Ask the Therapist About Trauma - Page 2

Cheating — But Not Really?

My fiance and I have been together for 4 years. About a year into our relationship I had to take a break from it because I had a history of violent sexual abuse that I had to get help for and our relationship was hard for me to participate in during that time. About 3 months into our break we started going out on dates and working toward getting back to normal, but we...
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Haunted by Memories of Childhood Abuse

From Canada: I’m in my 50s and was sexually abused by a family member as a child. I told no one about it until I was in my early 20’s. Some of my memories of the abuse are vivid and clear. Some of them are disjointed. When I was about 10 years old, I had a dream. In the dream, my abuser was raping me, and in the weird way dreams are, I was...
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Dating Phobia — HELP!

For as long as I can remember I’ve been this way. I have always resisted the idea of dating and being in a relationship. And don’t get me wrong, I’ve had a handful of crushes growing up and a couple have been mutual. But my fear of dating is so intense that I panic and cope by becoming mean and closed off to make them change their #8217;m sure the way I was raised...
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Is This DID?

From New Zealand: I’m a 12 year old girl and i have been traumatized throughout my childhood up until i was about 8 years old. I’ve been going to counselling since i was 10 and everybody i see (including my own family) have told me that i have been traumatized even though i don’t feel traumatized at all. I cant even remember the amount of times ive tried to tell my family that i...
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I Feel Like I Have DID

From a teen in the : Sometimes I feel like the world isn’t real or I’m not real, kinda like a dream. Family says I stare at nothing a lot, and I talk to myself from time to time, even arguments. I’ve been told my personality flip flops. Like I’m me at one point, but then I suddenly change to another person. I’ve never been abused but was bullied a lot until I snapped...
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Is this Stockholm Syndrome?

From New Zealand: Hi, I’m just after some pointers of where to start researching and maybe some advice on both Stockholm syndrome and parental alienation. I have been separated from my daughter’s (9) father for 7 years. She has had regular contact with her dad until the last few months. She has been with me full time due to a domestic assault happening in his house (this is the 6th assault). My daughter has...
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Where Can I Find Help?

I was molested for several years as a child. I can’t stop lying about EVERYTHING. I abuse alcohol. I feel a constant need for attention and validation. Sometimes I’m suicidal. I have a never ending sexual appetite. I cry hysterically when I’m alone. I feel distant from everyone around me. I have chronic violent nightmares. I see and hear things. I crave attention and validation. I have a laundry list of irrational fears and...
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Homicidal Ideation, No One to Turn To

I am a sophomore in high school, and since middle school I have had suicidal thoughts, and attempted about twice. But that is not the heart of my current issue. Last year, I started having homicidal thoughts as well. I have thoughts of planting a bomb in my school, or walking into my school or mall or church with a rifle and opening fire. I have no reason to want this, I am not...
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I’m Afraid of Having Sex with Men

From Canada: I’m bisexual, and although I’m attracted to both women and men I’m completely terrified of having penetrative sex with men. I think that this problem stems from my childhood sexual abuse, but I can’t be sure. Is there any way I can overcome this problem? I don’t want to exclude myself to just dating women due to my fear of sex with men. A. I’m very glad you wrote. Healthy choice of...
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Should I Get a Second Opinion?

From England: Hi, I have been struggling with episodes of severe anxiety, depression and self harm for many years. These episodes will suddenly lift and I will feel great but it cycles back very quickly. I saw a psychiatrist after lots of doctors told me what they thought I had wrong with me and gave me more anti-depressants which all made me feel very unstable. The psychiatrist believes that my brain is unable to...
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