Sex Articles

Can’t Fall Asleep with Anyone But My Ex

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Thursday, August 21st, 2014
I have difficulties falling asleep when in bed with someone else. It has occurred with a handful of different men in different beds. I will either sleep for one or two hours or not at all. This has happened consistently for over four years all ...

Turning My Relationship More Serious Made Me Lose Desire

By Holly Counts, Psy.D. on Monday, August 4th, 2014
Hello, and thank you for reading and answering my question! After more than two years of being single, I decided I needed more affection and physical attention and asked a male friend if we could try having a casual relationship (casual because I ...

Sexual Identity and God

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Sunday, August 3rd, 2014
I was raised in a Southern Baptist home. We had a very conservative family life. I was raised to believe being gay was/is wrong. I moved away and tried the "gay" lifestyle, it did not end well. I decided to be true to my family's ...

12-Year Old Viewing Odd Materials

By Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW on Wednesday, July 30th, 2014
Please help me as I am not sure where to go with this. A 12 old boy found inappropriate videos online. I check his electronics at random, and found a video of a girl being ganged up on and they put a baseball bat in ...

Confusion of Childhood

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Wednesday, July 23rd, 2014
First, I will start with some info about me, I am 21 with 2 kids and engaged with the father. I previously was having thoughts that I had sexual intercourse when I was 4 with someone who was only a few years older, I remember bits ...

My Dad Is Cheating

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Thursday, July 17th, 2014
A month ago I saw my dad's phone messages where open and there was messages to a lady that was not my mother that where dirty and about sex. I talked to my dad about it but he said that it was not true. I ...

I Feel Depressed and Moody

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Thursday, July 17th, 2014
From Serbia: I'm a 23 years old male virgin with lots of depression and sorrow inside me. I never had sex and actually never been in a real relationship. Always felt like the girls that liked me aren't good enough for me, but the ones ...

I’m Not Sure About My Sexual Orientation

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Tuesday, July 15th, 2014
From the U.K.: Lately i have had a crush on this guy at school, today this boy started a fight on him for no reason and my crush won- it totally turned me on. But ive also been fantasising about katy perry and other pretty ...

Transgender Issues

By Holly Counts, Psy.D. on Tuesday, July 15th, 2014
I know it's a bit of a cliché, but for as long as I can remember, I have felt very different. As a child, I didn't have many friends, and could not really relate very well to others around me. Aside from this, ...

How Can I Possibly Choose Between the Best Two Men in the Entire World?

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Monday, July 14th, 2014
From the U.S. Ok. So in highschool (im a fifth year college student now) I dated this great guy we'll call Dude. Dude is my age. My relationship with Dude was amazing. we dated from senior year of HS to the end of my freshman ...

Eye Contact in a Group Setting

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Sunday, July 13th, 2014
About a year ago, one of my male friends began showing interest in me and we occasionally began hooking up at social events hosted by friends (this only ever happened under the influence of alcohol). We did very little communicating outside of the setting of ...

Only Aroused by Men

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Saturday, July 12th, 2014
From the U.S.: I am a straight woman who loves my husband, and am sexually attracted to him; however, I am only aroused by him or homosexual men together. Women with men do not arouse me, women with women do not arouse me, only men ...