out thinking through the insticnts and phyicallites of it.. i also have grown up in a family with women who act weak just because they are women and seen men who act week and men who dont.. i really think its a choice and for some who havent cut the cord it has to deal with parents but for those who are smart its not so much.. but rather an understanding of this…. and im trying to break the chain… and not act weak because of it… its nothing she really just said straight up.. but.. its implied.. i also know some 50 year old men who are just emotionally weak as all get out.. who run and hid when things get tough… and women who stand when things are “so called bad” in life…i really think it all has to do with fearlessness..

athletic wise ive seen this from going to being that kid who was picked last on the playgroud to the fastest runner and one of the best dancers on my elite team… its all about your phyc……

part of my reason for understanding this may be having spent time in phyc hospital and being on tons of meds until i got myself off….so my understanding of the phyc brain is really good

also with being a dancer .. you have to know how to act well.. and understanging the phyc of those you act like

i also believe this phycological developement has a lot to do with the bigger muscle build tendecies in men… and the appearance of the adams apple being more prominent in men often…..

one other thing i observed is that teenage girls are often considered way more emotional.. and when in middle and high school ages cry for no reason and are often more emotional and feirce.. you could say.. i think this is because as women you start to realize that your not in kindergaurtenn anynmore.. and that the world isnt fair and that you are going to be treated as more emotionally and physically unable..its harder sometimes to be a woman in a society that looks down on them.. but too often women are too nieve to beable to think this through when growing up…

women are also considered to typically machure 2 to 3 years faster than boys.. i also believe that this has to do with the toughen up that is instilled in boys today.. men follow a more just do it philosophy.. because in todays sociey it is ok to be a guy.. and typically your guy friends will back you up… when somones goin against you..

but with girls… your treated as if you need to back down sometimes… and typically many girls in society will never back you up…

so you have to be stronger grow stronger… and to do so… you find wisdom.. that backs up your knowlege to believe

because by this time… the typical person has developed an assumption that common sense is real.. which is wrong.. and that believing in common sense is wise… which is bad and wrong.. no matter what you tell me…. and they all to often have develooped this so unconciusly that they dont even know it….

loved reading this study.. awsome

great study… good to read

]]> By: kathy williams http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/09/05/boys-and-girls-not-as-different-as-we-thought/comment-page-1/#comment-718254 kathy williams Tue, 13 Sep 2011 23:25:58 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=5774#comment-718254 My daughter is emotionally strong and a very secure emotional woman. My daughter is emotionally strong and a very secure emotional woman.

]]> By: kathy williams http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/09/05/boys-and-girls-not-as-different-as-we-thought/comment-page-1/#comment-718253 kathy williams Tue, 13 Sep 2011 23:24:18 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=5774#comment-718253 I agree with the lady above. Many people make the mistake of trying to treat boys rough because they want them to be rough, yet I have seen the boys get very sensitive and continue to be emotionally abused. then when they began to act out and be bad the parent then says: oh he's a piece of work. I raised a girl, and she was easy to raise because i tended to her feelings and how she felt. My daughter had a son, and they think that treating him mean will make him strong, but he is emotionally a wreck and then they wonder why it's easy to spoil him--which I do. I have to stop giving him his way on some things but I will always let him know I'm His friend and care about his emotions. I can't wait till he starts talking. I agree with the lady above. Many people make the mistake of trying to treat boys rough because they want them to be rough, yet I have seen the boys get very sensitive and continue to be emotionally abused. then when they began to act out and be bad the parent then says: oh he’s a piece of work. I raised a girl, and she was easy to raise because i tended to her feelings and how she felt. My daughter had a son, and they think that treating him mean will make him strong, but he is emotionally a wreck and then they wonder why it’s easy to spoil him–which I do. I have to stop giving him his way on some things but I will always let him know I’m His friend and care about his emotions. I can’t wait till he starts talking.

]]> By: ana http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/09/05/boys-and-girls-not-as-different-as-we-thought/comment-page-1/#comment-632989 ana Mon, 14 Sep 2009 17:34:03 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=5774#comment-632989 Ana Loya I read the article about boys and girls not as different as we though. Well I think there are some differences and also all depends on their parents who they treat their children because I have seen that parents take more care for girls than for boys what I mean is that parents see girls more fragile than boys parents see boy strong and ruff. But my opinion is that we have to see boys and girls as a human first and then treat them the way there are acting when they grow up because girls can be ruff too and boys can be very sentimental. Ana Loya
I read the article about boys and girls not as different as we though. Well I think there are some differences and also all depends on their parents who they treat their children because I have seen that parents take more care for girls than for boys what I mean is that parents see girls more fragile than boys parents see boy strong and ruff. But my opinion is that we have to see boys and girls as a human first and then treat them the way there are acting when they grow up because girls can be ruff too and boys can be very sentimental.

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