Comments on: 7 Ways To Keep Going http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/04/07/8-ways-to-keep-going/ Dr. John Grohol's daily update on all things in psychology and mental health. Since 1999. Tue, 14 Feb 2012 17:30:17 +0000 hourly 1 By: Randy Brown http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/04/07/8-ways-to-keep-going/comment-page-3/#comment-628709 Randy Brown Sat, 20 Jun 2009 03:19:42 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=3272#comment-628709 How can you possibly get better with absolutely no family support. My Problems are and have been taboo subjects for a lot of years. The pain is getting almost to bare. Randy Brown How can you possibly get better with absolutely no family support. My Problems are and have been taboo subjects for a lot of years.
The pain is getting almost to bare.
Randy Brown

]]> By: jerri http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/04/07/8-ways-to-keep-going/comment-page-3/#comment-625942 jerri Fri, 17 Apr 2009 17:32:48 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=3272#comment-625942 I HAVE SLIPPED INTO A STATE OF MIND THAT DOESN'T ALLOW ME TO GET OUT OF BED. I'VE BEEN DIAGNOSED AS BIPOLAR AND PUT ON LITHIUM. ALL I CAN THINK ABOUT IS MY PAST. ABUSIVE PARENTS, REJECTION FROM MY REAL FATHER, 2 FAILED MARRIAGES, MY OLDEST DAUGHTER RUNNING AWAY TO HER FATHER WHO I HATE MORE THAN ANYTHING IN THE WORLD, MY PAST ADDICTIONS. IT SEEMS AS THOUGH I CANT STOP THINKING ABOUT ALL THE BAD THINGS THAT HAS HAPPENED TO ME. MY CURRENT HUSBAND WHO I DON'T EVEN WANT TO LOOK AT ANYMORE SAYS I CAN'T HANDLE REALITY. THAT REALLY TICKS ME OFF. I THINK BACK ABOUT THE DREAMS I HAD AS A YOUNG GIRL AND CAN'T EVEN UNDERSTAND WHAT HAPPENED TO ME. WHEN I TRY TO FIGURE IT OUT I THINK THAT IT'S EVERYBODY ELSES FAULT. HOPELESSNESS, LOSS OF INTREST AND WISHING FOR AN ACCIDENT TO TAKE MY LIFE BECAUSE IM TOO CHICKEN TO DO IT MYSELF ARE DAILY THOUGHTS. I GO TO CHURCH AND DO BIBLE STUDY WITH THE LADIES EVERY WEEK. SOMETIMES I LOOK AROUND THE ROOM AT THESE LADIES AND THINK THEY DON'T KNOW REAL SUFFERING. THEY WOULDN'T BE SO SWEET AND LOVING IF THEY HAD TO GO THROUGH THE CRAP I DID. I KNOW IM A PAIN TO BE AROUND. I KNOW THAT MY FAMILY IS SUFFERING BECAUSE OF ME. I WANT GOD TO HELP ME TOO. I TRY TO BE A GOOD CHRISTIAN AND NOT SIN. I HAVE TO ADMIT I REALLY STINK AT IT. I HAVENT WORKED FOR ABOUT A YEAR. PARTLY BECAUSE OF MY BACK AND KNEES BUT ALSO BECAUSE I GET CRAZY ABOUT A YEAR INTO A JOB AND QUIT. I HAD NO INSURRANCE UNTIL LAST WEEK WHEN I APPLIED FOR HELP. I NOW HAVE AN APPOINTMENT SET TO SEE A SHRINK. I'M HOPING SHE HELPS ME. I WOULD LIKE TO TAKE A MIRACLE DRUG TO GET ME ON THE RIGHT TRACK BUT I'M AFRAID NOTHING WILL HELP JUST LIKE THE LITHIUM. IF ANY OF YOU HAVE HAD TO TAKE MEDS WHAT ONE WORKS BEST? THANKS FOR LISTENING TO ALL THE GARBAGE. JERRI I HAVE SLIPPED INTO A STATE OF MIND THAT DOESN’T ALLOW ME TO GET OUT OF BED. I’VE BEEN DIAGNOSED AS BIPOLAR AND PUT ON LITHIUM. ALL I CAN THINK ABOUT IS MY PAST. ABUSIVE PARENTS, REJECTION FROM MY REAL FATHER, 2 FAILED MARRIAGES, MY OLDEST DAUGHTER RUNNING AWAY TO HER FATHER WHO I HATE MORE THAN ANYTHING IN THE WORLD, MY PAST ADDICTIONS. IT SEEMS AS THOUGH I CANT STOP THINKING ABOUT ALL THE BAD THINGS THAT HAS HAPPENED TO ME. MY CURRENT HUSBAND WHO I DON’T EVEN WANT TO LOOK AT ANYMORE SAYS I CAN’T HANDLE REALITY. THAT REALLY TICKS ME OFF. I THINK BACK ABOUT THE DREAMS I HAD AS A YOUNG GIRL AND CAN’T EVEN UNDERSTAND WHAT HAPPENED TO ME. WHEN I TRY TO FIGURE IT OUT I THINK THAT IT’S EVERYBODY ELSES FAULT. HOPELESSNESS, LOSS OF INTREST AND WISHING FOR AN ACCIDENT TO TAKE MY LIFE BECAUSE IM TOO CHICKEN TO DO IT MYSELF ARE DAILY THOUGHTS. I GO TO CHURCH AND DO BIBLE STUDY WITH THE LADIES EVERY WEEK. SOMETIMES I LOOK AROUND THE ROOM AT THESE LADIES AND THINK THEY DON’T KNOW REAL SUFFERING. THEY WOULDN’T BE SO SWEET AND LOVING IF THEY HAD TO GO THROUGH THE CRAP I DID. I KNOW IM A PAIN TO BE AROUND. I KNOW THAT MY FAMILY IS SUFFERING BECAUSE OF ME. I WANT GOD TO HELP ME TOO. I TRY TO BE A GOOD CHRISTIAN AND NOT SIN. I HAVE TO ADMIT I REALLY STINK AT IT. I HAVENT WORKED FOR ABOUT A YEAR. PARTLY BECAUSE OF MY BACK AND KNEES BUT ALSO BECAUSE I GET CRAZY ABOUT A YEAR INTO A JOB AND QUIT. I HAD NO INSURRANCE UNTIL LAST WEEK WHEN I APPLIED FOR HELP. I NOW HAVE AN APPOINTMENT SET TO SEE A SHRINK. I’M HOPING SHE HELPS ME. I WOULD LIKE TO TAKE A MIRACLE DRUG TO GET ME ON THE RIGHT TRACK BUT I’M AFRAID NOTHING WILL HELP JUST LIKE THE LITHIUM. IF ANY OF YOU HAVE HAD TO TAKE MEDS WHAT ONE WORKS BEST? THANKS FOR LISTENING TO ALL THE GARBAGE.
JERRI

