Comments on: Parents Spying on Teens http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2008/06/08/parents-spying-on-teens/ Dr. John Grohol's daily update on all things in psychology and mental health. Since 1999. Mon, 13 Feb 2012 22:26:24 +0000 hourly 1 By: Jenkins http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2008/06/08/parents-spying-on-teens/comment-page-1/#comment-713766 Jenkins Sat, 09 Jul 2011 03:19:34 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=2160#comment-713766 I understand that by nature of your job you are exposed to a disproportionate number of sexual assault cases. But it is asinine for you too say that sensoring of technology for teens is acceptable. To then justify it by your daily workplace environment doesnt make it right. The stark reality is that by the time a child born in the 90s is twelve they are more proficient in almost every aspect of modern computing and social networking than you. All monitoring does is create a lack of trust which is far worse 95% of the time. The reality is that if your child is willing to make the mistake of befriending someone they dont know past the age twelve, the parents not the internet are too blame. I understand that by nature of your job you are exposed to a disproportionate number of sexual assault cases. But it is asinine for you too say that sensoring of technology for teens is acceptable. To then justify it by your daily workplace environment doesnt make it right. The stark reality is that by the time a child born in the 90s is twelve they are more proficient in almost every aspect of modern computing and social networking than you. All monitoring does is create a lack of trust which is far worse 95% of the time. The reality is that if your child is willing to make the mistake of befriending someone they dont know past the age twelve, the parents not the internet are too blame.

]]> By: Kimmie http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2008/06/08/parents-spying-on-teens/comment-page-1/#comment-669473 Kimmie Mon, 13 Sep 2010 00:49:19 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=2160#comment-669473 Hey, I was wondering if I'm able to interview the author of this article? It's for my year 12 major assessment and an interview is essential in the task. Hey, I was wondering if I’m able to interview the author of this article? It’s for my year 12 major assessment and an interview is essential in the task.

]]> By: ?????????? http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2008/06/08/parents-spying-on-teens/comment-page-1/#comment-639496 ?????????? Sat, 26 Dec 2009 02:56:26 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=2160#comment-639496 kids will get REALLY pissed off if they find out about stuff like this, and i guarentee you that they will find out about this stuff. Don't try to spy unless you want hell at your house. kids will get REALLY pissed off if they find out about stuff like this, and i guarentee you that they will find out about this stuff. Don’t try to spy unless you want hell at your house.

]]> By: leefcf http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2008/06/08/parents-spying-on-teens/comment-page-1/#comment-636415 leefcf Fri, 30 Oct 2009 14:27:55 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=2160#comment-636415 Wtf, That's an interesting way to show them that they are being over-protective and that you deserve their trust........... Wtf,
That’s an interesting way to show them that they are being over-protective and that you deserve their trust………..

]]> By: wtf http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2008/06/08/parents-spying-on-teens/comment-page-1/#comment-636409 wtf Fri, 30 Oct 2009 13:06:21 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=2160#comment-636409 over protective parents like mine should be put in rehabilitation center and learn how to respect others! I just got my room ransacked again omfg!!!!#!@#!@$#!@$!i gonna cut myself and get hurt just to make them regret and cry rivers F*&*$#@*$&#( over protective parents like mine should be put in rehabilitation center and learn how to respect others! I just got my room ransacked again omfg!!!!#!@#!@$#!@$!i gonna cut myself and get hurt just to make them regret and cry rivers F*&*$#@*$&#(

]]> By: wtf http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2008/06/08/parents-spying-on-teens/comment-page-1/#comment-636408 wtf Fri, 30 Oct 2009 12:56:21 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=2160#comment-636408 i TOTALLY agreed with u chanice some people are ridiculous and i hate my parents so much cuz them spy on meh and check every drawers & corner of myt room wtfffffff id rather get hurt in a healthy way than to be shield in their sick twisted minded way seriosuly i TOTALLY agreed with u chanice

some people are ridiculous and i hate my parents so much cuz them spy on meh and check every drawers & corner of myt room wtfffffff
id rather get hurt in a healthy way than to be shield in their sick twisted minded way seriosuly

]]> By: chanice http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2008/06/08/parents-spying-on-teens/comment-page-1/#comment-636217 chanice Wed, 28 Oct 2009 00:36:05 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=2160#comment-636217 I am a teenager and i think that parents are way to over protective sometime. My parents aren't but some are. You need to give your children some privacy for them to be able to become independent. I am serious. Some people are RIDICULOUS!!!!!!!!!!! I am a teenager and i think that parents are way to over protective sometime. My parents aren’t but some are. You need to give your children some privacy for them to be able to become independent. I am serious. Some people are RIDICULOUS!!!!!!!!!!!

