Comments on: …I’ll Cry If I Want To http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/02/04/its-my-party-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/ Dr. John Grohol's daily update on all things in psychology and mental health. Since 1999. Tue, 14 Feb 2012 17:30:17 +0000 hourly 1 By: psychgirl http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/02/04/its-my-party-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-2/#comment-697079 psychgirl Tue, 08 Feb 2011 00:56:49 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=2555#comment-697079 I used to tell my best friend that if I'm not crying, I'm dying. I used to tell my best friend that if I’m not crying, I’m dying.

]]> By: msDeb http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/02/04/its-my-party-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-693761 msDeb Fri, 28 Jan 2011 06:44:26 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=2555#comment-693761 After many years of taking different anti-depressants- different kinds for m.s.and the depression that comes with it:: I soon realized that I haven't been able to cry perhaps a few times a year. The anti-depressany/cymbalta also helps my fibromyalgia. After many years of taking different anti-depressants- different kinds for m.s.and the depression that comes with it:: I soon realized that I haven’t been able to cry perhaps a few times a year.
The anti-depressany/cymbalta also helps my fibromyalgia.

]]> By: deedee120 http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/02/04/its-my-party-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-693708 deedee120 Fri, 28 Jan 2011 00:23:47 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=2555#comment-693708 I learned at a pretty early age that crying is NOT a sign of weakness. Growing up, my mother cried often;she cried when she was happy, sad, angry etc. As a little girl I DID view it as a sign of weakness. When I was 13, my mother was diagnosed with terminal cancer. The grace, dignity, and strength that she handled her illness and comforted everyone around her made me realize that crying was certainly not a sign of weakness. At 51 I am now the one who cries when I am happy, sad, angry etc and I do not apologize for it. I loved this article and thank you for publishing it. I learned at a pretty early age that crying is NOT a sign of weakness. Growing up, my mother cried often;she cried when she was happy, sad, angry etc. As a little girl I DID view it as a sign of weakness. When I was 13, my mother was diagnosed with terminal cancer. The grace, dignity, and strength that she handled her illness and comforted everyone around her made me realize that crying was certainly not a sign of weakness. At 51 I am now the one who cries when I am happy, sad, angry etc and I do not apologize for it. I loved this article and thank you for publishing it.

]]> By: Cee http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/02/04/its-my-party-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-693697 Cee Thu, 27 Jan 2011 23:06:34 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=2555#comment-693697 I cry very easily as well. If I have to hold it in for any reason, then I do it twice as hard and long when I get home. I wish my eyes didn't get so red and puffy though. I cry very easily as well. If I have to hold it in for any reason, then I do it twice as hard and long when I get home. I wish my eyes didn’t get so red and puffy though.

]]> By: Kerri http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/02/04/its-my-party-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-693686 Kerri Thu, 27 Jan 2011 21:46:41 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=2555#comment-693686 This was absolutely wonderful! So well-written and true.I've never read an article quite like this and I loved it. I'm printing it out to keep! THANK YOU! This was absolutely wonderful! So well-written and true.I’ve never read an article quite like this and I loved it. I’m printing it out to keep! THANK YOU!

]]> By: Denyse http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/02/04/its-my-party-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-693649 Denyse Thu, 27 Jan 2011 18:25:18 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=2555#comment-693649 I too have been criticized for crying, like I have a "crying off switch" I can flick. I learned that it was ok to cry after being in therapy for 15 years ;-) But even to this day I sometimes apologize for it, it depends on who I'm with when it happens. I too have been criticized for crying, like I have a “crying off switch” I can flick.
I learned that it was ok to cry after being in therapy for 15 years ;-)
But even to this day I sometimes apologize for it, it depends on who I’m with when it happens.

]]> By: AE http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/02/04/its-my-party-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-693622 AE Thu, 27 Jan 2011 17:13:59 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=2555#comment-693622 I cry a lot, when I am mad, stressed and sad. I have been told by people I work with that I am too sensitive and to get over it. I work with a lot of driver personalities and sometimes it is very difficult. I cry a lot, when I am mad, stressed and sad. I have been told by people I work with that I am too sensitive and to get over it. I work with a lot of driver personalities and sometimes it is very difficult.