]]> By: marrydell http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/04/07/8-ways-to-keep-going/comment-page-3/#comment-625924 marrydell Fri, 17 Apr 2009 04:31:16 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=3272#comment-625924 i am suffering chronic pain for long time and i am very thankful to you to provide me the best information about my pain relief. thanks a lot. it give me back my good <a href="http://www.elitehealth.com" rel="nofollow">Health.</a> i am suffering chronic pain for long time and i am very thankful to you to provide me the best information about my pain relief. thanks a lot. it give me back my good Health.

]]> By: vidhi http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/04/07/8-ways-to-keep-going/comment-page-3/#comment-625885 vidhi Thu, 16 Apr 2009 11:54:08 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=3272#comment-625885 i've been searching for a friend thruout my life.First it was a disturbed childhood and then a lousy marriage,i have a very low trust quotient or a relation quotient.One act of breech of trust and that relation is gone forever.This suggestion of "keep a brigade of friends was telling on my psyche and self esteem,but by writing to u guys i feel i shall have my kind of group,concerned,helping but not prying. i’ve been searching for a friend thruout my life.First it was a disturbed childhood and then a lousy marriage,i have a very low trust quotient or a relation quotient.One act of breech of trust and that relation is gone forever.This suggestion of “keep a brigade of friends was telling on my psyche and self esteem,but by writing to u guys i feel i shall have my kind of group,concerned,helping but not prying.

]]> By: Vicky Larson Bergman http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/04/07/8-ways-to-keep-going/comment-page-3/#comment-625859 Vicky Larson Bergman Thu, 16 Apr 2009 01:22:11 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=3272#comment-625859 Best I've read. & I'm a social worker for folks w/ disabilities. Best I’ve read. & I’m a social worker for folks w/ disabilities.

]]> By: Vicky Larson Bergman http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/04/07/8-ways-to-keep-going/comment-page-3/#comment-625858 Vicky Larson Bergman Thu, 16 Apr 2009 01:19:20 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=3272#comment-625858 Best I've read! And I'm a social worker who works w/ folks with disabilities! Best I’ve read! And I’m a social worker who works w/ folks with disabilities!

]]> By: LYNZEI http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/04/07/8-ways-to-keep-going/comment-page-3/#comment-625843 LYNZEI Wed, 15 Apr 2009 21:33:54 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=3272#comment-625843 My Son passed away less than a month ago, since then I hardly answer my phone or can hardly get myself up and dressed in the mornings, I go to bed 7 pm and dont get up til noon, I dont want to get up then but Im pressured by my roommate to do so. Sometimes I feel like my mind has walked out of my body. This was too sudden and I wonder if Im ever going to get anybetter? Im so afraid of some of the things I feel. My Son passed away less than a month ago, since then I hardly answer my phone or can hardly get myself up and dressed in the mornings, I go to bed 7 pm and dont get up til noon, I dont want to get up then but Im pressured by my roommate to do so. Sometimes I feel like my mind has walked out of my body. This was too sudden and I wonder if Im ever going to get anybetter? Im so afraid of some of the things I feel.

