Comments on: Single and Not Fabulous http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2006/07/18/single-and-not-fabulous/ Dr. John Grohol's daily update on all things in psychology and mental health. Since 1999. Fri, 25 May 2012 15:58:44 +0000 hourly 1 By: Archer Parish http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2006/07/18/single-and-not-fabulous/comment-page-1/#comment-382557 Archer Parish Thu, 03 Jan 2008 20:15:19 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2006/07/18/single-and-not-fabulous/#comment-382557 There are going to be idiots in the "Dating Coach" profession just as there are idiot "licensed professionals." A title, degree, book or certification does not guarantee that person knows what they are talking about. As with every other aspect of life you have to check references (where practical and or possible,)and do "due diligence" before spending a buck or divulging personal information to anyone. There are going to be idiots in the “Dating Coach” profession just as there are idiot “licensed professionals.” A title, degree, book or certification does not guarantee that person knows what they are talking about.
As with every other aspect of life you have to check references (where practical and or possible,)and do “due diligence” before spending a buck or divulging personal information to anyone.

]]> By: Scot McKay http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2006/07/18/single-and-not-fabulous/comment-page-1/#comment-308710 Scot McKay Wed, 07 Nov 2007 00:22:07 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2006/07/18/single-and-not-fabulous/#comment-308710 Without getting into a subjective debate, I am responding to this post to echo that Ronnie's experience has been mine also as a professional dating coach. I have not only coached those in the mental health profession, I've also provided successful service to men and women who originally had sought a solution through psychotherapy. It is perhaps relevant that I also offer a 100% money-back guarantee on my services and have never issued a refund. Without getting into a subjective debate, I am responding to this post to echo that Ronnie’s experience has been mine also as a professional dating coach.

I have not only coached those in the mental health profession, I’ve also provided successful service to men and women who originally had sought a solution through psychotherapy.

It is perhaps relevant that I also offer a 100% money-back guarantee on my services and have never issued a refund.

]]> By: Ronnie Ann Ryan http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2006/07/18/single-and-not-fabulous/comment-page-1/#comment-281223 Ronnie Ann Ryan Tue, 25 Sep 2007 19:24:17 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2006/07/18/single-and-not-fabulous/#comment-281223 Interesting reading. While I'm sure some professional is always worthwhile, I'm not sure how many psychotherapists are totally up on the singles scene and what dating is like today. Self-esteem and classical therapy issues - of course. If the therepist is dating that helps too. But honestly, as a dating coach I've had many therapists as CLIENTS! They didn't know squat about dating. I work with clients to set up strategies for finding love, get clear about who they want to be with and open up to love. Dating today has become really complicated for many reasons - but one of the main differences is that many are dating as adults with baggage versus 22 year olds who are far more accepting and open. A professionally trained coach is a valuable find and a savvy way to accelerate the process! -Ronnie Ann Ryan, The Dating Coach www.NeverTooLate.biz Interesting reading. While I’m sure some professional is always worthwhile, I’m not sure how many psychotherapists are totally up on the singles scene and what dating is like today. Self-esteem and classical therapy issues – of course. If the therepist is dating that helps too.

But honestly, as a dating coach I’ve had many therapists as CLIENTS! They didn’t know squat about dating. I work with clients to set up strategies for finding love, get clear about who they want to be with and open up to love.

Dating today has become really complicated for many reasons – but one of the main differences is that many are dating as adults with baggage versus 22 year olds who are far more accepting and open. A professionally trained coach is a valuable find and a savvy way to accelerate the process!

-Ronnie Ann Ryan, The Dating Coach
http://www.NeverTooLate.biz

]]> By: Anonymous http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2006/07/18/single-and-not-fabulous/comment-page-1/#comment-76554 Anonymous Fri, 04 Aug 2006 04:02:52 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2006/07/18/single-and-not-fabulous/#comment-76554 As someone who consulted a dating coach and now regrets that decision, I think people need to be very careful in sharing personal informatoin with "coaches" who are not licensed professionals and who are not bound by confidentiality laws. I foolishly shared some highly personal, apinful information about my past with a coach. I wound up in a disagreement with that individual, which turned into a billing dispute. I chose to end my business relationship with this person and declined to go out on a date with another one of her clients. She then disclosed the highly personal information I had shared with her to him, and embellished that information with inaccurate speculation about my current mental state. As someone who consulted a dating coach and now regrets that decision, I think people need to be very careful in sharing personal informatoin with “coaches” who are not licensed professionals and who are not bound by confidentiality laws. I foolishly shared some highly personal, apinful information about my past with a coach. I wound up in a disagreement with that individual, which turned into a billing dispute. I chose to end my business relationship with this person and declined to go out on a date with another one of her clients. She then disclosed the highly personal information I had shared with her to him, and embellished that information with inaccurate speculation about my current mental state.

]]> By: willmeek http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2006/07/18/single-and-not-fabulous/comment-page-1/#comment-66101 willmeek Wed, 19 Jul 2006 16:58:49 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2006/07/18/single-and-not-fabulous/#comment-66101 Alison, that was not an assumption I was trying to make in that piece. I assume you got that idea from the title, I was simply trying to have a new spin on "Single and Fabulous" since it was about people who are struggling to find mates. Anon, Some people were certainly argue that although I don't believe there have been many credible studies on that topic. One explanation would be that the individual "therapist's" ability to connect with his/her client may be the true key in being helpful. interesting study regardless. Alison, that was not an assumption I was trying to make in that piece. I assume you got that idea from the title, I was simply trying to have a new spin on “Single and Fabulous” since it was about people who are struggling to find mates.

Anon, Some people were certainly argue that although I don’t believe there have been many credible studies on that topic. One explanation would be that the individual “therapist’s” ability to connect with his/her client may be the true key in being helpful. interesting study regardless.

]]> By: Anonymous http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2006/07/18/single-and-not-fabulous/comment-page-1/#comment-65875 Anonymous Wed, 19 Jul 2006 03:46:32 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2006/07/18/single-and-not-fabulous/#comment-65875 I wouldn't assume that a licensed professional would do any better than a coach, a book, or a friend. Recall the study done by Hans Strupp at Vanderbilt University. Male college students who were seeking therapy were treated either by seasoned professionals (psychologists and psychiatrists) or by college professors who had no previous training in psychotherapy. There were no differences in outcomes between the two groups. (Strupp HH, Hadley SW. "Specific vs nonspecific factors in psychotherapy. A controlled study of outcome." Arch Gen Psychiatry. 1979 Sep;36(10):1125-36.) I wouldn’t assume that a licensed professional would do any better than a coach, a book, or a friend. Recall the study done by Hans Strupp at Vanderbilt University. Male college students who were seeking therapy were treated either by seasoned professionals (psychologists and psychiatrists) or by college professors who had no previous training in psychotherapy. There were no differences in outcomes between the two groups. (Strupp HH, Hadley SW. “Specific vs nonspecific factors in psychotherapy. A controlled study of outcome.” Arch Gen Psychiatry. 1979 Sep;36(10):1125-36.)

]]> By: Alison http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2006/07/18/single-and-not-fabulous/comment-page-1/#comment-65722 Alison Tue, 18 Jul 2006 20:23:58 +0000 http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2006/07/18/single-and-not-fabulous/#comment-65722 Why do you assume that people should be in a relationship, and its not okay to be single? Why do you assume that people should be in a relationship, and its not okay to be single?

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