Comments on: An Alternative Treatment for Borderline Personality Disorder

By: Pea

Pea — Wed, 23 Apr 2008 15:28:36 +0000

Hi, I just heard of this type of therapy and am researching it. It sounds interesting to me, although I don’t know enough to have an informed opinion, yet.

I did want to say that I don’t believe anyone is “too smart” for dbt. If ones perceives dbt as stupid, that’s either a borderline thinking issue or a bad group/therapist doing the dbt training.

I am very smart and I love dbt. I think it’s a great technique. What I like most about it is how mulitpronged as approach it is. I don’t get that sense yet with mentalization but, as I said, I don’t have a good grasp on it yet.

Pea

By: Mary

Mary — Sun, 23 Mar 2008 03:21:00 +0000

Where can a patient receive this type of treatment?

By: val rabbit

val rabbit — Wed, 19 Mar 2008 16:05:37 +0000

yes. this makes so much sense. and it is welcome for those of us who are just too smart for DBT to work. Nothing like a borderline’s ability to outsmart theraputic methodology even as we seek help. ps thank you to Lynn Melville for the viewpoint of BPDers as “they” and her compassion for her partner. Please note that my comment is BPDers as “we.”

By: Lynn Melville

Lynn Melville — Tue, 18 Mar 2008 20:44:51 +0000

I forgot to sign my name to my previous post about Borderlines and the “screens over their ears”.

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By: Lynn Melville

Lynn Melville — Tue, 18 Mar 2008 20:42:36 +0000

I’m thrilled to hear of this new treatment method for Borderlines — Mentalization Based Therapy (MBT).

Because that’s exactly the problem Borderlines have !!

They have a thought of their own as to what other people are thinking (“They’re late home from work because they don’t love me anymore”).

That thought causes them to have a feeling (“I feel abandoned”).

That feeling then becomes a fact in their mind (“I ‘am’ going to be abandoned”) — and they then act on that feeling as if it were real.

It’s crazy — and there’s no way another person can even begin to imagine that this is the process going on in the head of a Borderline. So we defend ourselves, try to reason with them, placate them, on and on.

A relationship with a Borderline is like being in the Fun House at a carnival, where the images are all odd, and you can’t see through them to the true picture.

I used to tell my Borderline partner that it seemed like he had “screens over his ears” — what I said was translated into something else when it went into his brain.

I saw the Borderline behavior very clearly. I just didn’t know about the Borderline disorder. I didn’t know the name of my pain.