Awhile back I asked you for your sanity tricks, techniques that help you fight the forces of the dark side. Here are some of the gems.
1. Learn the alphabet.
Do you know why the vowel “I” comes well before the vowel “U”? Because a person must take care of herself before trying to help someone else or the world. It’s the same logic that flight attendants use when they swear to you that your plane isn’t going to crash, but in the event that it does, you’d be smart to fasten your own oxygen mask before helping the kiddies. Do it in reverse, and you’ll all run out of air.
2. Stop the singing lessons.
I could have used this one a long time ago: “Never try to teach a pig to sing. It wastes your time and annoys the pig.” In other words, you can’t change other people. Mean creatures inhabit every planet. But you can change yourself: the way you relate to them, or your reaction … to their singing.
3. Get a yellow light.
Some folks intuitively know how to relax and slow down. And some go to therapy to learn how. The latter group operates with two speeds: go and stop. They go, go, go, and go even faster until they crash. And that’s never pretty. Which is why they need a yellow light signaling … Hit the brakes! … Transition, dude! … Yo, Speedy! You’re missing the good stuff!!
4. Play out your hand.
This was an excellent reminder by a reader for those moments when I’m griping about the cards that I was dealt in life. Granted, in proper perspective, my hand is a winner. I live in a free country where I actually get paid for whining. I have two “spirited” kids who have all their limbs. And I have a freezer stocked full of dark chocolate. But I often focus on the stinkers in my hand: a severe mood disorder and some other health conditions.
Playing out our hand is about living the stuff of the Serenity Prayer: tucking away the loser card we can’t get rid of, trying to steal our opponent’s King if we can, and knowing when to draw.
5. Write it down.
In an August 2003 issue of Australian Journal of Psychology, University of Texas psychologist James W. Pennebaker summarizes dozens of studies linking expressive writing to improvements in immunity, academic performance, social behavior, and mental health. In a 2003 British Psychological Society study, results indicated that writing about emotions might even speed the healing of physical wounds.
If journaling about pain can heal your knee scab, think about what writing might do for your heart, mind, and soul! Articulating my journey from the abyss of severe depression and back has certainly contributed to sanity in my life and I can vouch for others, as well.
6. Think outside the symptoms.
A woman who struggles with anxiety told me that when the panic minions whisper into her ear things like “this is the worst thing that’s ever happened,” “we’re doomed,” and “there is no way out of this,” that she scolds them. “I’m not buying whatever you’re selling, so save it for someone else,” she’ll say. I’ve been learning to use the same technique with my depression– to think outside my symptoms–so that when I hear myself repeat to the person staring back at me in the mirror unfair assessments like “you’re a failure,” “you’re lazy,” and “you’re good for nothing,” I know that it isn’t me talking, it’s my mood disorder.
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“6 Quick Sanity Tricks”
What really helps me is drawing pictures. I never think about what I am going to draw; I let it surprise me, like almost ‘automatic drawing’.
I recently read a quote that says something like: “Art washed away the every day dust from the soul.”
I personally do not find it helpful to scold myself for anything, and which does not mean I never do, but it always ‘backfires’, always. the same is true for ‘trying’. Whenever I try to do something, or try to change something, the behavior becomes worse.
I sort of give myself permission to say to myself both: “God, i amk such a stupid idiot.” and/or also: “Good job.” I don’t take theses thinks too seriously and I don’t see any reason why I should not have a variety of feelings about myself, just as I do about others, and at different times.
I think it really helps to share ‘every day stuff with another person on a regular basis. i have a neighbor and we have ‘bitch sessions’ per e-mail several times a week. It helps so much to get it out, and I always feel better.
kat
PS: For myself it also really helps not to be in therapy. it’s stressful, and, it is stressful, and I have found that staying too long is the worst.
Number 6 is right up my street at the moment, I’ll be eating a bowl of that next wednesday when I go up in a light airplane.
As a panic survivor,when the panic and anxiety seem to bubble up inside me instead of surrendering I say out loud “BRING IT ON”. It empowers me and seems do drive those demons down.
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