]]> By: J. Trogh http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2008/06/08/parents-spying-on-teens/comment-page-1/#comment-624966 J. Trogh Tue, 31 Mar 2009 04:06:56 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=2160#comment-624966 Didn't any of you think that your parents watched every move you made? Didn’t any of you think that your parents watched every move you made?

]]> By: Angela http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2008/06/08/parents-spying-on-teens/comment-page-1/#comment-549308 Angela Mon, 28 Jul 2008 05:51:39 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=2160#comment-549308 So what do you do when you did this and it failed. Gave trust ,child ran with it. Now out of control beating the mother. !6 yr old ran off. Cops are aware but can't pick him up unless he breaks the law. Even still will only return him in the parents care for it to repeat itself. Not spying created this monster. By the time parent stepped in to check he was out of control. So what do you do when you did this and it failed. Gave trust ,child ran with it. Now out of control beating the mother. !6 yr old ran off. Cops are aware but can’t pick him up unless he breaks the law. Even still will only return him in the parents care for it to repeat itself.
Not spying created this monster. By the time parent stepped in to check he was out of control.

]]> By: ExploreAnywhere Blog » Blog Archive » Why use spy software? 29,000 reasons and counting. http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2008/06/08/parents-spying-on-teens/comment-page-1/#comment-527554 ExploreAnywhere Blog » Blog Archive » Why use spy software? 29,000 reasons and counting. Wed, 25 Jun 2008 17:14:12 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=2160#comment-527554 [...] The fact remains MySpace is not dangerous. The problem arises from the 29,000 corrupt people who log on it. As the number of Internet users grows, there will always be more and more dangerous people connecting to the web. Parents and guardians who want to protect their young ones are often unaware of the software solutions available. An application like SpyBuddy will monitor and record who their child is talking to, what is being typed, and event alert parents if certain inappropriate material is being discussed. Because some critics are concerned with the moral implications of this type of software they will often compare the installation of computer monitoring and spy software software to an action such as reading your child’s diary or journal. This could not be more absurd or further from the truth. As clinical psychologist John M. Grohol, Psy.D. most accurately stated it is very important to communicate with your children and teenagers, and also “trust but verify” who they are communicating with. [...] [...] The fact remains MySpace is not dangerous. The problem arises from the 29,000 corrupt people who log on it. As the number of Internet users grows, there will always be more and more dangerous people connecting to the web. Parents and guardians who want to protect their young ones are often unaware of the software solutions available. An application like SpyBuddy will monitor and record who their child is talking to, what is being typed, and event alert parents if certain inappropriate material is being discussed. Because some critics are concerned with the moral implications of this type of software they will often compare the installation of computer monitoring and spy software software to an action such as reading your child’s diary or journal. This could not be more absurd or further from the truth. As clinical psychologist John M. Grohol, Psy.D. most accurately stated it is very important to communicate with your children and teenagers, and also “trust but verify” who they are communicating with. [...]

]]> By: Books and Magazines Blog » Archive » Parents Spying on Teens http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2008/06/08/parents-spying-on-teens/comment-page-1/#comment-516074 Books and Magazines Blog » Archive » Parents Spying on Teens Wed, 11 Jun 2008 07:52:45 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=2160#comment-516074 [...] Parents Spying on Teens Kids today are growing up with technology — cell phones, IM and the Internet — as a natural extension of their environment and the tools available to them. The problem is, parents don’t see it that way. The Boston Globe Magazine had an interesting article about the push and pull of… [...] [...] Parents Spying on Teens Kids today are growing up with technology — cell phones, IM and the Internet — as a natural extension of their environment and the tools available to them. The problem is, parents don’t see it that way. The Boston Globe Magazine had an interesting article about the push and pull of… [...]

