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Am I Hebephelic?

From India: Initially, I identified myself as a gay, being attracted to boys my age as I hit puberty. With time, however, I lost my inclination towards them and retained the same feelings for boys around that age and even began checking out tween boys. But I must clarify that I never have had any sexual interest in any of them. I simply love their adorable looks, their innocent joy, their bantering talks and...
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Past Promuscuity Guilt

From the : I’m a 20 year-old female, and in the past I was on the promiscuous side. My downfall started when I was 16, and was coerced into having sex with a 20-year-old guy I wasn’t even into. From there I had several more casual encounters. I acted like I wanted it, and was proud of “being a slut”, but to be honest I died a little on the inside every time. At...
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No Desire for Physical Contact of Any Kind

From the : Why don’t I feel any desire at all for physical contact with my boyfriend of 3 years? We are both divorced, in our 40’s, have kids from previous marriages, and are both Christians. We decided early on not to have sex, but after a month or so, we gave in. This lasted a few months, then we backed off. For a while (close to a year), things were fine–we acted like...
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I’m Not Turned on by My Boyfriend’s Fetish

From the Philippines: So, my boyfriend and I have been in a relationship (we’re both gays, by the way and I’m the receiving end) for over a year now, and I think we’re doing quite really well given that we’ve built our connection through trust, honesty and a lot of empathy and communication. So, about four months since we’ve been together as a couple, he confided to me about his fetish for tummies and...
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6-Year-Old Child Imitating Sexual Acts But Not Sure Why

Recently my nanny told me that while I am at work she found my 6 yr old daughter take off her clothes and do sexual acts including touching her abdomen. She even tried having her 18 month old brother to touch her however the nanny saw and immediately stopped them. I need to understand how I should act as I’m extremely disturbed by this behavior. I have removed Ipad completely from her and ensure...
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Help! I’ve Been Extremely Depressed, Anxious and Paranoid for Months Now

I think I should start off by saying I didn’t have a very good childhood. My parents divorced when I was 5, my dad was a meth addict, and my mom was always busy working to provide for us that I spent most of my time at my grandparents. I was overweight and very shy, and hardly even tried to make friends because of my lack of self confidence that caused me to always...
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Cheating — But Not Really?

My fiance and I have been together for 4 years. About a year into our relationship I had to take a break from it because I had a history of violent sexual abuse that I had to get help for and our relationship was hard for me to participate in during that time. About 3 months into our break we started going out on dates and working toward getting back to normal, but we...
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Straight Guy with Male & Female Foot Fetish

When I was younger in the 5th grade, I had a foot fetish for guys and girls feet, but now my fetish is more focused on women’s feet. I managed to smell the shoes and socks of girls’ and guys’ feet, however when it comes to guys feet I never had any emotional or sexual attraction for the person just their feet. I am mostly attracted to women throughout my life, but remembering the...
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I Am in a Relationship that Hurts Me

Six months ago I went on a camp with some friends. I slept with one of my best friends which was in a long-lasting relationship. We both enjoyed it and wanted to continue with that. We both knew it was a bad and immoral thing, but the pleasure was above all the morality. But I started to fall madly in love with him. Every time I saw him, touched him, kissed him I was...
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Haunted by Memories of Childhood Abuse

From Canada: I’m in my 50s and was sexually abused by a family member as a child. I told no one about it until I was in my early 20’s. Some of my memories of the abuse are vivid and clear. Some of them are disjointed. When I was about 10 years old, I had a dream. In the dream, my abuser was raping me, and in the weird way dreams are, I was...
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Dating Phobia — HELP!

For as long as I can remember I’ve been this way. I have always resisted the idea of dating and being in a relationship. And don’t get me wrong, I’ve had a handful of crushes growing up and a couple have been mutual. But my fear of dating is so intense that I panic and cope by becoming mean and closed off to make them change their #8217;m sure the way I was raised...
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