Ask the Therapist About Relationships

Repetition of Childhood Behavior

My husband was abused as a child. When things got bad he would runaway. He continues that same behavior as a grown adult. When there is any conflict, he leaves and will not come back until I apologize, regardless of any fault. He claims he will always do this. How do work through this? A: Thank you for your email. Your husband’s emotional reaction would indicate he is stuck emotionally with the only coping...
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16 and Unsure of Mental State

From Romania: I’m 16 and i live in romania. I’m not sure if i am depressed or bipolar. People have noticed i have mood swings often. I can go from happy to sad or frustrated for no reason. Essential to know is that I had a tough childhood not that bad but pretty abusive and i was a little bit anti social mainly because i was bullied. In other words, my life had fallen...
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Victim of a Sociopath

I have broken up with my ex girlfriend who I consider to be a sociopath through research I’ve done on the subject after she left. I found she has a criminal record and I’m talking to police about her illegal activity while we were together, both against me and others. The problem I’m having is I don’t feel the authorities are taking the matters seriously and I think it’s because I’m a male and...
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Is There Hope for a Better Future in My Relationship?

From the : After 5 years of unhappiness, is there hope for a better future in my relationship? My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years now. The first day we met, he and I had the opportunity to interact a lot and instantly sparked a deep connection with one another. That same night he stayed over and we kissed. The next two days were a repetition of the first day. On...
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Emotional/Verbal Abuse…and His Mother Makes it Worse!

My husband suffers from depression which manifests as anger, and he is emotionally/verbally abusive. I am trying to help him work through everything, but his mother is making it harder. When I talk to her about our problems, she says stuff like “Well, he just has a short temper like his father,” or “Well, he wouldn’t ever talk to me that #8221; Also, his parents are the main reason for his mental instability. It’s...
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Husband Asking about Past Now — 15 Years Later

After 15 years together, my husband is now asking me about my previous relationships. Why? When we began dating, we said the past is the past. Now he keeps asking questions about my past. About 2 months ago I found out he was texting a coworker — does this have something to do with it? A: Your intuition sounds right. It seems like he is looking for a reason to justify his texting. Don’t...
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I Want the Best of Both Worlds

From the : Hi. I have been in a relationship for years now with a great guy. He is the guy I want to marry. The thing is that I am not ready for marriage yet and I find myself wanting to live the single life, to experience life before I settle down. My current bf is my first serious relationship and I have nothing to compare it to. I also feel like...
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Fantasizing

I catch myself fantasizing about ways to hurt someone who hurt me. Who betrayed me. My cousin slept with my fiance, I trusted my married cousin I thought cousin had more respect. But I was fooled this has been almost 4 yrs ago and I am still angry. Why do I fantasize about this? A: Thanks for your email. Betrayal is one of the core elements we react to as human beings. This is...
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Overprotective Parents when My Age Is already 27

Hi, I’m 27 from Indonesia and moved to Malaysia since year 2000 with my mom and stepdad (Malaysian). All this while I’ve been very dependent on them due to my Visa problem, which is quite complicated. And they’ve been very worried and scared about my future if I can’t get a stable job here, cause seems like it is quite impossible for me to move back to Indonesia by myself. Due to that it...
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Will Getting Married Help with Transgender Identity

From Turkey: First, I want to thank you for providing this service for us suffering people. I have got transgender thoughts since early childhood and I have always dreamed of being female. Day by day I am getting worse and being male is no more tolerable. I have also got bipolar disorder since I am 25. I am afraid of getting married because of my transgender identity. Will these trans identity ease or completely...
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Anger Issues

My husband has depressive disorder, panic disorder, and anorexia. He is quite literally getting on my last nerve. I get angry if he walks into the room. He is seeing a therapist and psychiatrist and is medicated. I know that he has illnesses, but I am feeling less loving as the days go by. He asks so many questions about his weight, he is insecure and constantly asking about if I love him or...
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I Don’t Have Anyone to Talk To

From the : I’ll start from the beginning. I was an only child, adopted by an older couple, my parents were very strict, old fashioned and very hard on me, but I never felt abused. I had a lot of friends but no one close so I develop a custom. Whenever I was very sad or very angry I would lock myself in the bathroom and talk with myself in the mirror. The guy...
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