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Sexual Feelings Interfere with Studying

From India: i am preparing for a difficult exam. my future depends on the exam. i am thinking always to score well. but some sexual thoughts are disturbing me. i am always tries to focus on studies. for 2 or 3 days i am on the track after i disturbed. again i retrieved and i start studies after 2 days again i disturbed. this is happening to me like a recursive system. i observed...
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Am I Prudish?

From Australia: Hello, I am interested in your opinion about this question: Am I prudish or out of touch when I think that a girl having sex with a guy is somehow not right morally? I’m not saying that the act is immoral in any way; but that I can’t see girls that girls are sexual beings and not just in the context of a parental/friendship, etc, role. At the same time I realize...
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Where Can I Find Help?

I was molested for several years as a child. I can’t stop lying about EVERYTHING. I abuse alcohol. I feel a constant need for attention and validation. Sometimes I’m suicidal. I have a never ending sexual appetite. I cry hysterically when I’m alone. I feel distant from everyone around me. I have chronic violent nightmares. I see and hear things. I crave attention and validation. I have a laundry list of irrational fears and...
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Could a 36-Year-Old Person Stay Mentally Normal without Sex?

I would like take your advice and opinion on my new relationship with a friend who is 36 years old. He is not married and never got into a relationship with any other girl. He follows different religion that does not allow sexual relations except after marriage. He seems to me a normal person but I am not sure if this long period without sex would have kept him in normal mental health? or there...
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I Have Urge to Have Sex with My Sister

I want to have sex with her. I searched on the web and i found that i’m mentally sick. Am I really? Whenever i see her, i get arousal! She have very nice body, and she is sexy. I want to kill myself now. How can i think such bullshit!! I am really very frustrated. please sir/mam help me. either i will kill myslef, or i will leave my home forever. I asked my...
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Is My Boyfriend Gay?

From Turkey: Back in July I met a guy through a friend. He found me through my friend’s Facebook page. After 2 weeks he wanted to become a couple. He seemed to rush things. He invited me to a wedding on the 10th day of our relationship, wanted to go on holiday with me and talked to his mother and sister about me. Then he inteoduced me to his friends. I thought such things...
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How Bad Is It that My Brother Touched Me and I Enjoyed It?

From the Netherlands: I am 27 and I feel very inappropriate about what happened between me and my brother when we were kids (I was about 13/14 years old and my brother 11/12). Basically he tricked me into ‘teaching’ him how to handle things with a girl, like kissing and touching. He told me as an older sister I should safe him from disasters with girls by letting him touch and kiss me so...
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How Do I Deliberately Lower Male Libido?

From Switzerland: My wife of 30+ years has ‘come out’ to her self and to me as an asexual lesbian. Our low-sex marriage has become a no-sex one. The only way that I can see us remaining happily married is if I become as asexual as she is. So how can I work at reducing my male libido? A: It’s admirable that you are willing to do so much to stay happily married. However,...
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Came Out on a LSD Trip, Changed My Life

I took a drug called LSD, a psychedelic drug and I “came out” on it, I hope you know what it means, and it causes my anxiety level to went sky high during the “trip” I sort of “died” during the trip and came back, I wasn’t really the drug type of person but somehow my friends manage to convinced me, I’ll tried to keep and it brief and short, even thought friends who...
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My Boyfriend Hates My Girlfriend

Because of their past history my boyfriend doesn’t want me to be friends with her. My boyfriend and I got back together the first of March after being apart for 5 years. I moved in with him May 1st completely. I visited my daughter for a week each time in May and June. June 11th I was introduced to one of his female friends, at that time I asked him if he had slept...
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Sexual Issue

From Venezuela: Hi, I want to thank you in advance for your help. I am a 25 year old girl, I have been in relationship with a 29 year old man who I love very much for 3 years, we are very happy together, the problem is we do not have sex anymore. At the beginning of the relationship we had amazing sex, everything was perfect, its been about a year since our sex...
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I’m Aroused by Urination

From a teen in Australia: I have this disorder of being sexually aroused when a guy urinates. I’m pretty sure I’m straight, but I do not get aroused when a girl does it. I really don’t want to be sexually aroused by urination, because this is becoming to be all I think about. I want to be normal and not be sexually aroused when someone is urinating or when I think about urination. Please...
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