Dating online is like doing sociological research into your own age cohort. What I have learned from the men I have met online is that by age 50 most people have made some very poor, life-altering choices that have led to a lot of guilt and/or regret. It has been a real eye-opener into just how many ways people can screw up their lives, making me feel soooo grateful for the peace and tranquility I have in my own life. I asked myself,why in God’s name would I want to take on any of these men and their problems? Answer: I don’t!
I’m sure I will meet someone compatible eventually. I look at it as times up at bat, or wisdom meeting fate. It will happen because I believe it will.

Really, if someone doesnt have, woman or man, they look for them. First thought is good or bad looking. Next is how long or what kind of sex can get from them.

My experiance is that if really no connection on a personnel basis for a continuance of dating, then theres the other avenue — SEX — . Not saying that the women that i’vs been with are no good or other word, but that it has led to being with them then and even several other times without being in no way of interest of being a mate.

In a way its sex for not sale but its there for in a way to get. There are some that do get together for a relationship, but do they last?

No, in no way im saying to get on all the sites you can to go pick up women for sex, no these are real women and they do need the respect of all of their being. If you do you may get something you dont want besides a bad name.

These are just my opinions and in no way reflect on anyone in any way, just my opinion.

So although in a real party we might fall only for the looks etc. of a person without knowing other attributes, we might discover later on that she works at the coin laundry next door. We can avoid all that by taking care of other attributes first and then moving on to the real “hooks” that matter – which for guys is does the girl look as good as her online pic – rather than falling for “Oh….she is gorgeous” first and getting repulsed later.

This system also works for women coz they want the guy to be a provider at some level. Thus, they can choose education etc. online and then on meeting decide if the guy has a good enough personality. Clean…isn’t it?

So if you have too many choices narrow it down. Use advanced search. And ultimately also know that too many choices if a good thing. Coz finally its a numbers game. Like in real world, even in online world – if you approach 100 women you will end up with maximum 10. Good luck!

Also…..it seems like more sites need to “clean up” and delete the older profiles that we ALL know are no longer active. Why have them as part of your database if they NEVER even log in anymore and have most likely forgotten that they own that acct?

I have yet to find a site that not EVERYONE is on….So a lot of cross-contamination is definitely occurring! I’m not sure if this is helping or hindering in the search for anyone/anything.

Thanks!
Christa