Archives for Self-esteem

I Feel Like My Parents Hate Me

From 15-year-old girl in Canada: Recently I felt like my parents really hate me. One thing I noticed is that they are letting my brother go into the career path he wants to go into but not me. I am interested in fashion and want to have a career in it, but my parents think otherwise. My dad usually calls me an idiot or stupid and says that my brother is smarter and brighter...
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I Upset My Parents

Hi. I recently had an argument with my parents, and I was very upset, so I decided to text a friend about it. Needless to say, I vented. The friend I texted doesn’t really have a good reputation with my parents, and they really don’t trust her. So tonight, my mother asked to see my phone, so I gave it to her, and she changed the setting like she said she was going to,...
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I Can’t Control What Happens in My Head

I’ve self harmed for quite a while, haven’t been diagnosed with any disorders but I really need your help. I don’t feel like it’s just me in my head? There’s so many people in here and they all shout things at me and make me feel worthless, they tell me to do things and if I don’t do then I’ll die. My mood is really low all the time and I spend almost all...
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I Changed Who I Was as a Person to Eliminate Depression and This Led to Unexpected Changes in My Life

The problem with this recent change in personal identity is that I now have a hard time focusing on and completing my school work both in class and outside of class. When I try to meditate and focus on breathing deep from my stomach, as the college counselor I’ve seen a few times suggested, I feel like crying. In the art class I’m taking (I’m a Technical Communication Major by the way), our teacher...
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My Boyfriend Yells and Cusses at Me When Something Goes Wrong

So I’ve been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. We recently bought a house! He’s an amazing guy, perfect in fact, until he gets mad! Well when he gets stressed or something doesn’t go his way or something goes wrong, he screams so loud and cusses at me even though I didn’t do anything! He acts like a crazy person! It scares me! It can be so little as in the dog is...
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Jealous of Brother and His Wife

My brother and his wife dated, traveled the world, and lived together for 8 years before marriage while doing their studies, all unknown to my parents. At the same time they got married, I got into my first relationship, which remains to this day, a long distance one, with us occasionally meeting once in a few months under parental supervision. It has been the most difficult 3 years, I cannot even begin to explain...
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Boyfriend Doesn’t Believe in Me

When my boyfriend and I started dating, things were wonderful. He accepted me for “me”, was non-judgmental, etc. One day he asked about my past. He had been married for most of his adult life, whereas I have never been married. I proceeded to tell him that I went to clubs from time to time when I was younger. He asked about my sexual past. I was honest and answered truthfully. He then began...
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I Have No Idea How to Start Thinking about My Future

I am 17, currently living in Australia. All my life I have never had any passion for anything. I do have many fleeting interests, but when I try to pursue them I tend to lose interest very quickly. I don’t have much experience with real-world issues either; I’ve never had a job, can’t drive, and never done any extracurricular activities or even had any real hobbies. Up to this point, my life has been...
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Loneliness

I am finding it really hard to shift this feeling of loneliness. I don’t have any really close friends and when I do, I think I expect them to put in as much effort as I do. I take everything very personally and can get upset by little things quickly. If I do make friends and it is going well I start to feel panicky like I expect something to go wrong and I...
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Struggling with Separation

I’m really struggling with my marriage separation right now. My wife gave me an ultimatum to stop drinking or else we would be separated and I chose alcohol. I moved out of state and soon after wised up, and quit drinking and started going to AA. I pleaded with my wife to give me another chance, but now she says she needs to heal and focus on herself. I’m trying to give her space...
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Stuck In Childhood

I experienced three consecutive traumas during childhood — the first living alone with my severely depressed and volatile mother whose moods terrified me, the second a long period of violent sexual abuse culminating in my rape at age 9, the third a very open rejection and subsequent abandonment by my father. I’m now 23 and my life is beautiful. I have dealt with most of my issues. But one that won’t leave me alone...
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Reconnecting with Others But Dealing with Social Anxiety and Emotional Trauma

I’m asking for your help and I’m hopeful that you can point me in the right direction. The shape of my life is good, but there are lingering anxieties that have not resolved themselves in time. I’ve had the painful experience of being the target of bullying numerous times throughout my life. I’ve grown increasingly immune to bullying but unbeknownst to me a symptom has emerged. These episodes of bullying were traumatic but the...
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