I have been married for almost 8 years. We have 3 kids. My husband cheated on me with a woman about 5 months ago and we are trying to get past it now that it is out in the open and the affair is over with. When we started to have sex again, he wanted to pretend that there was another man with us having sex. He wanted to the oral with him etc. I asked him how long he had these feelings. And he said for around 15 or so years. Now I saw on his computer that he is looking at gay adult movies, pictures etc. And looking at gay people posting ads for ...  
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My fiance and I have been together for almost 2 years, when we first met I wasnt very attracted to him but he was very sweet and had the best personality 6 months went by and we had the best relationship ever he treated me very well and everything was perfect. 7 months into our relationship i found out I was pregnant and i was only 16 at the time and he was 19. Im very much anti abortion and always wanted to be a mom, just not as soon as it came. We both come from very supportive and financially stable families and bringing a baby into the world came about as easy as it could being as young as we were. Throughout the pregnancy ...  
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My husband and I were together for 3 yrs before we got married and waited until we were married to have sex. Once we were married. I found that sex was painful. Over the course of 4 yrs. we have only tried to have sex a handful of times and all times ended in frustration and emotional pain.

I recently found out the the cause of all this sexual frustration is vaginismus and have been referred to a sex therapist by my gynocologist. I fear that this diagnosis has come too late as my husband is done with our relationship. He now says that he has no sexual interest in me at all. I will be planning a visit to this therapist within the next

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This is my second marriage and I want it to be successful. My first was for 23 years and ended due to my husband abusing alcohol and infidelity. I waited 5 years after my divorce to be independent and heal. I dated my current husband for 5 years and we went to counseling beforehand to work on communicating and work out negotiating. We did not have intercourse due to my Christian and moral beliefs.

My husband as a boyfriend did show sexual interest, and was very affectionate and patient. Since marriage he pulls away when I make advances and never seems aroused anymore. He used to remark or grab me when I dressed nice, but not even naked moves him.

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Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 12 years. I lost interest in our sex life four years ago and hated the thought of "having" to do it. Recently I found out that he was cheating on me — of course he denied it but all of a sudden I was so sexually aroused of the idea of him touching someone else that I had to have sex with him and I did for two days! the whole weekend was spent in bed. Everytime I think of what he did, it powers me sexually almost to the point of orgasim just thinking about it, What is wrong with me?

A. There is nothing wrong with you. The idea of being turned on by the

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I wish to seek your advice about a fetish which is beginning to upset me. For a number of years when masturbating I have only been aroused by larger/obese women. I find it difficult to become aroused or have any satisfaction if I fantasize about 'attractive girls'. No disrespect intended, I have no rational desire to be in a relationship with a larger girl it seems to be purely on a sexual level. Upon climaxing my sexual desire for them very quickly dissapears and I always feel ashamed of myself and am repulsed by what I have just done.

I have only had one sexual partner, who was of an average build. During our encounters I found it difficult to become aroused by her, making it very

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My ex-wife and I have been divorced for two years now. We have been together since we were 16 years old. When we were married, we had a lot of issues. I was very angry at the whole world it seemed, and I would take a lot of my frustrations out on my wife. I would say horrible things to her. I tried to push her and my friends and family away. I treated everyone who loved me bad. I finally swallowed my pride and went to see a therapist. I sorted out some issues I had with my mom that I've been carrying since I was a kid that I didnt know I was carrying. Anyways, I got help a little too late. ...  
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My dad recently passed away. My mom and I live by ourselves for the first time and she begged that I no longer hide anything from her. She asked me to show her my penis, if and how I masturbated, what my sexual history has been. My mom is an angel, but I am 21 now and grew up very repressed sexually. Apparently that's was my dad's way, not hers. I kind of want to do this. Would this has any negative consequences? She clarified she doesn't want to have sex with me, just uninhibitness

A: What your mother is asking you to do is highly inappropriate. Maybe, in her grief, she wants you to in some

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My wife and I have been married for 4 years. In the last 3 years of our relationship, the frequency with which we had sex tapered off very gradually; we now have had virtually no sexual contact in the last 6 months.

We have had a few bad fights — one in which we hit each other (I spent a night in prison for this). This was several months ago now, and we had virtually no sex for months leading up to this fight anyway.

I've been unemployed for about a year but have been steadily paying the majority of our bills from my savings and severance package; I've also been raising our daughter (she's 2 1/2 years old) as my wife is working full

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Q: When my husband and I make love he sometimes likes to do some activities that I don't like it because sometimes when he does it it end's up hurting me. So how I can tell him to stop it without him being mad at me for that? I love making love to him, don't get me wrong, I just don't like some of the things he does (content edited). My stomach end's up hurting too when he's done with that. Sometimes he feel's on my breast's too in public and in front of children and I feel uncomfortable about that. He doesn't care what he does in front of me or on me whether it's out in public or not. What should I ...  
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My husband and I are really concerned about our 10 year old son who is mastubating with his stuffed animals. He does this in his bedroom and it is happening like every day. Our son was diagnosed with autism at the age of 2, so we are not sure if he is completely understanding what he is doing. Is this normal behavior? My husband and I are afraid that he may begin to touch girls since he is touching himself this much. My husband has been taking his stuffed animals from him, should he? What should we do?

A: Masturbation this frequently is unusual in a 10 year old. Although he is doing it in the privacy of his bedroom

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Q: My previous boyfriend was abused by a priest when he was an altar boy in his teens. We were together for over 7 years. He is on one hand sweet but not able to commit to a relationship. He dissociates and does not believe his abuse is affecting his ability to have a relationship and tells me it is my problem. I have left the relationship and feel like I am suffering from PTSD as a result of years of living with someone who was unsupportive emotionally and who left me feeling like I was demanding. He has had numerous relationships since we separated. None of which he can commit to. I know he is not honest with his girlfriends.

We have seen

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