]]> By: Renee http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/04/07/8-ways-to-keep-going/comment-page-3/#comment-625807 Renee Wed, 15 Apr 2009 13:40:45 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=3272#comment-625807 Dear Friends, I feel like this most of the time- crushing pain from cancer and now brain lesions from the chemo drug cytoxin coupled with depression. I read this and it helped me- for today- and I guess that is YOUR point- it got me through. Also, I think I am so isolated- I used to have a full busy life with work and now I am on medical leave and can't drive- so I depend on my son and NEW daughter in law, which is always a problem- as I feel so guilty in intruding on their NEW life. Dear Friends,

I feel like this most of the time- crushing pain from cancer and now brain lesions from the chemo drug cytoxin coupled with depression. I read this and it helped me- for today- and I guess that is YOUR point- it got me through. Also, I think I am so isolated- I used to have a full busy life with work and now I am on medical leave and can’t drive- so I depend on my son and NEW daughter in law, which is always a problem- as I feel so guilty in intruding on their NEW life.

]]> By: Mandi http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/04/07/8-ways-to-keep-going/comment-page-3/#comment-625762 Mandi Tue, 14 Apr 2009 19:26:48 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=3272#comment-625762 The eloquence for which you address the crippling subject is very inspiring. It spoke to me on so many levels! Your descriptiveness in referencing this awful illness is very profound and sums up so perfectly the words I wanted, but was unable to, express to others so they could gain some grasp as to my level of suffering. Thank you for that! And...as for me I am a survivor and am here to testify that IT CAN BE CONQUERED and you can learn to DANCE! (That quote has now taken over in the #1 position of favorite quotes!) Thank you for your expressions! The eloquence for which you address the crippling subject is very inspiring. It spoke to me on so many levels! Your descriptiveness in referencing this awful illness is very profound and sums up so perfectly the words I wanted, but was unable to, express to others so they could gain some grasp as to my level of suffering. Thank you for that!
And…as for me I am a survivor and am here to testify that IT CAN BE CONQUERED and you can learn to DANCE! (That quote has now taken over in the #1 position of favorite quotes!)
Thank you for your expressions!

]]> By: natalie http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/04/07/8-ways-to-keep-going/comment-page-3/#comment-625760 natalie Tue, 14 Apr 2009 15:29:51 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=3272#comment-625760 I have to say you all break my heart, I have a life of anxiety,depression,panick attacks,I can do great for awhile and then when it gets bad,it stays bad for months or longer with no way out of the 3 problems clashing all at once. Its sickening, I will say all of your stories made me cry, Ive been sitting here reading each one of you and you all have a story and you all are trying to help the next person who is in trouble,thats why we all are a unique group of people. we care more about the next guy than we do ourselves. This way of empathy can get us in trouble when one idiot tries to take our kindness for weakness and takes advantage of us making our anxiety.depression worse...We are of the better group.Those people could not survive what we survive!! Hang in their all of you,suicide is not an option,,I quit smoking almost 2 yrs ago after 35 smoking years and my problem got worse but I can breathe again and I am not going to waste my chance at life. i struggle everyday with this brain of mine,but its all i have and i refuse to give up,,especially when my lil grnadchildren would be so heartbroken if something happened to me as we are so close and they beg my kids to come to grammas everyday to play,i love them so much which is why i quit smoking and why i wont give up on life,HANG ON AND GOD BLESS YOU ALL I have to say you all break my heart, I have a life of anxiety,depression,panick attacks,I can do great for awhile and then when it gets bad,it stays bad for months or longer with no way out of the 3 problems clashing all at once. Its sickening, I will say all of your stories made me cry, Ive been sitting here reading each one of you and you all have a story and you all are trying to help the next person who is in trouble,thats why we all are a unique group of people. we care more about the next guy than we do ourselves. This way of empathy can get us in trouble when one idiot tries to take our kindness for weakness and takes advantage of us making our anxiety.depression worse…We are of the better group.Those people could not survive what we survive!! Hang in their all of you,suicide is not an option,,I quit smoking almost 2 yrs ago after 35 smoking years and my problem got worse but I can breathe again and I am not going to waste my chance at life. i struggle everyday with this brain of mine,but its all i have and i refuse to give up,,especially when my lil grnadchildren would be so heartbroken if something happened to me as we are so close and they beg my kids to come to grammas everyday to play,i love them so much which is why i quit smoking and why i wont give up on life,HANG ON AND GOD BLESS YOU ALL

