Sadly, no one has actually refuted the meat of the entry. Simply saying, “Sorry, those references don’t apply” isn’t a refutation. Peer-reviewed research, for better or worse, is what we use to understand human psychological behavior. While individual stories can be helpful to illustrate personal experiences, you can’t draw generalized conclusions from such information.

Dogs can be trained. To suggest men are basically the same as a dog is offensive and a simplistic reductio ad absurdum argument.

Then we have the astonishing notion that academic research is more reflective of reality than direct, lived experience. That’s coupled with holding a blogger to an academic’s standard, then refusing to be held to that standard onself when called on it.

Women’s sexual experiences have been denigrated and medicalized for over a century. While you may have little respect for sex workers, or for principles of logic, at least you respect some of the classics.

Two questions for Ms. Yifu:

– Does this suggest that maybe the reverse will work? That we are as emotionally vacant as the men described, able to be trained like Pavlov’s dogs to respond to the bell and work to be ‘rewarded’ with something they withhold until we perform?

– Do you have a counterpart in your industry – a male selling sex to women – who could add a prostitute’s take on ‘My husband doesn’t understand me”?

Well, okay, three questions – do you have any thoughts about why 64% of men stay home? Most certainly only a fragment of that group shows up at your site and others for virtual sex, have the rest been trained?

I can’t imagine a greater gift than being with a person who adds joy to life, one you (generic) respect and love being with … one who also loves being with you because you’re you, not because of what you are willing to do if he scrubs the pots and pans with you.

http://sexsecond.blogspot.com/2008/04/rage-is-toxic.html

Not because she objects to my criticism of her unsophisticated take on male/female relationships, but because of a word I used to describe what she does in a virtual world. A term, by the way, that she has used to describe herself on at least more than one occasion (she apparently prefers the term, “pixel prostitute”). So, if I offended Ms. Yifu by use of this word, my apologies.

I believe in equal opportunity when it comes to contempt and pawning off one’s simplistic observations as some sort of “manual” or guide to understanding the opposite gender. I would be equally contemptuous if such drivel came from a man, talking about how to better understand a woman by learning to “train” them, as you suggest for men.

For some reason he never replies to my emails asking why his psychology of ALL men only applies to heterosexual men from western developed countries.

If you wanted to prove that you treat women you disagree with with contempt, there is no better way to do it than this.

i’m against the objectification of any human, male or female.

well-said, John!