]]> By: Chica Tica http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/02/04/its-my-party-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-693605 Chica Tica Thu, 27 Jan 2011 15:51:42 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=2555#comment-693605 I struggle with going to church because I always feel tears right under my surface and I don't want to break down in front of everyone. So I usually steel myself not to feel anything while there. I struggle with going to church because I always feel tears right under my surface and I don’t want to break down in front of everyone. So I usually steel myself not to feel anything while there.

]]> By: TC http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/02/04/its-my-party-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-693528 TC Wed, 26 Jan 2011 22:30:02 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=2555#comment-693528 Wonderful thoughts...I grew up having to not only deal with my "hair-trigger" crying, but the incessant teasing & targeting by classmates in their attempts to try & make me cry. Add in a father who, of course, viewed any emotion as weakness and the fact that I'm male, and its no wonder that I don't hold much of youth in the "good" category of memories. It took me until after I was 30 to realize crying was how the anger welling up in me would be released. Wonderful thoughts…I grew up having to not only deal with my “hair-trigger” crying, but the incessant teasing & targeting by classmates in their attempts to try & make me cry. Add in a father who, of course, viewed any emotion as weakness and the fact that I’m male, and its no wonder that I don’t hold much of youth in the “good” category of memories. It took me until after I was 30 to realize crying was how the anger welling up in me would be released.

]]> By: neetu http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/02/04/its-my-party-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-636879 neetu Fri, 06 Nov 2009 14:17:52 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=2555#comment-636879 i also cry a lot alone, when any thing go wrong when any body cold me when my kids doent come on time when i watch some imotionall scene exectra but there is no control of that on my self i also cry a lot
alone, when any thing go wrong when any body cold me when my kids doent come on time when i watch some imotionall scene exectra but there is no control of that on my self

]]> By: Elvira G. Aletta, Ph.D. http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/02/04/its-my-party-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-623440 Elvira G. Aletta, Ph.D. Sat, 28 Feb 2009 14:22:17 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=2555#comment-623440 Boo, to read more about why crying is good for you go to the link below about the health benefits of crying. Here I was focused more on letting go of the stigma of crying and being OK with tears. I understand what you're saying, though and thanks for the feedback! link http://blog.beliefnet.com/beyondblue/2009/02/kevin-keough-health-benefits-o.html Boo, to read more about why crying is good for you go to the link below about the health benefits of crying.

Here I was focused more on letting go of the stigma of crying and being OK with tears. I understand what you’re saying, though and thanks for the feedback!

link http://blog.beliefnet.com/beyondblue/2009/02/kevin-keough-health-benefits-o.html

]]> By: Quashinda Cox http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/02/04/its-my-party-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-623352 Quashinda Cox Thu, 26 Feb 2009 18:56:14 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=2555#comment-623352 I'm glad you guys email me, becacuse I have no idea about this subject. I’m glad you guys email me, becacuse I have no idea about this subject.

]]> By: boo http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/02/04/its-my-party-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-623348 boo Thu, 26 Feb 2009 16:53:47 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=2555#comment-623348 your article started out so well.i wish you would have explained more on why crying is good. your article started out so well.i wish you would have explained more on why crying is good.

]]> By: Elvira G. Aletta, Ph.D. http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/02/04/its-my-party-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-622021 Elvira G. Aletta, Ph.D. Mon, 09 Feb 2009 04:23:38 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=2555#comment-622021 The stigma won't go away too soon but maybe we can help it along. We can start by not caring too much what 'they' think, stop apologizing, and, if you can speak (which is sometimes hard to do while crying) say something like, "It's not my weakness that you squirm at the sight of a few tears." If none of these work try poking them in the eye with stick and asking, "Gee, what are you crying about?" The stigma won’t go away too soon but maybe we can help it along. We can start by not caring too much what ‘they’ think, stop apologizing, and, if you can speak (which is sometimes hard to do while crying) say something like, “It’s not my weakness that you squirm at the sight of a few tears.” If none of these work try poking them in the eye with stick and asking, “Gee, what are you crying about?”

]]> By: Estee http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/02/04/its-my-party-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-622016 Estee Mon, 09 Feb 2009 03:35:54 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=2555#comment-622016 Oh, this describes me to a tee. I cry when I'm happy, sad, mad and everywhere in between. And, while I've know that about myself I still find it very frustrating that many people see it as a weakness. How does one deal with that? Oh, this describes me to a tee. I cry when I’m happy, sad, mad and everywhere in between. And, while I’ve know that about myself I still find it very frustrating that many people see it as a weakness. How does one deal with that?

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