Relationships Articles

I Want to Trust My Boyfriend But…

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Tuesday, August 5th, 2014
In the past I have been cheated on and watch family members cheat. I have experiences both being cheated on and watching family members do this multiple times. Right now I have started a relationship with someone I find myself falling for quite quickly and ...

Am I Making Too Much of What Happened to Me?

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Monday, August 4th, 2014
From India: There are a no. Of issues: 1. When I was a little girl, I was pretty cute and many guys took advantage of me, even my cousin used to slide his hands under my top. In a public place once a man slid ...

Turning My Relationship More Serious Made Me Lose Desire

By Holly Counts, Psy.D. on Monday, August 4th, 2014
Hello, and thank you for reading and answering my question! After more than two years of being single, I decided I needed more affection and physical attention and asked a male friend if we could try having a casual relationship (casual because I ...

Sexual Identity and God

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Sunday, August 3rd, 2014
I was raised in a Southern Baptist home. We had a very conservative family life. I was raised to believe being gay was/is wrong. I moved away and tried the "gay" lifestyle, it did not end well. I decided to be true to my family's ...

I’m Insecure about My Girlfriend’s Past Relationship

By Holly Counts, Psy.D. on Thursday, July 31st, 2014
I am in an almost 2 year relationship with my girlfriend. We have a great relationship that is based on a strong friendship, trust, and honesty. An issue that came up recently was something from my girlfriend's past. It's a long story, but ...

Suppression of Emotions Concerning My In-Laws

By Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW on Thursday, July 31st, 2014
I think my emotions are suppressed and its taking a toll on me and my relationship with my spouse. I can never say what I intend to say as the people around me do not accommodate that as I live with my in-laws. My privacy ...

My Long Distance Boyfriend has Gone Off the Grid

By Holly Counts, Psy.D. on Wednesday, July 30th, 2014
Hi, I'm early 50's, divorced 10 years, date often, and had a couple of long term relationships. I'm friends with my ex, have great adult kids, and figured that if "my forever guy" existed - someday I would run into ...

My Wife is Being Paranoid

By Holly Counts, Psy.D. on Tuesday, July 29th, 2014
Hello. I am having hard time with my wife, she has some serious diagnosed paranoia and chronic anxiety. She has started to be paranoid about anything I say, like nothing is ever true that I am telling ...

Do I Have a Personality Disorder?

By Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW on Tuesday, July 29th, 2014
I have a need for people to like me and a constant need for attention. I have lied to gain attention. Someone asked if I got off from being helpless and I'm wondering if he is right. I don't pay attention to other people's feelings ...

I am Hurt and Ashamed, and So Are My Parents and Sibling

By Holly Counts, Psy.D. on Monday, July 28th, 2014
My parents have always been ashamed of me because I married the man that they did not want me to marry. And after almost 20 years of my marriage, I ended up in a divorce. My parents' reaction was mixed -- they were ...

Am I Meant to Be with This Guy?

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Sunday, July 27th, 2014
From the U.S.: A possible symptom of BPD is expecting your SOs to just know what you want, like mind reading. Mine is really good at that. Having BPD, I don't know where I should draw the line in my mind, should I be accepting ...

Suspect My Partner Has a Personality Disorder

By Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW on Sunday, July 27th, 2014
I have a close friend, who became my lover about a year ago. Recently he cheated on me (had an affair with a colleague), and I was/am terribly hurt, as I was his absolute best friend. In addition, in the past few months he has ...