Ask the Therapist About Trauma - Page 4

I Feel Betrayed. Am I Correct Feeling this Way?

So I had pretty rough childhood with my Physically and Emotionally abusive step-father. I told my mother but she just ignored me and went on pretending everything was normal. As I grew older I grew more rebellious as teens tend to do and decided I had had enough of living in fear every single day in my own house. So I ran away (I was gone for a total of 15 hours and I...
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PTSD: Can’t Stop Purposely Triggering Myself

I was raped when I was nine years old. The abuse I suffered lasted for several months, but I have only a handful of memories, like brief flashes, and some of them are not even visual. I am so mad at myself for not being able to remember more, it makes me feel like maybe I’m making the whole thing up. I also hate that when I think of my abuse directly, I mostly...
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I’m Contemptuous of My Emotionally Abusive Dad

My dad is emotionally abusive to me and my mom, has been for years. I didn’t realize in till this year after a series of conversations I had with the school councilor. When the councilor asked if I had ever feared physical violence at home was kind of an AHA moment. She also pointed out behaviors I thought were normal as abusive. That combined with my own research on emotional manipulation led me to...
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Why Am I So Mean?

A lot of people make fun of me and bully me, so in order to fit in I act cocky and conceded *that is what everyone I know is like* but the problem is I don’t know when to stop. I am rude and mean to everyone and everyone hates me. plz help. A: Thank you for your letter. Even when you are acting cocky the bullies are still controlling you. The real work...
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The Need for Pain

I was abused as a child, locked alone in a room for five years with no food or human contact. Ten years later, I am married and we just bought a house, but it seems some of my demons are moving with me. Several years ago I tried to kill myself. I haven’t had any attempts since then, but I have gotten very low. And it’s then that I imagine my worst tortures, usually...
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My Boyfriend of 5 Years Is Chronically Suicidal

From Switzerland: I don’t know if there even is an answer to my situation but I guess asking can’t hurt. And at other places people just kept telling me to ask a professional so here I am. (Since I can’t in real life for multiple reasons one ironically being that I am a medical student…) This is about my boyfriend of almost 5 years. He has been suicidal since before we met, was diagnosed...
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Scapegoated as a Child

I just wish to have opinion of therapist. I stopped communicating with siblings from childhood because I was molested by my older brother when I was nine and he has made inappropriate sexual suggestions to me as adult. My older sister was beaten by our father and our mother didn’t protect her. Instead, our mother scapegoated me from her guilt I am guessing. She made me take the second grade over again because my...
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Own Life Falling Apart while Coping with Partner with PTSD Anxiety & Depression

Dear Doctor: I hope that you can help. I guess my question is how to help me cope with this situation. My partner (f) was diagnosed with PTSD last year following childhood abuse & traumas. In connection with this she does struggle to live her life, but she is getting help, both therapy cognitive and medication including anti psychs, pills for depression and anxiety. Now I support best I can but life has been...
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Depressed Because of Not Having Anyone Who Will Support Me Financially or Physically

My parents got separated 10 years ago and my mother brought up me and my little brother single handed. My father was not concerned about us and he is dead now. But when I was growing up, I felt the terrible need of my father. I still feel unprotected and unsafe. I feel like none will come to save me if i am in danger. Maybe it is because I have faced several sexual...
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I Have PTSD — But Never Like This

I have PTSD, have been in a few abusive relationships, have over come them all and have always been fine. This last one, about 5 months ago, he got me pregnant, he was abusive but one day he went to the extreme and almost killed me after I found out we were pregnant… this was all in front of my first son. I believe it’s because it was in front of my son that...
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