Ask the Therapist About Self-esteem

Hate for Myself and Sometimes Others/Continuous Anger

im 22  ive been with this issue for a while and i cant seem to permanently shake it.  ive had a deep seeded hate and anger with me for the better part of my adulthood.  cant tell when this started, only know ive had it for a long time. it drives me, keeps me aware and has pushed me to do better sometimes.  though most of the time it shuts me out of life around...
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16 and Unsure of Mental State

From Romania: I’m 16 and i live in romania. I’m not sure if i am depressed or bipolar. People have noticed i have mood swings often. I can go from happy to sad or frustrated for no reason. Essential to know is that I had a tough childhood not that bad but pretty abusive and i was a little bit anti social mainly because i was bullied. In other words, my life had fallen...
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Emotional/Verbal Abuse…and His Mother Makes it Worse!

My husband suffers from depression which manifests as anger, and he is emotionally/verbally abusive. I am trying to help him work through everything, but his mother is making it harder. When I talk to her about our problems, she says stuff like “Well, he just has a short temper like his father,” or “Well, he wouldn’t ever talk to me that #8221; Also, his parents are the main reason for his mental instability. It’s...
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Confidentiality with a Therapist

Hi. I’ve been thinking about going to my school counselor after a friend recommended I go. I had asked my mum about a year ago if I could see a therapist but she finds it hard to believe anything is wrong with me. I am worried that if I talk to the counselor she might tell my teachers or parents. Since I’m in a boarding school, she might have to tell my teacher. I...
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I Think I Have a Problem

Hi, I am a 14 year old girl, and I think I may have a problem. It all revolves around my father. When my mother was eight months pregnant, she discovered that my father was cheating on her, and the other woman was pregnant too. My mother gave birth to me and asked him to come back, but he decided to remain with the other woman and marry her. After that, my mother married...
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Fantasizing

I catch myself fantasizing about ways to hurt someone who hurt me. Who betrayed me. My cousin slept with my fiance, I trusted my married cousin I thought cousin had more respect. But I was fooled this has been almost 4 yrs ago and I am still angry. Why do I fantasize about this? A: Thanks for your email. Betrayal is one of the core elements we react to as human beings. This is...
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Overprotective Parents when My Age Is already 27

Hi, I’m 27 from Indonesia and moved to Malaysia since year 2000 with my mom and stepdad (Malaysian). All this while I’ve been very dependent on them due to my Visa problem, which is quite complicated. And they’ve been very worried and scared about my future if I can’t get a stable job here, cause seems like it is quite impossible for me to move back to Indonesia by myself. Due to that it...
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I Feel Lost, I Can’t Keep My Pants on (I Feel Slutty) and Lonely

As me been raised in Muslim country with a horrible family that they finally kinda accept me as an atheist, I always felt so lost and lonely I never told my family that am a (lesbian) or the fact that I lost my virginity 3 years ago, they will definitely kill me, whatever I tried to kill myself, I hate myself. I feel like am a hypocrite who pretends to be someone else. Whatever...
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He Says He’s Incapable of Not Having Sex with His Ex: Is this Possible?

He was with his ex for 16 years. We have been together for 3 years. During our 3 year – long distance relationship – he has cheated on me with his ex multiple times, always honestly admitting it when caught/asked and promises not to do it again. He has ADHD, Bipolar (Just started on medication 4 months ago), has had cancer since he was a child. I left him and he is devastated. He...
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Please, Please Help with My Depression

From India: hello sir/mam, I am an engineering student, it all started from diploma final year, now I have completed my diploma. I was a very funny and enjoying person, I studied very well and scored good marks. When I was in the last year of diploma, that is in 6th sem, I failed in a subject due to overconfidence, and then after everything changed, my one year was wasted and I couldn’t join...
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Homicidal Ideation, No One to Turn To

I am a sophomore in high school, and since middle school I have had suicidal thoughts, and attempted about twice. But that is not the heart of my current issue. Last year, I started having homicidal thoughts as well. I have thoughts of planting a bomb in my school, or walking into my school or mall or church with a rifle and opening fire. I have no reason to want this, I am not...
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