]]> By: Dawn pugh http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2008/06/08/parents-spying-on-teens/comment-page-1/#comment-514926 Dawn pugh Mon, 09 Jun 2008 18:34:51 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=2160#comment-514926 Hi Maureen, I can understand that your job can be quite difficult at times and I agree with what you say about the difficulties that children/teens face with todays technologies and exposure that these can and do create.I personally recommend that parents adopt an open, honest and communicative relationship whereby if any changes in behaviors from their children/teens are at least monitored. Regards Dawn Pugh http://www.dawnpugh.com Hi Maureen, I can understand that your job can be quite difficult at times and I agree with what you say about the difficulties that children/teens face with todays technologies and exposure that these can and do create.I personally recommend that parents adopt an open, honest and communicative relationship whereby if any changes in behaviors from their children/teens are at least monitored.
Regards
Dawn Pugh
http://www.dawnpugh.com

]]> By: maureen r. http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2008/06/08/parents-spying-on-teens/comment-page-1/#comment-514870 maureen r. Mon, 09 Jun 2008 17:34:28 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=2160#comment-514870 I disagree that childre know a creep when they see one. That is an ignorant comment that I totally disgree with. Many children and teens are exposed to and physically meet dangerous "creeps" on-line. We cannot "trust" our children to filter info to ascertain who they should stay away from, what info to believe, and what/who is truthfull. If that was possible I would be out of a job as a sexual assault nurse. Children/teens are their parents resposibility until they move out as young adults and learning takes place on a continuous basis through their parents' love, diligence, support, and sensoring of technology that they deam inappropriate for their child. I disagree that childre know a creep when they see one. That is an ignorant comment that I totally disgree with. Many children and teens are exposed to and physically meet dangerous “creeps” on-line. We cannot “trust” our children to filter info to ascertain who they should stay away from, what info to believe, and what/who is truthfull. If that was possible I would be out of a job as a sexual assault nurse. Children/teens are their parents resposibility until they move out as young adults and learning takes place on a continuous basis through their parents’ love, diligence, support, and sensoring of technology that they deam inappropriate for their child.

]]> By: maureen r. http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2008/06/08/parents-spying-on-teens/comment-page-1/#comment-514869 maureen r. Mon, 09 Jun 2008 17:34:19 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=2160#comment-514869 I disagree that childre know a creep when they see one. That is an ignorant comment that I totally disgree with. Many children and teens are exposed to and physically meet dangerous "creeps" on-line. We cannot "trust" our children to filter info to ascertain who they should stay away from, what info to believe, and what/who is truthfull. If that was possible I would be out of a job as a sexual assault nurse. Children/teens are their parents resposibility until they move out as young adults and learning takes place on a continuous basis through their parents' love, diligence, support, and sensoring of technology that they deam inappropriate for their child. I disagree that childre know a creep when they see one. That is an ignorant comment that I totally disgree with. Many children and teens are exposed to and physically meet dangerous “creeps” on-line. We cannot “trust” our children to filter info to ascertain who they should stay away from, what info to believe, and what/who is truthfull. If that was possible I would be out of a job as a sexual assault nurse. Children/teens are their parents resposibility until they move out as young adults and learning takes place on a continuous basis through their parents’ love, diligence, support, and sensoring of technology that they deam inappropriate for their child.

]]> By: maureen r. http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2008/06/08/parents-spying-on-teens/comment-page-1/#comment-514868 maureen r. Mon, 09 Jun 2008 17:34:09 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/?p=2160#comment-514868 I disagree that childre know a creep when they see one. That is an ignorant comment that I totally disgree with. Many children and teens are exposed to and physically meet dangerous "creeps" on-line. We cannot "trust" our children to filter info to ascertain who they should stay away from, what info to believe, and what/who is truthfull. If that was possible I would be out of a job as a sexual assault nurse. Children/teens are their parents resposibility until they move out as young adults and learning takes place on a continuous basis through their parents' love, diligence, support, and sensoring of technology that they deam inappropriate for their child. I disagree that childre know a creep when they see one. That is an ignorant comment that I totally disgree with. Many children and teens are exposed to and physically meet dangerous “creeps” on-line. We cannot “trust” our children to filter info to ascertain who they should stay away from, what info to believe, and what/who is truthfull. If that was possible I would be out of a job as a sexual assault nurse. Children/teens are their parents resposibility until they move out as young adults and learning takes place on a continuous basis through their parents’ love, diligence, support, and sensoring of technology that they deam inappropriate for their child.

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