Comments on: Salvage your relationship…maybe

By: Zara

Zara — Sat, 27 Sep 2008 08:05:08 +0000

We’ve been dating for 8 mths now, I’m 32 and he’s 44.Before this, I was in a 7-yr relationship before we decided to be friends.

No doubt,it is difficult dating someone who’s gone through a lot of negative endings.Men often think that that must have the upper hand.My response to that is: Let him have it! Arguments die down, love is still there. YOu cannot change men, but you can facilitate him to become better through patience & love. Become the person you want your man to love you as.

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By: JohnD

JohnD — Mon, 14 Jan 2008 06:00:03 +0000

Thanks for this overview of Terrance Real’s new book and your insights about family. I’ve been dealing with these issues from the point of view of a man actively dealing with major depression. Real’s new book is aimed at a broader audience, but I find the wisdom of his book on male depression, I Don’t Want to Talk About It, the key to working things through in my marriage. There just isn’t any substitute for coming to terms with the inner battles, achieving a kind of peace with oneself, and then trying to rebuild the key relationship with your partner. If a man is not dealing with depression, he still has to become self-aware of the habits instilled from learning the social roles of an American male – especially not talking about feelings – before getting free of the control issues you refer to.

JohnD

By: Don DeLong

Don DeLong — Wed, 09 Jan 2008 20:22:22 +0000

What has helped me in my marriage is seperating my wife’s behaviour from who she is as a person. It is much easier to keep the discussion on what I need for her to do or not to do. The other rule that has worked for me and others is to never to use ‘you’ messages. By staying with I need or want is much more productive than you need to do this or that. It does reduce the threat of criticism.

By: Stress free Depression

Stress free Depression — Mon, 07 Jan 2008 20:12:24 +0000

As I was reading this article I really found myself understanding and putting myself in the same situation but I do know that is true in relationships you need to be able pick your battles but also be ok to walk away if it just isn’t working.
I suffer from depression and when I am in a relationship I need my partner to be understanding and help out with things not just take the easy road but sometimes when I am going through one of my down cycles I find myself fighting more and then I am at a loss not really putting together the two until I talked with insighpros.com and reading other article like this one and then understanding the reasoning behind it and then changing it.