If you’ve ever wondered how long is “enough” for good sex, you may now have your answer.

In a survey of 34 sex therapists (who should know better, right?), researchers discovered that anywhere between 3 and 13 minutes was optimal for good sexual intercourse.

In a 2005 study of 1,500 couples, 7 minutes was ideal, but as little as 3 to 5 minutes (not including foreplay) will do according to the current study. (We couldn’t find the 2005 study mentioned in the newspaper article — we wish they’d actually include a reference when reporting on such data!)

Seven minutes? Five minutes? What does it matter? If you’re having a good sex life and can talk honestly to your partner from time to time about sex and any issues that arise, I don’t understand the preoccupation some have with “how long is long enough” and similar data.

It’s never been about quantity, anyway — it’s all about quality. It takes as long as it takes. If you’re not enjoying sex and it’s over “too quickly,” then please talk to your partner about the issue. Don’t lead a life of quiet frustration and resentment over these sorts of issues.

The new study can be found in the May issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine.

Read the full article: Sex Therapists: a Few Minutes Is Best

 


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    Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 6 Apr 2008
    Published on PsychCentral.com. All rights reserved.

APA Reference
Grohol, J. (2008). How Long For Good Sex? 5 Minutes Will Do. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 1, 2014, from http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2008/04/06/how-long-for-good-sex-5-minutes-will-do/

 

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