It has to be a huge mistake for any one of us to base our sense of self-worth on whether another person wants to have a romantic relationship with us. I think the problem is our fuzzy thinking that kind of mixes things up: We want a relationship and feel that our sense of happiness depends upon being able to establish an affectionate bond with another person. If they don’t like us, or like us for a bit and then go off us, we may feel unloveable. It ‘aint so really, as they simply don’t feel like having anything much to do with us at present.

Someone else might really appreciate our company and what we have to offer. Then again, we need to try not to be too dependent on that either.

It is really important to have a basic sense of self-esteem and self-worth and to try not to place too many expectations on any other person. Without this we will struggle to feel ok about ourselves and to keep things in perspective if we are rejected or somenoe doesn’t like us.