Sex Articles

My Boyfriend Uses Me

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Wednesday, September 24th, 2014
I woke up today to my boyfriend forcing himself inside of me, it's not the first time. When it happens I don't say or do anything, if I did he would only make it hurt more. He seems to get off on my physical pain, ...

Disturbing Dreams

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Tuesday, September 23rd, 2014
Let me start by saying I would never hurt my son in any way. I have a son who is almost two and I have had a few disturbing dreams about him. In these dreams I'm beginning to perform sex acts on complete strangers then ...

Transference with Therapist

By Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW on Monday, September 22nd, 2014
I've been seeing my therapist for several months now (who is male) and it's really going well. I've been neglected almost my entire life and it's great to have someone that listens and understands. But I've noticed I've been having feelings for him. I did ...

My Boyfriend Has Sex with Me when I’m Asleep

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Sunday, September 21st, 2014
My boyfriend and I have been dating for nearly 5 years, since our junior year of high school. We have not had sex for various reasons. He is religious, and I suffer from panic attacks during intimacy. We used to fool around in high school, ...

I Lied to My Fiance about My Past

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Tuesday, September 16th, 2014
From the U.S.: My fiance and I have been together for 4 years. When we first got together he told me everything about his past (I didn't ask him) and asked me to do the same. From early on he would always tell me "girls ...

Robbed of Control Over My Life

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Monday, September 15th, 2014
From Germany: I’ve been feeling like I was robbed of control over my life by my ex-girlfriend made me avoid sex with all women. About 5 years ago, about a month after breaking up with my ex-girlfriend, she contacted me to let me know she took ...

Sexual Deviation

By Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW on Wednesday, September 10th, 2014
Hello, I am currently starting treatment for lifelong psychological issues. I am extremely uncomfortable about this process and would like to ask a question here which I would rather not talk with my therapist about. I am asexual, that is I do not feel attraction; however, ...

Relationship Issue

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Tuesday, September 9th, 2014
When I was a teenager I vowed to myself and God to remain a virgin until I was married so I could save myself for the man that I am supposed to spend forever with. Well I am in a relationship now and about 4 ...

I’m Married and in Love with a Married Woman

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Thursday, September 4th, 2014
From S. Africa: My cheating habits started a few years back. I feel that I was pushed into the hands of another woman. My wife hadn't been working for some years at that time and we just had our second child a few months back. ...

My Boyfriend Won’t Hold Me or Cuddle Me

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Sunday, August 31st, 2014
From the U.S. i have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and i know he has a problem being intimate, but it is getting ridiculous. he says its because he was raised differently and he is stuck in 50's mentality. he is not ...

Relationship Issue

By Holly Counts, Psy.D. on Saturday, August 30th, 2014
I have been dating Jack for about two years. Recently, we have been discussing marriage, but there is an issue and I don’t know how to resolve it. I have been in two other long term relationships before Jack: one was for a ...

Is This Considered Sexual Abuse?

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Thursday, August 28th, 2014
From the U.S.: My brother and I grew up with a narcissistic mother. I have read online that this causes a lack of nurturance. As a result when I was 6, 7, 8 my brother and I had sexual relations. I don't remember much, but ...