There have been a thousand or more articles written about how to have a successful long-term relationship or marriage, but none that seem to capture some of the core ingredients I’ve found important in relationships. So here’s the straight dope, from my experience.

Before I begin, however, it’s important to dispel a common relationship myth — relationships are (or should be) easy. That is simply not true. The grass always looks greener in other people’s lives, because few people share the truth of the amount of work that goes into relationships (hence why 50% of marriages end in divorce). Relationships — even the best relationships in the world — require constant attention, nurturing, and work. If you can understand and accept the need for constant attention and work in your relationship, you’re started in the right direction.

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    Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 7 Nov 2007
    Published on PsychCentral.com. All rights reserved.

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Grohol, J. (2007). 5 Secrets to a Successful Long-Term Relationship or Marriage. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 23, 2014, from http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2007/11/07/5-secrets-to-a-successful-long-term-relationship-or-marriage/

 

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