]]> By: Teresa http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/04/07/8-ways-to-keep-going/comment-page-3/#comment-625748 Teresa Tue, 14 Apr 2009 12:49:59 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=3272#comment-625748 Melanie, Thank you for all your good information on Alcoholism and careing enough to respond.are there any groups that have meetings for the friends, family,relatives and such of the alcoholic even know the alcoholic is not getting help or admits they have a problem. just to be able to relate to what others are going through with the same problem.as any one knows that has been through this or is going through it it makes you depressed, anxiety, and no self esteem. so you feel worthless.so any more help or comments on this would be greatly appreciated.Thank You and God Bless Melanie, Thank you for all your good information on Alcoholism and careing enough to respond.are there any groups that have meetings for the friends, family,relatives and such of the alcoholic even know the alcoholic is not getting help or admits they have a problem. just to be able to relate to what others are going through with the same problem.as any one knows that has been through this or is going through it it makes you depressed, anxiety, and no self esteem. so you feel worthless.so any more help or comments on this would be greatly appreciated.Thank You and God Bless

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]]> By: Pam http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/04/07/8-ways-to-keep-going/comment-page-2/#comment-625734 Pam Tue, 14 Apr 2009 06:41:00 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=3272#comment-625734 Everyday, I keep a note pad beside my bed and write something positive. By the end of the week, I have some wonderful memories. I have suffered with cronic pain and deppresion for a very long time. Over the last 3 yrs. I have searched many websites and books to help the healing procces. I now eat healthier, take vitiamins and supplements and pray a lot. I have lost 70lbs. and been able to get off several meds. including my diebetic meds. I's not easy, but so worth it. I am now working full time, for the first time in 8 yrs. I am 51 yrs. old and feel like I have a new chance at life. Never give up. Everyday, I keep a note pad beside my bed and write something positive. By the end of the week, I have some wonderful memories. I have suffered with cronic pain and deppresion for a very long time. Over the last 3 yrs. I have searched many websites and books to help the healing procces. I now eat healthier, take vitiamins and supplements and pray a lot. I have lost 70lbs. and been able to get off several meds. including my diebetic meds. I’s not easy, but so worth it. I am now working full time, for the first time in 8 yrs. I am 51 yrs. old and feel like I have a new chance at life. Never give up.

]]> By: Niki http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/04/07/8-ways-to-keep-going/comment-page-2/#comment-625731 Niki Tue, 14 Apr 2009 05:06:02 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=3272#comment-625731 Oh thank you thank you. I never knew anyone else actually felt the same way I do. You have given me some wonderful ideas to fight off the anxiety and depression. But most of all, you have convinced that I am not alone. Oh thank you thank you. I never knew anyone else actually felt the same way I do. You have given me some wonderful ideas to fight off the anxiety and depression. But most of all, you have convinced that I am not alone.

]]> By: Patty http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/04/07/8-ways-to-keep-going/comment-page-2/#comment-625730 Patty Tue, 14 Apr 2009 03:50:07 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=3272#comment-625730 My mother died in Florida and my sister didn't bother to call any of us until she had her life support removed. I can not even grieve over my mom for feeling so much hate for my sister. I am totally consumed by my discust with her and all she has done for the last 5 years of her supposedly taking care of Mom. I can't think of anything but what she has done and all I can do is cry. I am a very sensitive person and my feelings get hurt easily so now my older sister is hesitant to talk with me about my younger sister and what she has done. I feel like she thinks she has to handle me with kid gloves. I am a retiree from UPS after 30 years so I know I must have a brain, but everyone is distant to me because of my sensitivity. I don't know how not to take things to heart , as much as I try. Sometime I really feel like no one would miss me and everyone would be better off if I were not here, but I have 3 beautiful grandchildren that I hope love me at least half as much as I love them and that is all I have now. How do I make myself not sensitive. How can I toughen up and be able to talk to people about feelings without crying? My mother died in Florida and my sister didn’t bother to call any of us until she had her life support removed. I can not even grieve over my mom for feeling so much hate for my sister. I am totally consumed by my discust with her and all she has done for the last 5 years of her supposedly taking care of Mom. I can’t think of anything but what she has done and all I can do is cry. I am a very sensitive person and my feelings get hurt easily so now my older sister is hesitant to talk with me about my younger sister and what she has done. I feel like she thinks she has to handle me with kid gloves. I am a retiree from UPS after 30 years so I know I must have a brain, but everyone is distant to me because of my sensitivity. I don’t know how not to take things to heart , as much as I try. Sometime I really feel like no one would miss me and everyone would be better off if I were not here, but I have 3 beautiful grandchildren that I hope love me at least half as much as I love them and that is all I have now. How do I make myself not sensitive. How can I toughen up and be able to talk to people about feelings without crying?

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