God I’ve spent most of my life looking after other people brought 4 kids up with my late mum then looked after her till she died. went back into work till it damaged my health where the hell do i go now and what do i do i feel really isolated

I really sympathise with this. I am divorced, brought up three children and just find myself alone and completely lost. I dont know what I am going to do with the rest of my life, nothing seems to be enjoyable when you are doing things on your own, I’m not a terribly outgoing person anyway which doesnt help. Just find the isolation intolerable sometimes

I feel like my insides are dying with every day that I am alone. I do not attach to people well. I can chit chat, but beyond that I have no deeper connections. I’m fearful because I am isolating my 12 year old son too and he is picking up on these ways as well. Which leads me to terrible guilt. Life goes on around me, and watch, longing to be a part of it, not knowing how.

kids shutting me out of their adult lives i feel awful

hey don’t fret u all.. After over 20yrs raising kids while working full time in care profession looking after humanity and enduring a empty hostile marriage, i decided this year at the age of 43 i’m going to make most of the time i have left. Went abroad with no expectations other than enjoying and experiencing what ever came my way. Met a young man.. much younger than me..((smile)) after much agonising agreed to his marriage proposal Now my life is sweet wonderful and blessed. You hold your selves back sweets.. so dare to be different believe in your self and lonliness will flee from you.. Celebrate your life and thank GOD always.. love n peace.

I was never like this before. I was always the most popular in HS, but also felt very comfortable in my own company. After taking care of my dad for 10
months who passed away 2 months ago, I am NOW feeling very lonely. Prior to that I ended a 5 yr relationship that wasn’t going any where. I have let all my friends go and decided that they just drain me with their negative energy. I rather be alone than dealing with even more doom and gloom than I have on my own plate. I have very bad chronic pain and am awaiting a trial for a pain pump. In the meanwhile a therapist told me about a group online called ” meet-up.com” They have meetings withe people of what ever age group you are looking for. I have attended, scrabble, fine dining, photography but I have gained about 25 pounds from medication and just plain stress. I am first starting to feel like I am getting back to normal but in the meanwhile I am still alone, and it hurts and making friends late in life is no easy process.

I’m 44, unmarried and childless. All my friends have married and moved away (a few have moved due to their jobs). Other then work, I spend 100% of my time alone. In my 20’s and 30’s I had a social circle that came to a halt as everyone but me married. Now I’m the only person left on Earth. I tried finding people online but everyone has such a big agenda and no one wants to do simple things. Mostly it leads to a few emails then nothing more.

My loneliness is killing me. My husband left me when I was 34 and obsessed with 13 year olds. It has scared me for the rest of my life. It is a big wall that I can’t trust any man anymore. I have a uti that I am thinking about not treating with antibiotics to lead to renal failure to finally be done with it. I would like to find a doc that would prescribe anti-inflamation and pain killers so the bacteria would lead me to renal failure and death. I would rather be in the sky.

Is there anyone (doc) who believes in passive euthanasia?

Hello, I’m a Documentary Filmmaker and I’m researching for a Film about Loneliness. I’m looking for single people who live and/or work alone. If you are willing to chat to me I would be very grateful as I would love to hear your stories.
Many Thanks

Sam
email: samuel.poore@hotmail.com

i am totally alone. i have a grown up daughter but no family or friends. im trying to figure out how to die and not let my daughter get hurt by it. i have no life. just a very stressful job, no positive inputs ever, and can’t see many reasons to keep going. i do not wish to hurt my daughter, so i think an accidental death would be better for both of us. searched the internet to see if any had it like me, but found none. so in this i’m unique no family or friends. says a lot about me.

Wow…I can’t believe I live in the same universe as the previous writers. I am 56 and have never been happier. Finally freed from the concern about appearances and the sexual static that was ALWAYS there, I have rediscovered the joy of making new friends. I am pursing my interests and discovering new ones, reacquainting myself with my wonderful husband, and exercising (albieit with lots of aches and pains following). Life is sweet for this 56 year old.

I totally understand how all the previous writers feel. I have felt that way at times.

Remember, we are where we are because of the choices we have made…..and we can be in a different place by the choice we make

Make a decision - it doesn’t matter WHAT you decide - only that you decide

TRY: get out and walk - join a gym - go to a networking group - volunteer - dig in a garden - take care of yourself - sleep is restorative - THINK positive thoughts - find positive people - to go meet.com and join a group

grab a piece of paper - right now - and start writing down what you appreciate - do this every day

hug yourself - smile - go to a starbucks- go to a book store - volunteer -

believe in yourself

if you are depressed - go to a doctor

you are where you are because of the choices you have made - and you can make choices to go in a different direction

YOU CAN DO THIS - SMILE!!!

Hi Anne, I hope your still here because you say most of the things I have been thinking.
I have an “anti family” this is worse than no family- mine have NEVER EVER liked or included me.
Older siblings tried to dump me at the beach as a toddler and down hill all the way since then. I’ve always been the embarassing screw up outsider. My adult children prefer their in-laws and my eldest brother to me -big house,expensive cars top level career vs stay at home mother who works as a mail sorter now she’s divorced.Told them I loved them but they said it made no difference.Why am I here?

Back again, I want to say how much Lynn’s comments angered me. I’ve just taken myself off antidepressants after years on -they help with anxiety and fear but they don’t change life.
Its all very well for the counsellers and psychs to teach re-storying etc etc but I don’t feel alone and that my family are rotten they really were neglectful,emotionally abusive and rejecting I’ve just found out dad had a heart attack no one bothered to tell me. Located Mum (hospialised and has alzheimers) by ringing round the hospitals.She hasn’t called in six months because they (siblings)erased my number from her home phone. And hey they are all a bunch of stinkers anyway when I don’t feel alone, I feel very, very angry.

Hi Rosemary. I’m still here Comment to “min”: if youre that happy, why are you in here?? And “Lynn”, you comments are not what we need right now.
Rosemary I’m exactly like you. I have brothers that are mean and cruel. Thats why I wrote no family. I decided about a year ago that i would no longer accept how they talked to me, so I have no longer contact with any of them. Works ok both ways it seems. They do not miss me a single day, and i no longer get to hear how horrible I am. I had to let it go. family or not. I think thats what you have to do to.
I never went to a shrink or tried pills, so i can’t say if it helps or not. For me i have to deal with this my way.

Hi I agree, if you are Happy with your life… wonderful.. go find a happy website to blog in. People are not just lonely because of CHOICES… what ROT! Some people had very little choice in their life. How about the child that was kidnapped and forced to be a sex slave everyday! I am sick and tired of people, most of whom had a lot more when they started their life telling others why their life sucks.
I would love to trade places with one of these “happy” people and see how they would be coping after the life I have been through.

This is a very materalistic horrible country we have created… just look at how all the expatriots are flocking to places like the phillipines and Thailand and other places where they can live like kings and complain about giving the rest of us back here any basic medical care, or jobs which often causes many people to be lonely and depressed.

I could change my life… and dump a morbidly obese husband who is diabetic and won’t change his habits and even take his pills without a fight… but I could not live with myself… unlike the large portion of Americans who are socialpaths and could careless about other people.

Why don’t you happy people try helping someone for free sometime instead of trying to make a buck off someone else’s misery.

Well, it does not sound like you are too happy helping someone else, right? …and he’s your husband?

Stop comparing yourself to everyone. Try to relate a little more with compassion.

All comments are great otherwise, the happy and the depressed. They are all ‘real’, and ‘true’.