Ask the Therapist About Relationships

If He Recovers from Depression, Will We?

From the : A little over a month ago, my boyfriend decided he was no longer happy with me and broke off our four year relationship. He thought I didn’t trust him. He thought I wanted to keep him isolated. Lately, he parties more, eats less, doesn’t want to be around his friends or his family, has difficulty sleeping, and seems generally sad and/or angry. In the last week, I’ve tried letting him know...
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I Feel Embarrassed to Go Out and Meet New Friends

I’m taking Renax Alprazolam medicine and Risperdal Consta Risperdal injection. Doctor prescribed Renax half pill when needed for anxiety. But haven’t told him about having the phobia and panic attacks. The appointment is in one month from now. Is this Renax drug suitable also for phobias, social phobias and panic attack also? How much maximum pills i can take per day? Now i’m taking half pill of a whole pill that is...
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I Feel Trapped by Situation I Caused

From Finland: I am in 10 years committed relationship. I have had an affair for two years. Two years of lie and cheat to both sides. Can’t let go of one or the other one. Got the affair partner pregnant 3 months ago, as soon as I heard of it I ran away and cut almost all connections with her. Not because I don’t love her or not because I am afraid of being...
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How to Help Boyfriend Who Just Told Me He Was Molested Several Times As A Child

My boyfriend just told me that he was abused as a child by several different people. One of the predators was a family friend, one was a classmate, and one was a family member. He told me his parents were angry with him for not speaking up sooner and basically blamed him. He is a very sweet man and extremely overprotective of his little brother because one of his molesters threatened to do the...
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This Boy Is Obsessed with Me

From New Zealand: There’s this boy I met only last year like in December? We had a thing but that was it I had no further feelings for him but that didn’t stop him from stalking me and telling everyone that we go out. It may not sound like a big issue but to me it is. Its gotten to the point where he would call me on different phone numbers which I’ve blocked...
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Why Can’t My Boyfriend Let Go of My Past?

From the : I have been with my current boyfriend for about 2 years now. I had known him since freshman year and we always had a little crush on each other. However, I was on and off with an ex of mine for about two years. This ex of mine was very controlling and was very possessive of me and we would always break up but then get back together again. The longest...
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Uncertain about Love and Marriage

It has been around years since we were in relationship. The decision was the result of his persistent efforts to help me at working every situation (we were in the same college and office too). Though he is not good at looks, a silent type of guy(unlike me), I considered him for hope for his improved life because of me,his nice family(As he told) and his nature. In the beginning, things were awesome,...
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Past Promuscuity Guilt

From the : I’m a 20 year-old female, and in the past I was on the promiscuous side. My downfall started when I was 16, and was coerced into having sex with a 20-year-old guy I wasn’t even into. From there I had several more casual encounters. I acted like I wanted it, and was proud of “being a slut”, but to be honest I died a little on the inside every time. At...
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No Desire for Physical Contact of Any Kind

From the : Why don’t I feel any desire at all for physical contact with my boyfriend of 3 years? We are both divorced, in our 40’s, have kids from previous marriages, and are both Christians. We decided early on not to have sex, but after a month or so, we gave in. This lasted a few months, then we backed off. For a while (close to a year), things were fine–we acted like...
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Girlfriend Broke Up with Me Because I Can’t Trust

From the : In short, my ex wife cheated on me twice. Once while we dated and the last time while we were married. We divorced 4 years ago but I have trust and self esteem issues. I let these seep into my relationship with a wonderful woman and after a rocky few weeks and me telling her my gut was telling me something was not right and asking her if she was involved...
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Does Codependency Lead to Depersonalization?

From Norway: I recently discovered im codependent. I’ve recently broken up with my narcissistic ex after a 9 month relationship which as you would know, was not a pleasent experience on my behalf. I’m going to see a psychologist about this, but after reading posts on this side about it, i’d rather talk to you first. I find myself in situations where i can’t say no nor do what would be considered most beneficial...
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One Year Later & I Can’t Get Over My First Love

I was in a relationship for two years throughout high school. It was my first “real” relationship and I fell in love with him. I thought we were going to try to make it work through college even though it would be hard because we loved each other so much. However, he randomly broke up with me before the summer even started. He wouldn’t tell me why or what had gone so wrong. Naturally,...
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