Ask the Therapist About Self-esteem - Page 4

Gender Crisis

Hi, when I was about 15-16 I had thoughts of being assigned the wrong gender at birth, I kept it secret from my parents, but they kept laughing at me and making fun of me for being slightly feminine (wanting to grow my hair, having long nails). My dad always called me names and teased me about it. I kept it inside and only told one person, she was my closest friend that I...
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I Don’t Know if My Mother Is Abusive or if It’s Just Me

I’m writing about this problem because I don’t know if my mother is actually abusive or if what I’m experiencing is just normal. My mother is always blaming me for her feelings. She never apologizes or admits that she is wrong. When I ask her to apologize she becomes mad and starts telling me how disrespectful I am and how many things she does for me. Most of these things are to manipulate me...
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I Just Feel Antisocial All the Time

From a teen in the : I don’t think I am antisocial because I am always with my friends, it’s just that I would rather be alone. But if I could be my complete self around my friends I wouldn’t be writing this. When it comes to family I don’t mind being with them, but I just would rather be alone when it comes to my friends. Like everyone else around me would rather...
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20 Year Family Lie Exposed

When I was 12 my family moved interstate and I started a new school. I became friendly with a student and so did our families. Something happened between my mother and friends father where she accused him or raping her. I was bullied at school and lost all my friends which was devastating as I was struggled to make friends before the move. She went down tubes, attempted suicide in front of myself and...
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Skin Picking, What Should I Do?

I have always picked, bitten, pulled and scratched the skin around my fingers ever since I was around 10-13 years old. Then hitting puberty I was never one to leave spots alone and if I went away on holiday and was bitten by some bug sure enough it wouldn’t be long before I had squeezed, picked and scratched away at the area. I had a few scars on my legs and my fingers always...
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I’m Lost

From Brazil: Hello there, I would like to introduce myself. I am a 24 years old girl and I’ve been trying to find ways to become a better person and to feel better about myself. Sometimes I feel like I don’t really know who I am or what I want to be. And that scares me a little bit. Most of the time I try to fill my mind with work and with ideas...
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Depression

Hi I think i have depression. I know the causes and i can’t change it i won’t commit suicide. can depression be treated without medication and without a professional help? and how? Thanks (age 19, from Syria) A: Thank you for writing in. There are many things you can do on your own to help ease the burden of depression, however, for severe or chronic symptoms, professional treatment is warranted. Eating a healthy diet...
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Why Did I Come Back to My Abusive Home?

I left for college at the end of August and moved into my dorm. Starting the very first night at college, every single night I would have panic attacks, shake uncontrollably, throw up, and be nauseous. I then began having thoughts of suicide 24/7 and I decided that it was too emotionally dangerous for me to be at college so I decided to move back home and go to community college instead for a...
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I Don’t Know How I Can Go on Living

I’ve always been a sad and angry kid. I recently since I am an “adult” now and decided I was going to get the help I needed that my parents just didn’t understand. Its been 4 months in therapy. She’s diagnosed me with Borderline Personality Disorder so I was reading up on It and it says all these awful things and that’s when I realize I’m just so messed up and I push people...
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Irritability, Anger, Occasional Depression, Sudden Onset

Prior to this phase I’d been generally a very calm person, people I work with even commenting on how they never see me angry or upset. Don’t even really remember when I started to get irritable and angry though, just found that I’d start going through most days being frustrated by just about anything, if there wasn’t something I’d end up finding it. I’d be yelling, cursing, and pretty much just feeling pissed off...
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I Want to Feel Depressed, I Want to Be Mentally Ill

For over a year and a half now, I have been feeling that something is wrong with my life. I have searched for my symptoms all over the Internet, and succeeded in applying several diagnoses for my mental state, but neither of them seemed to fit perfectly. So, in order to be able to fit into any of these diagnoses, I started to mimic their symptoms. For instance, I forced myself to feel bad...
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Trust Issues & Mother Daughter Bond

I suffer from trust issues. I tend to be afraid of everyone, question their motives and avoid engaging in social situations with people I haven’t known for a long time and therefore feel comfortable with. I think my relationship with my mother makes things worse. She keeps giving me advice and gets mad if I brush her off. Most of the time, she tells me to be careful, don’t come back late at night,...
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